Post # 227
I think it depends largely on your region and social circles. It’s not acceptable at all to ask guests to pay for their drinks where I’m from and people drink at weddings. Providing beer and wine would be acceptable, though.
Post # 228
I think it’s rude to ask your guest, who paid to come to your wedding and paid for a gift, to have to pay for drinks. If you’re concerned about costs, there are cheaper ways of going around it like offering a signature drink or just wine and beer.
Post # 229
We will be providing some sort of alcohol (unfortunately our venue doesn’t provide kegs, so we are working out exactly what we want to do since a complete open bar would cost more than our honeymoon), but I personally am not offended by a cash bar. I don’t carry cash on me, but I always carry a wallet and can take out cash…I guess I never expect an open bar. That being said, i agree with PPs that it just depends on your social circle. While it’s offensive to some, it’s the norm to others. One isn’t right and one isn’t wrong. I would guess that if most bees could afford an open bar, they would…it’s just not always an economical option. i speak for myself when I say that I would rather attend a wedding with a cash bar, then attend one without just because the couple couldn’t afford to buy my drinks.
Post # 230
@Juliepants: If you can’t afford to host a party, then don’t have one, or invite fewer people.
LOLLLLLL I cannot imagine telling people I couldn’t invite them because I needed to afford an open bar for the guests I did invite. That just seems redonk to me.
Post # 231
It’s defnitely a regional thing. I’ve been to lotsss of weddings and have only been to ONE open bar. And let me tell you…that turned into a shit show! With free, GOOD liquor everyone just got plastered! I think it took me 3 days to recover! Haha!!
Post # 232
Well, you and I obviously have different priorities, because I
can’t imagine inviting guests to a party and then asking them to pay money
to have me host them
. It would be…..redonk. Like I said, our guests’ comfort was a primary concern.
I believe that there are many other ways to cut back and spend less (while still being a gracious hostess) and nearly ALL of them are more appealing to me than asking guests to basically pay for part of their meal.
No big deal – we’ll do things our way and other people can do things their way! 🙂
Post # 233
In my opinion, when you throw a party you’re expected to wine and dine your guests, not the other way around.