(Closed) What's so wrong with "Adults Only", anyway?

posted 6 years ago in Travel
  • poll: do you agree with Adults Only areas of public things such as pools or restaurants?
    Yes!! I wish many places had Adults Only areas. Kids don't belong every where adults do : (143 votes)
    43 %
    No, children should be welcome anytime, anywhere, regardless of if other adults want to relax : (5 votes)
    1 %
    It depends, and I can see how Adults Only areas would be offensive to some : (59 votes)
    18 %
    I have children and would LOVE Adults Only areas : (21 votes)
    6 %
    I have children and Adults Only areas would be highly offensive to me, even w/o my kids there : (2 votes)
    1 %
    I have no children and would LOVE Adults Only areas : (95 votes)
    28 %
    I have no children and Adults Only areas would be highly offensive to me anyway : (7 votes)
    2 %
    Other! : (3 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
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    4355 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    While I typically don’t mind kids I can see that some people want to go out to eat at a restaurant and not be near children (or like you said, enjoy a private pool area). Some are well behaved but MANY are not, and that’s super distracting.

    This is coming from someone who loves and wants many kids. Doesn’t mean when I get to go out for a nice dinner with Fiance (which doesn’t happen too often) that I want to deal with annoying kids.

    The other issue I have is with children in very adult settings such as an open bar wedding. This is why we aren’t having children. Adults will be drinking (some, a lot!) and it’s not only not appropriate for kids but it could be dangerous because clearly everyone’s priority is not to supervise the kids.

    Plus there is the other side, those who don’t want, and don’t like children at all. Why can’t they enjoy things they pay for as well.

    I’m with ya!

    Post # 5
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    9648 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    I don’t have children,  but will definitely want to have them one day. I don’t like the idea of Adults Only pool areas and restaurant areas. Children should be welcome there too. However I do agree that adults need to relax so there should be rules enforced in those areas for children to behave

    Post # 7
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    9648 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    Because children are people too, parents can make the decision to leave them at home, but it should be a choice not enforced as a rule. And spas usually have the people receiving treatment alone in the massage room for example, in those cases if parents choose to take children there could be a person there looking after children or they could go into the room with their parents. But of course adults do want to get away and in which case they could choose to leave children at home.

    Post # 8
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    1854 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @MrsDrRose612:  

    I love adults only areas and I’m a parent. I need my kid-free time and when I’m in relax mode I really don’t want to hear a toddler talking 1000 miles an hour about pokemon. I need a break from that.

    That being said, places that are catered to families like standard restraunts, various resorts of high and low calibur, aren’t going to have adult only options because that’s not their target demographic. It just depends on where you are and what the target demographic they cater to is. The “Adults Only” resorts cater to just that-adults. Red Robin’s is going to be different then Flemings.

     

    If you live in suburbia by a good school and surrounded my families, you’re going to have a bunch of rowdy kids at the pool becasue that why they built it- for the families to enjoy together.

    If you lived in an a mainly adults area where only you have children, then I’d say that’s not the place at all for a watergun fight-take that to the back yard.

    I think there are lots of adults ony places (at least in my town) and I think that’s good. If I went into my local tea house(a popular adult crowd hangout) with my toddler who was singing elmo songs that’s crazy and not ok. Asking why is kind of like me asking why I need to be quiet in a Libaray and where was the “Yelling Section”

    I’d be offended if someone came up to me in Red Robin and asked me to tell my son to stop singing becasue it was ruining their mood though. It’s a family restraunt. If you want an adult area, go find an adult restraunt

     

     

     

    Post # 9
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    996 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    My gym is adults only and it’s so awesome not having to share the pool or jacuzzi with children–I’m upgrading to an even better gym but children are allowed…but they have a family locker room for them, and 2 indoor pools, one adults only–2 jacuzzis, one adults only, and 3 outdoor pools, 1 adults only. So that’s nice. But still, even though I eventually want to have kids I have no intention of bringing them out to certain places before they’re old enough to control themselves. Like the 10pm showing of a rated R movie. Or a nice restaurant on a Saturday night.

    Post # 10
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    996 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @Jacqui90:  wait a minute….so now spas have to hire someone to watch your child while you get a massage?? Aren’t spa owners people too? Who don’t run a daycare service??

     

    And are you seriously suggesting that a masseuse should try to give a nice relaxing massage while a baby or toddler is screaming? Those walls aren’t soundproof, it WILL disrupt someone else’s massage–that they spent a lot of $ on to treat themselves to

    Post # 11
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    1854 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @sylvia.riggle:  i think she ment the person recieving treatment should bring someone to watch the child at the massage parlour?

    Post # 12
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    1670 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I love children, but I’m in full support of adults only areas. Sometimes, you want to have a quiet time away without someone’s screaming kid. SO and I always pick adult only resorts or bed and breakfasts when we can. We both love and want children, but you can’t trust other people to wrangle their own kids. Hell, when I have kids, and want to have a romantic night out, you bet I’ll be looking into anything that WON’T have children!

    Also, I grew up with my parents who took many vacations without us, and got babysitters for weddings even if we were invited when we were small. Their time away from being parents and being JUST a couple strenghtened their relationship and they are, to this day, one of them most in love couples I have ever seen. They had a date night once a week where they dressed up, went out, and were not allowed to talk about children. Again… fabulous.

    I did not feel neglected, and I don’t feel like my parents should have dragged us absolutely everywhere. Just because you CAN bring a kid doesn’t mean you should.

     

    Post # 13
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    996 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @MissFireFlower:  But where? Where could the child be watched where it wouldn’t disturb other people at the spa? I don’t go to a spa to hear babies screaming, if I walked in to that, I would cancel my appointment immediately and go elsewhere

    Post # 14
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    5096 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I don’t have children. But I view children as other human beings who are a part of society. In some circumstances, like weddings or resorts, it’s perfectly fine to invite whoever you want, and if that doesn’t include kids, I have no problem with that. But in general places of public accommodation, I find the impulse to segregate them to be problematic.

    I mean, something like a public pool – if they can’t run and splash and jump and shriek at a community pool, where in the world can they do it? That’s what outdoor play is FOR.

    To me, this impulse comes across as entitled – an entire segment of society should be kept out of sight, just because I don’t like them? Really?

    Post # 15
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    996 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @CaroBee:  My parents used to go on vacations without us all the time! Cancun, Punta Cana, Puerto Rico, Europe several times, Hawaii a few times, Vegas, multiple cruises.

     

    And we all went to Disney World and visited family across the country as well.

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