(Closed) What’s the be all and end all way….

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

You could put it on your wedding website but even so, people will still try to buy you something I’m sure.  I had a friend get married and it was going to be destination for everyone and I think she used a really informal wedding invitation (more of an announcement type) and it just said that they were both really settled and to please bring no gifts.  It went on to say how they would really just appreciate your company.  I thought it was really sweet.

Post # 4
1986 posts
Buzzing bee

The only way you can do this I *think* is to not register and pass it through word of mouth. Like tell your parents, and then they can tell your sibilings and aunts and uncles etc.

Post # 5
1161 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

People like to give gifts.  I find it is useful to provide people with a list of your favorite charities and then ask them to contribute to one.  That way, people are giving something to cause important to you. 

Post # 7
1161 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@ScarletBegonia:I don’t think I’d put in the in WEDDING invitation, since I’m kind of old school and don’t like registry info or gift requests on the wedding invite….but you could provide the charity list to your family to provide to people who ask. 

Post # 8
4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

people will still give you gifts, and if you don’t register you might end up with a few random things or a couple of toasters. i would just say “your presence is your present” and put a little note on the website about how you and fi don’t need anything for your house, and you know people have to spend a lot of money to travel to your wedding. it’s not foolproof, but it’s pretty good.

Post # 9
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Are all the people going to the party going to your wedding?  It may be their way of letting you know while they can’t be there they are thinking of you.  

Even with the word put out there,…. there will always be someone slipping you a little something.


Post # 10
10287 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

If someone wants to give a gift, they are going to regardless of if you want them too or not. I would just politely include something about it either on your invitation or wedding website and leave it at that. You’ve done your part in letting it be known that gifts are not necessary but I don’t think pressing the issue will help anyone. 

ETA: After re-reading my post, I have no idea why I said to put it on the invitation since I am normally against including anything like that on the invite. So yea, mention it on the website and forget I said anything about the invite! =)

Post # 11
46646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Where is Lisa when we need her?  Gifts should not be mentioned on the invitation. I would address your wishes on the website, or register for a charity for people who insist on giving something.

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