Post # 1
My boyfriend and I have talked about getting married for months, all because his cousin got engaged. Then in June we found a ring we both liked so he bought it and it went away to be resized. It finally came back 2 weeks ago and I tried it on and it’s beautiful but now there’s a problem. He won’t propose. I’ve tried everything, including proposing myself and making jokes but he says he has a plan and I have to wait. In the meantime, I’ve already booked the reception venue to get the only free slot in 2012, booked the church and even got my dress (80% off in the sale). I want to send out save the dates but until I’ve got my ring on my finger I feel like a fraud! Every time I tell someone I’m getting married they look for a ring on my finger or ask ‘how did it all happen’ but NOTHING has happened.
Is this normal? Do other people do it this way round? In a way I’m regretting booking it all now, thinking I should have waited for the 2013 wedding.
Post # 3
Did your Boyfriend or Best Friend say he would be ready by that time next year? Because he may be thinking about proposing around the holidays or at midnight on new years eve/dayor maybe even later. Some guys like to do it on a holiday so it makes it extra special (my Darling Husband proposed on Christmas). I would say lay off the wedding talk for awhile and see what he does. It will be hard but sometiomes they just need a little space. If you keep expecting it then where is the surprise in that? It needs to be fun and special for the guy too. Just relax. He has the ring so you know he will propose. Just give him the time he needs.
Post # 4
I’m assuming your boyfriend knows you’ve booked all this stuff? If not, I’d probably discuss it with him because like the previous post said, he may be waiting for a special day (holiday, anniversary, birthday, etc.).
Post # 5
If you know he’s got the ring and is going to propose, I see no reason you can’t plan ahead. 🙂 Maybe he wants to surprise you.
Post # 6
I completely understand how you feel. My SO has had the ring for 3 weeks and I think I’m still going to be waiting awhile. I’m praying it happens before my friend gets married at the end of October. I feel like I can’t do any planning what so ever (besides online looking of course) because I don’t have that ring. I don’t know that it’s normal but I wanted to let you know you aren’t the only bee going through this.
Post # 7
well you’re much further ahead than I am! 🙂 I’m sure that he will propose soon but wants to make it extra special. Even if it’s hard maybe you can try and give him a little more time? I’m sure whatever he has planned it’ll be great, bets of luck 🙂
Post # 8
I would say he is waiting for the “moment” to propose – and goodness me, no woman can rush it, heaven forbid I wish I could for my SO!
You know it’s coming, as long as he knows what you’ve planned/booked etc and he is ok with it, just wait it out.
At least when you do become engaged your wedding day will be pretty much finalised for dates etc!