Post # 92
I haven’t noticed much outright meanness (yet!), but I do think many posters come across as know-it-alls. In one thread I started, the main responder was perfunctory to the point of being insulting, although I honestly doubt she meant to be hurtful. The bigger issue I’ve seen is OPs getting insulted when advice/opinions differs from what they were expecting. The way I see it, if you’re asking for advice, you have to be ready to accept the agreements and the disagreements, right? It’s easy during the wedding planning process to get more than a little self-absorbed, so I like to view some of the more heated debates as a reality check 😉
ETA: while I’m a recent member, I’m a LONG-time lurker…first found WB when searching for advice about Maid/Matron of Honor duties years ago, and kept reading for the great party ideas as well as overall honesty and helpfulness of the blogger Bees and commenters.
Post # 93
One man’s kind yet honest response is another man’s brutal honesty. People vary, and people’s reactions to honesty vary as well.
omg yessss… some people really do need a swift kick in the behind. Many times I can’t even comment on threads like that because there is NO way I could phrase my comment to be even remotely helpful. There are SO MANY threads where the only thing I can say is “make better life choices” and that’s, uh, not going to be taken well.
I have been on the receiving end of brutal honesty here. Did it make me feel good? No. Was it right? Absolutely. And I realized that and it helped me fix a problem I had with my wedding. I don’t think help needs to be couched in rainbows and butterflies to be useful. And this forum is supposed to be useful and helpful, not merely full of yes-men making everyone feel good about everything. Sometimes you need to feel bad in order to realize you were wrong and grow and learn and become a better person. And that is okay. And it’s okay for people to be the bearers of that news.
Post # 95
If someone thinks that the Bee is a negative community, I would assume that person haven’t been on forums much. This is one of the most positive communities that I’ve been surfing since AOL was a big deal. Everything isn’t going be to rainbow and sunshine on the internets. What kind of boring world would that be.
Post # 96
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
Hi there! I think we can all agree that just like most other places in life, Weddingbee goes through cycles; sometimes the negativity comes out more than at others.
If you happen to see a thread or comment that you think violates the Terms of Service or that is not in line with our community guidelines, you can help keep our community the positive place we know it as by flagging it for the moderators to review.
Or better yet, start a positive thread to help change the mood on the boards! We all love Weddingbee because of what a supportive and encouraging place this is, so let’s work together to balance out the negative when we see it.
That being said, I think this thread has run its course and I’m going to close it so we can all focus on the fun of wedding planning, etc.