Post # 1
I’m the Maid/Matron of Honor and I know that means I’m throwing the bridal shower for my best friend’s wedding in July, but I’m also planning and paying for my own wedding with my fiance in September. This only means that I’m torn on what I’m supposed to pay for in a bridal shower? We want to keep it simple and invite maybe 20 of her closest friends and family which I will host in my home, but I’m a little stressed because of the money situation. What do I do?
Post # 3
It’s not at all out of line to ask for some assistance from the other bridesmaids. In the past I have done most of the planning, and asked the bridesmaids to chip in maybe by providing a few bottles of champagne, bringing a piece of the food menu, organizing favors or games, etc… Its completely appropriate in my mind for them all to pitch in in some way and not just show up as a guest. I’ve never had anyone have a problem with doing so either. Enjoy!
Post # 4
You don’t have to throw the shower. I know you want to and it is really nice if a friend can throw one for you but if it is going to be a financial strain for you then I am sure your friend wouldn’t want you to do it out of obligation.
Post # 5
I suppose I could ask for help since I am hosting the event at my house. Maybe I’ll put the other girls in charge of the food and I’ll provide the place, decorations, and desserts?
Post # 6
I was in a bridal party where each bridesmaid was asked to spend $400 to accomodate all of her mother’s friends. Needless to say, 3 years later, I’m still angry about it.
It was really important for me that none of my BM’s had to shell out lots of money for my shower (which is this Sunday! Yay!)
My mother is paying for almost the entire thing and my MOH’s got the cake and decorations. Those costs are being split amongst the bridal party and should be small.
They picked the venue, decorations, food, etc. but ran everything through my mother, who then paid. It seems to have worked out well!
Post # 7
I think I’ll foot the bill for decorations and have the girls split the costs of food and drinks. It helps so much to get ideas from other bees. Sometimes I feel I think about it too hard and overlook the simple solutions.
By The Way, have a great time at your shower 🙂
Post # 8
@j_jaye: <- precisely. Host the shower you can afford.
Post # 9
@futuremrsojeda: Definitely, they can each spend 25 bucks to pitch in I’m sure! I usually end up doing brunch and making a huge breakfast casserole which cuts down on the amt of food needed and the cost. I can share the recipe of my breakfast casserole with you if you like! Just PM me your email address and I’ll send it over!
Post # 10
@futuremrsojeda: I think that’s very appropriate. Try online discount stores for discount decor. If the budget is very tight, maybe go with a theme that asks guests to bring a dish? Like a kitchen themed shower where each guest is asked to bring a favorite dish with the recipe written down to build a cookbook for the bride.