Post # 1
so basically me n bf have been together 5 1/2 years lived together for nearly 2. but sex seem to have gone out the window and i dont know why. He used to have a high sex drive, every day, but now its more like 3 times in a month 🙁 !!!! what can i do to make him want me again ? i ask him about it and all i get is that we have now lived together for a while and its just what happens :/ i even tried wearing cute sexy nightie last night and he wasnt eve interested 🙁
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
Are there other stressors that could be impacting this?
All relationships go through cycles– but that doesn’t mean you have to stay there!
I’d reccomend shaking things up, get a new toy, or plan a romantic weekend get-away. Also, simpler things, like initiating it somewhere other than the bedroom, sending him texts/e-mails that are suggestive (don’t have to be “dirty” just implying it) or leaving “naughty” things for him to find (like a new piece of lingerie for you wrapped up like a gift on the front seat of his car, with a note saying it’s for “later”).
Instead of trying to “put him on the spot” and risk getting turned down– focus on making it new and exciting again by building that anticipation. Now that you live together, there’s not much question– he can have it if he wants it… You just have to remind him that he wants it.
Post # 4
Sounds like your guy has found “The Rut”
Men love the rut, it’s predictable, it’s comfortable and boy is it easy to maintain! You gotta shake that boy right outta that rut before he breaks an axel! Bedroom is off limits for any nocturnal activity, jump him in the kitchen, right when he comes in the door, the laudry room, anywhere there aren’t pillows…add a little mystique to your presence and be just a little busy the next couple of weeks, he’ll miss you more than he’d like to admit and finally take a page from our French sisters and tell yourself it’s not you…it’s him. Confidence is the ultimate attractant.
Post # 6
thanks for the advice guys, i supose i am very quiet when it comes to the bedroom antics. I wouldnt knw how to go about making it all exciting again without seeming realy silly if you get me ?? i wear nice underwear but thats about it lol supose i need to sort myself out too lol just need to find someway of making it new and exciting which i feel comfortable doing. As we are young and hes been my only bf ive never done anything like this before lol