(Closed) What’s the biggest obstacle you’ve crossed in planning your wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

The bridesmaid dresses. I wanted to find the RIGHT shade of champagne pink for 6 girls, affordable, cocktail length, and cute.

Mom ended up making them. But it was a dress SAGA at JoAnn. Esp when my parents kept making stupid suggestions and picking out the UGLIEST dresses, like my dad picking out a really slutty dress (i don’t think he realized it’d be slutty on my girls but yeah, very very low cut and not good for all 6 of them!) and i said “dude i don’t want their boobs coming out at my wedding” and he shushed me and got all pissy in the store about how he’s just making suggestions and I should stop being a bia! Really i just had to tell them to STEP BACK and let me pick out the pattern. 3 people rummaging through 1 bin was too intense. 

But yeah…those patterns were stressful. Then finding the fabric was a headache.

Oh the things I did to not stiff my friends with $150 dresses.

Post # 4
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11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

budget. No doubt, the budget. 

Post # 7
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

So far, budget. Mostly because often, you get what you pay for, and I’m having trouble sacrificing quality to stay within my budget!

Also, choosing the wedding party…but only because I wanted more attendants than Fiance did. I won that battle. 🙂

Post # 8
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639 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

in general, mine has been planning from a distance – everything takes longer when you have to send contracts back and forth through the mail!  more specifically, we had a tough time finding a jazz band for our reception that wasn’t prohibitively expensive or would have had to travel from pretty far away.  In the end, we found a great band, in our budget and only an hour drive away!

 

 

Post # 9
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1207 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Mine was definitely planning from a distance and the short busy engagement period.  We had a 5 month and 3 day engagement and during that time we moved from Ohio to Chicago, both of us got new jobs, we had to live in temporary housing for 3 weeks when we got to Chicago, we bought a Condo, I hadn’t started my job yet, so I pretty much had to move everything myself, oh and we bought a new car and got a cat.  Lol.  It was a BUSY 5 months.

Post # 10
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531 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree with BUDGET.  There are so many things i want or that i would do differently, but i just cant fit it in my budget

Post # 11
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412 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Anyone else have severe problems with their parents and the guest list?  We all agreed at the beginning to keep it 150-175.  My fiance’s family and friends is only 70 and that includes some of our mutual friends.  We’re 6 months into planning and my parents are now sending me their guest lists.  They’re inviting people I’ve never met!  My mom is inviting her coworkers when I’m not inviting any of mine.  My dad apparently announced to everyone at a lunch one day that they were all invited to the wedding. This was a lunch with people that are apparently his cousins but I have never met them. 

These extra people my parents are trying to slip in will put us over 200 people.  I have no idea what to do.  I won a few battles with my mom on some people but with my dad, he has already told these people they are invited.  We’re barely inviting any of our friends because my family is so large.  I really don’t think I can cut anyone that I’ve added but I can’t figure out how to get my parents to cut their lists when they are both paying for the wedding in a major way.

Any advice?

Post # 12
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3098 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Overall, money was the biggest obstacle. Second to that, was my crazy psycho family, and the grooms friends acting like immature a-holes and causing problems. After that, finding a venue. It took six months to find one. Six months!

Post # 13
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519 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I would have to say distance (planning a wedding in MN from TX) and hubs fighting with his family and them no longer speaking to us like little children. Also, everyone feeling like their happiness should come before ours….

Post # 14
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

@Lees, yes, well, my dad is pretty clueless, LOL!ZWhen he found out I paid $110 for a pair of Big Star jeans, he commented that he couldn’t figure out why I had such a hard time finding jeans that fit (I’m 5’11”) because I’m not *that tall* and I should just wear men’s jeans from WAlmart b/c they’re only $15. When in reality, they’re the only damn brand that fit. So yeh, clueless =]

I, too, felt SO weird asking them to spend money on me! On anything! I felt like a huge inconvenience for some reason. Totally selfish, lol. Even the whole “here i picked this out for you, wear this!” even though we all know that’s the game =]

Post # 15
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4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Dinero lol.  Money has by far been the biggest challenge, and the root of any other challenge if you think about it.  If money were not an issue, I could have everything I wanted, so I wouldn’t have to worry about a thing.  I should stop watching Platinum Weddings man, things never go wrong for them… at least from what they show us.

Post # 16
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1523 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My mother. Seriously, I wish she could just be happy for me and stop being so negative.

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