Post # 1
I am looking for some help in wording some info for my Wedding Website. I am trying to be nice but this can be a difficult subject.
My fiance and I are getting married this May and we would have orginally preffered not to have children at our wedding considering I am not the biggest fan of kids, we don’t plan on having any, and I would probably go nuts on someone and their kid if they did anything to ruin my wedding. This can include crying during ceremony, running rampid at cermony or reception, stepping on my dress, destroying anything and doing anything at all to take the spotlight.
The problem is I do not have any choice in the matter because most of my close family has children. So not having children there is not an option. However I think what concerns me the most is parents not being in control of their children. It’s not like there is going to be a sea of children at the wedding, but the potential for chaos is really looming over me. I am not spending $18,000+ on my wedding to have it ruined by unruly children.
I was trying to figure out a nice way to word something like : The bride and Groom would appreciate if the guests could be respectful of their wishes for a quiet respectful ceremony, and controlled reception. We appreciate your cooperation. Thank you
Just asking if any other brides have any ideas on how to nicely word something like this I just want to give a reminder to the parents bringing their kids to keep the kiddies in check.
Post # 3
I don’t think you really can. I know some churches have “Cry Rooms” where parents of small children can sit and watch the ceremony through a window, perhaps look into this and see if your Church/ceremony venue offer anything like that.
Post # 4
@JustMarried51912: I don’t have much advice, but I think that statement is very polite, and not rude at all. However, if I read that I wouldn’t think “Okay, they want me to reign my children in.” I wouldn’t really know what you mean by it. If anything, I’d think you’re talking about over-indulging in alcohol or something like that.
Post # 5
If your guest list is small enough, you could try to pass the word along to guests with children without putting it on the website at all. You could just say something along the lines of “I just want to make sure everyone knows that there won’t be any activities for children or anything to keep them occupied.” They can take that to mean “leave them at home” or “be prepared to entertain/ control them all night.”
Post # 6
@MissBananaBread: That’s a really good suggestion.
Post # 7
I’m not having children at the ceremony either! We put something along the lines of “Due to the intimate nature of the ceremony, seating will be available for adults only. All welcome to the reception.”. No complaints yet! The ‘no kid’ suggestion came from my Fiance cousin who has 2 kids and just wants to enjoy the wedding without their kids.
Post # 8
I’m not sure how to word it exactly (what you’ve written above probably wouldn’t make me think you were talking about kids), but I just wanted to say that from my experience, many guests won’t ever look at your wedding website. If they do, they definitely won’t read every word of it.
If you’re really set on getting the word out… I think word of mouth or signs at the ceremony or something would probably be more successful than a statement on your website.
Post # 9
Thanks ladies those are some good ideas.
@bluebonnet: Those are great ideas I will have to look into some signs. Thanks
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I think word of mouth is a good option. Also, as a contingency (hopefully you don’t need it), perhaps you can talk to your close friends and family (mom, aunts, etc.) and have them be prepared so that if the day of the wedding they see any unattended children, they escort the child back to their parents. At least that way if it does happen, it gets addressed quickly without you having to scramble around
Post # 12
We are writing on our website ‘while children are more than welcome at our wedding, should your child become upset during the ceremony, we respectfully ask that you remove them to the foyer.’
We are providing some activities for the little ones during the reception, and there is only 1 child I’m worried about causing a scene, but I plan to tell Future Mother-In-Law to scoop that kid up and remove him if FI’s cousin won’t control her son.
Post # 13
The main problem for children is that weddings are boring. So what you could do is provide some entertainment for them during the service and reception. Maybe a creche room where there are loads of activities, professional childcarers to watch them and attend to their needs, their own table to eat at away from the main reception. You could write in your invitation something along the lines of this:
“This is a really special day for us, and we would love for you to be a part of it. We understand that weddings can be a long day for the kids so we will be providing a creche service so that your whole family can enjoy the day as much as we do.”
Post # 14
I think it’s fine. Perhaps if you change the word ‘controlled’ to ‘peaceful’ ….
Post # 15
Just included a clause you invites say that everyone is required to take a shot at the door????….I would so do that….is that tacky, cause actually after typing it I wanna do that. I mean if I wasn’t eloping, I would and the shots could match my wedding colors whic works because we could use appletinis. I’m freaking brilliant…….
Post # 16
As someone whose wedding vows were ruined by a screaming baby, I would have been clear on my invites that kids weren’t invited. I was lucky, my ex H’s parents paid for the wedding. If I had spent 18 thou and it had happened I would be even more livid than I still am when I think of it (10 years later).