Post # 1
A parent recently told me that I am “childless and not childfree” because children are not a burden.
I told him that I am free to define myself as I see fit and it was ignorant of her to force him beliefs on others. The man was quiet after that.
What do you think of the difference between the terms “childless” and “childfree”? Is the term “childfree” offensive?
Post # 2
Hmm why do all the bees seem to maintain relationships with people who say wild rude statements?
Honestly, “childfree” and “childless” are the same thing.
Post # 3
mrsautumn36 : I honestly cannot believe that someone would say that to anyone. Get. Better. Friends.
Post # 4
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I could see how some people might get offended by “childfree.” It’s a silly thing to get offended over, but it sort of carries the implication that your life is better/easier than someone’s who has kids. I don’t think it’s worth speaking up about to people, but I get why people might feel condescended by it.
Post # 5
I’m a parent and I couldn’t care less. I by no means find “childfree” offensive. The guy you were talking to sounds like a tool. 🙄
Post # 6
mrsautumn36 : as someone who loves her son but spent the hour of 2 awake trying to figure out why he wouldn’t stop crying… you are child free. I am exhausted today. Lol. People get uptight about the silliest things. A child can absolutely be a burden no matter how much a person wants them. It doesn’t mean it’s not additional work in their life somehow.
I’d roll my eyes as hard at that woman as I do at the ‘front hole’ concept. Changing standard terms is so silly to me.
Post # 7
childless sounds like someone who tried for children and was not able to have them.
childfree sounds like someone who chose not to have children.
but tomato, tomato (i guess typed out they are still spelled the same) , everyone is entitled to their opinions. we can ignore it and move on. and it sounds like you voiced your opinion back and he had no response.
Post # 8
I assume “childfree” means you don’t have children on purpose because you don’t want them. “Childless” to me means you DO want them but it hasn’t happened yet. I might be overthinking it though.
Post # 9
zzar45 : somathemagical :
I didn’t say that the man was my friend though.
He was some random that I met during a dinner party.
Post # 10
For those who think there is no difference between childfree and childless, go tell an infertile person that they’re childfree and report back.
Post # 11
Your viewpoint is refreshing and very intelligent.
We can love our choices even if they are burdensome at times.
Post # 13
The denotation is the same. One word (“childfree”) has positive connotations and the other (“childless”) negative. I think it’s healthy that you see your situation positively, and I think the guy who commented was talking about something that’s none of his business.
Post # 14
I do think they are slightly different terms, with slight different meanings.
“free” to me means that you didnt/dont want them. More like, free from lol. Childless sounds like you’re pining away in front of a window, wishing you had children.
Post # 15
mrsautumn36 : I see. Well I think he’s an ass and that’s a totally outrageous thing to say to a virtual stranger! I’m sorry you had that interaction.