Post # 1
I just found out I’m pregnant, based on only date of my last period I’m due August 26th. The wedding in planned for September 27. I’m thinking we could either try to move it to like May or wait awhile after August and do it then. My SO’s initial reaction was that we just leave it, I see that going badly.
So, what would you all reccomend? How long after birth do you feel up to having a party? Or how pregnant can you be?
Post # 3
I think its SUCH a bad plan to have a wedding so close to your delivery date! Your last month of pregnancy is going to be so overwhelmed by getting ready for baby, none of your critical planning will get done. Then baby will be born and you’ll be too sleep-deprived to get that wedding done! And thats the BEST case scenario.
If your overdue, or either of you have health problems, you may have to cancel the wedding all together. Not to mention you’ll end up having wedding/baby showers all at once… people might start to get resentful or just think you’re having a shotgun wedding.
I would suggest planning the wedding before 24 weeks or 6-12months after delivery. It’ll give you time to plan and keep the 2 life events seperate.
Post # 4
@MrsRugbee: Thanks for the input. I’m not too worried about people thinking its a shotgun wedding, but I don’t want people to resent all of the events we’re going to end up having.
Post # 5
If you’re okay getting married pregnant, then I’d say move it up to a few months before. I don’t think I’d want to push the going into labor thing too much, so I wouldn’t go past 8 months pregnant (but others may have and worked out fine). If you’re not, then you have a few options. You can do was PP said and push wedding 6-12 after birth (I don’t think I would do it sooner than 3-4 months after) or you can go ahead and get married (before or after baby) and then have the reception/party/dinner a couple months after birth. Congrats and good luck!
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018
@CoCoCourtney: If I ended up pregnant before getting married, I would try my best to move it up. As MrsRugbee said, having it no later than 6 months or even better 5 months would be my ideal. Many things can happen as you approach your due date such as complications, sleepless nights, too tired, etc. Good luck!
Post # 7
@candy11: I was so impresed with myself at having all of our vendors booked. Now, it just makes things harder! I’m thinking we’ll do it early and i’ll need a new dress…
Post # 8
My SO and I are pregnant and I told him that under no circumstances will I be fat and sober at my wedding haha. I also refuse to rush, add a ton of unneeded stress/emotion to our lives and have a half-a**ed wedding just because some people think you should be married before. Getting married is officially the farthest thing from either of our minds at this point.
I think you should have your baby, work at getting your figure back (if you care about that), get organized and take your time getting married.You have to change all your venues anyway and why push it up and rush. if you are planning on being together for the rest of your lives, what is an extra 6-12 months to make it easier on all 3 of you.
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@CoCoCourtney: I would get married during my second trimester because that is usually considered the most comfortable time of the pregnancy; after morning sickness has passed but before you are uncomfortably big. My mom got married in September and had my sister the following March; it worked out pretty well and she really didn’t look all that pregnant in photos.
Post # 10
I would have moved up the wedding if I’d gotten pregnant while engaged!
I’d suggest some point in the second trimester. First trimester is awful, and third is pretty comparable! But second is pretty great, if you can swing getting married between 24 and 28 weeks pregnant!