Post # 17
Because the first comment didnt agree with her, it must be proving her opinion? Your reactions are perfect examples of my point.
people read words differently. What some see as straightforward observation, others take as personal attacks or snarky.
My personal opinion is that if you get personally upset by something an anonymous stranger writes online, you need to take a deep breath and move on to something else.
These “what happened to the Bee” posts come up every few months.
Post # 18
My theory on the latest rash of unpleasantness out here:
we’re coming up on major wedding season. a lot of bees have their panties in a bunch just with the stress of their upcoming wedding.
Post # 19
Yes, I see it! I joined the Bee last year, and lurked before that. The Bee used to be a lot more inviting. Now it seems like people look for a reason to call you out on something or pick a petty fight. There’s a difference between giving constructive advice and attacking someone, and there is no justification for the latter. We should all be supportive.
I keep telling myself that these posters are just “on edge” because they are planning a wedding. Best to stay positive! ;P
Post # 20
Yes, I did not find your original post harsh at all. It’s probably because we do see these sorts of threads about once a month, and obviously it hasn’t changed the way the Bee works.
This really is a happy place if you make it so. Avoid threads that stir up trouble, and then things are swell!
Post # 21
@krayzay87: I definitely see what you’re saying. I was looking on this site for a good year or two before I got engaged and joined and I have noticed a pretty big change. People don’t seem to see the difference between constructive criticism and just plain rudeness. There are so many times that I read a blatantly rude comment on something that is so uncalled for. I typically won’t follow those threads or just leave it. Its funny what people will say whe they are behind a computer but it is what it is….
Post # 22
a simple “look at my e-ring!” threads turn nasty quickly with certain bees going out of their to call it “tacky” because it isn’t in their tastes and they wouldn’t wear it. that’s just spiteful and counterproductive in my opinion.
Post # 23
It wasnt you disagreeing with her, it was was your comment “This is not a utopia of sunshine and unicorns, it’s the Internet. Proceed accordingly.” Like seriously? Not necessary. If you read my post I clearly stated that if an opinion is asked for then that is one thing, but to be rude for no reason is a different story. If your comment wasnt meant that way then my apologies, but apparently I am not the only one that took it that way.
Post # 24
I think majority of the bees are quite nice and helpful. Once in a while there’s unnecessary rudeness which is unfortunate, and sometimes Bees will dish out harsh doses of reality to posters. For the most part, though, I think the Bees are friendly. And I think it depends on the threads you look at – for example political threads will get a lot more heated than dress threads.
Post # 26
my comment was not intended to be sarcastic. People forget that this is an open forum to the world. Literally anyone can see what is written and can participate in dialogues. I’ve even seen posts from girls who have posted pictures of themselves in this site and then seen their pictures used in other ways on other sites. And I’m sure we’re all familiar with trolls.
So, I quite literally mean,, this is not a utopia of harmless people and lovely things, it’s the Internet. Proceed accordingly.
Post # 28
- Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia
I feel like that too… It’s almost like a popularity contest, eh?
Post # 29
@krayzay87: You weren’t wrong at all for coming here for support. I did, as well. I have received loads of support here but there’s always going to be someone needier who will try to use negativity to try to draw attention to themselves. It’s like that in a lot of discussion groups on the internet these days. I have noticed it getting a bit worse on here lately. I try to ignore it. Most of people that are rude are doing it for attention or because of some other stress in their life and they’re taking it out on whoever they can. Just be glad you’re not them.
Post # 30
hahaha perfect 🙂 love that movie lol
Post # 31
That’s what it feels like! :-/