(Closed) whats going on with me ?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
586 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

After we were together for a little over 4 years I had the same problem while at college. We didn’t go to the same university so we would only talk on the phone. Both the Boyfriend or Best Friend and I were really stressed out since it was our last year in college and it was toward the end of the semester and we kept putting work before our relationship. Since the Boyfriend or Best Friend wouldn’t talk I would talk to my guy friend instead and I started getting too close to him. It helped to snap out of it when I truely thought what if me and the other guy were together and realized that we were not compatible at all and it was best if we were to just stay friends. 

We had a long talk about how it felt we weren’t there for eachother anymore and how we don’t seem to talk anymore. To fix it we would have “date night” over skype and play games on the internet like yahoo games and would talk more often and longer. It was difficult at first but in the end our relationship became even stronger.  

Just let him know how you feel about your relationship and how you want to feel close again. Maybe go out and do stuff you did when you first started dating or find something new to do that you both like. Make time to talk to one another and maybe you will reconnect.

Post # 5
1333 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

What do you do?! 

1) Give yourself time to grow more.  Focus on your independance.  Focus on WHAT YOU WANT in life.  Being dependant on people – parents/SO’s whomever is tough to break from, but it is super important. 

2) End your current relationship.  Although, for some/many they have found their ‘forevers’ by the age of 21, others/many would tell you that it took them years longer to figure out who was right for them. 

3) If you end it, then leave your ‘other’ guy friend alone. He IS IN a relationship, and I am guessing he shares a common friendship with you and your SO.  NOT ok. 

4) If you choose to stay, then I think it is important to note that all relationships ebb and flow.  The excitement ends at some point.  However, the ‘right’ one will thrill you in other ways – intellectually, emotionally, passionately – always.  There will always be ‘other’ men out there you will find attractive, but being in a mature relationship means you would never take it further. 

You have a lot of life to live, and maybe since you stated you have never had guy friends, and now that you do, and you r attracted to some of them makes me kind of believe that there is more out there for you.

Post # 6
1595 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@scarlette:  my advice is to go out and explore, now is the time to do it! It is one thing if you were dependent on him and had a family and other adult commitments, but now is the time to just have fun and experiment with other people, especially if you are feeling this way. Trust me, it will be worth it in the long run!

Whatever is meant to be in life, will be and if you are meant to be with him it will happen.

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