(Closed) What's more important? Need major advice.

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Where should I have the ceremony?
    Sentimental, adorable church : (61 votes)
    69 %
    Beautiful garden at our venue : (27 votes)
    31 %
  • Post # 3
    7173 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Definitely have it at the church!

    That’s were it sounds like you want it and that’s where you should make it work!



    There’s no rule your bridal party has to stand up with you (what about having them sit in the front pews behind the your immediate family)?  You could also just have your Maid/Matron of Honor and the Bridesmaid or Best Man stand and have the rest sit, if it’s super tight.




    And, as for your mom’s view… what about having guests remain seated as you walk down the aisle?  




    Post # 5
    1159 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think church. I really enjoy when a couple gets married at a location that means something to them. It adds to it all.

    I have the same problem. My childhood temple holds about 30 people and i’m inviting 200. We set up a marquee outside to hold the wedding there.


    Post # 6
    463 posts
    Helper bee

    I’d like to agree with PPs and tell you to have it at the church, but your guests will not physically fit into it! So no. No way. Seriously, what would the “extra” people do? If you want them there, you gotta make room for them.

    Post # 7
    7173 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    @sarahbeth_:  We did that and before the procession, the pastor did a general greeting and the last thing he said was something like:  at the request of the bride, please remain seated when she enters.

    Post # 8
    62 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    My aunt got married in a tiny itty-bitty church that barely had room for the immediate families.   It was a small wedding, so there was enough room for people who didn’t get a seat to stand at the back/in the doorway.  The ceremony was only ~15 minutes, so guests weren’t just standing for hours on end.


    I say go with what you want.  And keep in mind that your guest list won’t be the final tally for the wedding, kids (if invited) can sit on laps, etc.

    Post # 9
    1022 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @sarahbeth_:  church!  make 2 guests lists, one for everything and one for reception only. that’s what I had to do and it’s worked out fine.

    Post # 10
    2295 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    You have 140 on your list… how many do you actually expect to come?

    If you think anywhere close to 140 will come – I’ll be the dissenter – I don’t think you should hold it at a venue that is under capacity by 40%. It’s one thing to have it a little cramped, that is just a mess.

    If you think you’re only going to get a 70% acceptance rate, then yes, have it at the church. But I wouldn’t do it if you think you’re going to be over capacity.

    Post # 13
    182 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I just had to comment that my name is Sarah Beth πŸ™‚

    Post # 15
    7173 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    @sarahbeth_:  I had seen it done at a wedding a few months prior to mind and I stole the idea because I thought it was brilliant!  I’ve never liked trying to see the bride while standing…. and, while I don’t know if anyone thought it was weird, everyone complied.  I’m pretty sure I got positive comments from a visability perspective.  My hidden motive was wanting to zone in on Darling Husband as soon as I entered. πŸ™‚

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