@otto2008: My mother is deceased, but if she were around, I know she would have searched high and low for the most perfect, most beautiful MOB dress…in a color that made her radiant, and was ‘appropriate’ to our overall scheme of the day!!
Since that is not an option, I was happy to step up and help his mother shop, because she asked me too (and she had ALL the choices in the world…bc she did not have to follow my mother’s look). Our first few trips were lovely. She is a beauiful woman, and I thought what she was trying on was flattering/fun/flirty, etc. She had asked me what color I had envisioned her in, and I was honest when I told her a silver/silvery-light purple gown.
Then she called me, and said she found the dress and could not wait for me to see it!! The gown she chose is…well, in my opinion, heinous. Now, I did not tell her that, nor would I ever tell her that. If she likes it, and wants to wear it, then that is all the matters – thus, not making it a big deal. However, I wanted to make it a BIGGER deal, because I think she is entitled to ‘shine’!! She could wear pretty much ANY dress she desired, not a mom-ish dress. Meaning, the ones we were trying on were Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses.
Anyways, she ended up buying a long sleeve, black glittery dress, that I feel screams a tad on the ‘older’ side of things. The dress hits at her shines, not floor length or knee length and is slip-on dress (no zipper). Not to mention, my girls are in black, so she does not even stand out (really) from them, which again – I think she should!! It is atypical for a mother’s dress to match the BM’s, but since I chose black I know that many, many guests will also wear black by default. Their dresses – my girls – are just long.
So, where I am biting my tongue on my overall opinion, because she is happy with her choice, I thought it could have been a ‘bigger’ deal/more fun and a better pick for her to stand out on this day, and not because I am a bridezilla or whatever.