(Closed) What’s important in a Catholic wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

How about Communion?  It’s really the whole point of Catholic masses.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

If he wasnt raised Catholic or doesnt know any of the traditions then what is the point of including any? And please do not receive communion if you are not Catholic and not in the proper state to receive. That is definately NOT Catholic tradition and a horrible sin. Sorry, dont mean to preach, but I am traditional Catholic and will be having a Mass for my wedding. I think if Catholisism is of no significance to either of you it is not neccesary to incorporate any Catholic traditions.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

communion would have to be in a church…the catholic part of my wedding has turned out to be the most stressful part since our priest (my fiances teacher from his catholic school days) said that he could only officiate inside a catholic church and not all churches are open to non-parishoners…but its important to us so it will be worth it!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

How about playing some of those beautiful old church songs, like Jesu, Joy of Man’s Desiring or Ave Maria during the ceremony? (Seriously, what’s more Catholic than Ave Maria?)  If you go with an instrumental version of those songs, people familiar with the Catholic Church will recognize them and be a little more at ease during a Jewish ceremony, but those who aren’t in the know won’t know the difference.

One other idea– there are lots of Catholic traditions that are regionally connected. For example, in Mexican Catholic wedding ceremonies, there’s a part where the couple kneels and is encircled with a giant rosary. (This part is called el lazo.) It symbolizes the couple uniting as one. Maybe you could do the same with a rope or beautiful string of beads and have some sort of prayer about the unity of the new couple. Just look for wedding traditions in regions/countries that are predominantly Catholic– chances are the traditions are Catholic ones. You might find one you like that can be adapted to what works for you as a couple.   

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Ooo, this a toughie.  It’s hard to say what Catholic traditions can be included in a non-Catholic wedding.  Most of the traditions are tied closely to the readings and the actual Mass.  As far as Communion, this I can say is a big no go unless there is a Mass.

What culture/ethnicity is your FI?  I only ask because some cultures have special variations included within the Mass itself.  I’m Filipino and we have the veil and cord traditions which is more cultural than it is religious.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House

I agree that some traditional hymns would be a good way to go.  Could you also consider a reading that’s more traditionally included in a Catholic mass?

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

sorry i just had to giggle about Communion – as it is essentially the most distinguishing difference between Jewish and Catholic faiths. Yeah, definitely going to say no on the accord, especially if your guests have not received the sacrament of Holy Communion (they may not know the difference).

I would suggest a hymn or a reading. Presenting flowers to the Blessed Mother may be another option. Another idea is being sure to do prayer intentions.

This is kind of tough because unlike Judaism, Catholic is much more religious focused and very less cultural (I know people who are Jewish more on a cultural level and not a religious level but I don’t think I know any Catholics who are Catholic on a cultural level – does that make sense?)

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

What about the lighting of the unity candle?  Or is this done in the Jewish faith as well?  If you did this, traditionally Ave Maria is played – very beautiful song.  Just a suggestion.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I would also suggest a reading that is ‘typical’ at Catholic wedding ceremonies – maybe the love is patient one – that is one of my favorites.  1 Corinthians 13:4-13

 

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Hmmm, maybe you could include one of the cores beliefs of Catholicism?  Like in Catholicism one of the most important understandings is the sense of community and the connection humans have to one another and to God.  So you could have a prayer or brief reading about the importance of a strong sense of community and how that support will strengthen your marriage. 

Also, one of my favorite parts of our ceremony was the nuptial blessing.  After we were married, the priest prayed over us, and it was a really special moment.  ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Or maybe you could carry a rosary, or have one entwined in your bouquet?  I think it would be especially meaningful if you could borrow one from a friend or family member.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I like Mrs. Spring’s rosary idea.  Good one.

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My favorite part of Catholic mass is the sign of the peace.  For the non-Catholics out there, the priest gives the congregation a chance to shake hands, kiss, hug, or whatever with their neighbors, while usually saying “Peace be with you.”

I especially love it at weddings because it gives the bride and groom a chance to greet their  bridal party, families, etc. sitting in the front pews.  I’m getting teary eyed thinking of doing that at my own wedding ๐Ÿ™‚

Anyway, you could have the rabbi explain the tradition or something.  It’s definitely not religious and is a very nice gesture.  Not sure if that already exists in Jewish weddings but it’s worth a shot!

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