Post # 1
I know there are other homeowner bees out there, and I wonder if anyone else thinks buying a house was waaaaay more stressful than wedding planning? My fiance and I bought our home, a foreclosure, two years ago, and it was such a difficult and challenging time. I couldn’t believe it when we actually got through it, and got to move into our home. I knew if we could get through that stress together, we could get through anything.
Planning our wedding really has been sunshine and rainbows, haha. Everything has been fairly easy, and not too difficult. I’m sure a lot of that has to do with our family dynamic, and the fact that our families are really supportive. I keep waiting to have something really get me worked up, but so far, everything wedding wise has been awesome!
Anyone else finding wedding planning easy after buying a home? Or is wedding planning really making you crazy?!
Post # 3
Oh definitely – buying a house is much more stressful. I always thought buying a house would be so fun and exciting and its so not! Its fun and exciting after all the stress is over but the process? Ugh.
Post # 4
Buying a dumb house while planning a stupid wedding! Ha. I love both (sort of…not so fond of the whole wedding thing, I JUST WANT TO BE MARRIED), but doing both at the same time…overload. Our house inspection is today…fingers crossed it goes ok!
Post # 5
I’m still planning my wedding, but we purchased a house last year. To me purchasing the house was fairly easy. The actual purchase was. Finding the right house was a little stressful, but worked itself out.
To me, the wedding planning is harder. But only because it’s hard for us to justify spending this much money on a wedding day. Our budget is around $9k, and my FH still thinks thats an absurd amount of money and we argue about it at least once a week. Whereas the house was a forever (kinda) investment. I guess what I’m trying to say is that wedding planning was/is harder for me because my FH thinks it’s frivolous.
Post # 6
We didn’t have any stress buying our house apart from anticipation while waiting to find out if they accepted our offer. Our buyer’s agent was AMAZING though, such a nice guy and totally willing to work through every little detail with us first time home buyers. When we move, we will definitely work with him again.
We were very flexible in what we wanted though (didn’t care what neighborhood it was in – as long as it was safe of course – and we really work looking for a small starter home) so that may be why things went so smoothly.
I wouldn’t say that planning a wedding has been more stressful though, just a lot more work!
Post # 7
Searching for the perfect house was 10x harder than planning a wedding!
Post # 8
@MissTatas: good luck with the inspection! at ours they found some mold on the drywall under the kitchen sink, and I was soo worried… then I found out it was going to cost less than $50 to fix. 🙂
@AnneTossy: i can see your FI’s perspective… because a wedding can often be over the top frivilousness. maybe that’s why i have such an easy going attitude about ours, since it’s not really important. well, the getting married part is important. the fun party with all the pretties is just extra goodness. good luck with your planning.. i hope your Fiance comprises with you a little bit so you can both be happy with your wedding!
@MandaMack: having a good agent is sooo important. ours was great, too, but we bought a foreclosure during the first week of the financial crisis in the summer of ’08. finding the house was hard, but securing the loan was awful, even with putting over 30% downpayment.
Post # 9
We bought our house about a year ago, and while that was stressful, it wasn’t even a quarter of what we had to deal with for our wedding! I’d take the home buying any day over the wedding planning!
Post # 10
Finding and buying a house (never mind painting, remodeling, moving, unpacking…) is WAY worse. I am just glad that we did not have to do it at the same time. We refianced the week before our wedding, and that was seriously the stupidest decision I have ever made – so stressful!
Post # 11
i think finding and buying a house is way harder than planning a wedding. Wedding planning is stressful, but nothing in comparison to finding our home.
We would go see a home and by the morning when we’d planned to put an offer, it would be already sold. Or we’d get into ridiculous bidding wars with five or seven other buyers offering way more than the house is worth.
luckily we were house hunting before we were engaged, but the night we finally bought our house was the night we got engaged, so the stress never really stopped! We were married six months later, so wedding planning was stressful due to the time constraints.
Post # 12
@MandaMack: I agree!
Buying a house for us seemed to be less stressful, everything just fell right into place. Wedding planning seems to have too many details!
Post # 13
planning a wedding! i actually really enjoyed buying a house. parts of it were stressful but overall i liked it. of course it was 3 weeks from the first time we looked at a house until we signed a contract, and less than 6 weeks after that we moved in…. so i guess i might be skewed…
Post # 14
@MissTatas: i totally agree with you on the whole wedding thing. I don’t care how or where it happens I just want to be married already!!! too bad my SO is extremely traditional so he’s kind of a groomzilla lol
While buying our first house, I actually wasn’t stressed out at all. Keep in mind this was years ago when we were in our early twenty’s and it was definetly a “fixer-upper” and i think the market was alot different back then.
Post # 15
I haven’t bought a house yet but considering what I know about it and the fact that I found wedding planning to be relatively easy as a whole – I’d have to guess that buying a house will definitely be harder when the time comes!
Post # 16
Buying a house, handsdown!
With the wedding we had definites – the date, the venue, etc.
With house buying (which we are still doing, ugh), it feels like there are no definites. We see a house we like, but then someone snatches it before we have a chance. Or we put in a bid and we lose. Or (true story) we put in a bid, win it, and then owner changes his mind!!! Argh!!!
A wedding is one day. But a house is for at least a few years, so I’d say there’s way more pressure.