(Closed) Whats the consensus on having 2 Bridal showers??

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Do you think a bride is gift grabby when you hear they have more then one shower??
    Yep-sheer tackiness : (14 votes)
    15 %
    No sometimes you have to split it up to accomodate families : (74 votes)
    78 %
    No the more the merrier : (7 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 31
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I think one is gift-grabby and tacky. I don’t understand why they are socially acceptable at all.

    Post # 33
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

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    Soonerbee07:  I think a lot of people get overexcited about the term gift grabby. Honestly, how can having two showers be gift grabby if you are accommodating two groups of people who really want to celebrate with you? Does it make it any different really if you just call one shower a party instead? I wouldn’t be worried about it at all. If you are concerned you’re being ‘gift grabby’, there’s no way you are actually gift grabby, lol. 🙂 

    Post # 34
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    522 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    I thought EVERYONE had more than one shower… I’m having 3. My (large, Catholic) family, FI’s family & FMIL’s friends, and my friends & workmates/my mom’s friends & workmates (she and I work together). There’s not anywhere large enough for all of those people to congregate at one time, and I wouldn’t want to be in a room with all of them at once, either.

    Post # 35
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    963 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2015 - On a Cliff Overlooking the Bay, Florida

    I’m having 2 my Future Mother-In-Law is throwing me a linen shower and my Maid/Matron of Honor is throwing a traditional shower. I have to have 2 becasue of the mixture of people and age group difference LOL

    Post # 36
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    Helper bee

    Not tacky at all! I have known of 2 showers happ often. You did not ask someone to throw these for you and the people that want to attend and give gifts will do so. My advice, agree to both, relax, don’t worry about what some other people might think, enjoy having people in your life that want to celebrate this occasion with you and for you. There is enough to worry and stress about. Just enjoy these days!

     

    Post # 37
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    I think if you have family and friends that offer to throw you a shower and you can split up your guest list to not invite anyone to multiple showers then go for it!  We have friends that offered a couples shower and then 2 of my mothers friends wanted to give parties as well.  It’s not gift-grabby to have people want to celebrate your wedding, just make sure each party has a different guest list.

    Post # 38
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    Blushing bee

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    Soonerbee07:  Usually, the shower is THROWN by family/friends. In other words, it isn’t up to you, nor should you have to worry about how you’ll look if you’re thrown more than one shower. You don’t “accept” a shower, if you’re thrown one it’s because the people in your life want to do this for you as a favor to make you happy. That’s like someone pulling out a chair for you and you “not accepting” their offer, it would be considered rude.

    Post # 39
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

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    Soonerbee07:  I think it depends on the situation regarding family, etc.

    I’ve known bride or two to do it out of gift grabbiness, but most of the time it’s convenience fo the family(ies).

    I’ve had a couple of brides do two showers and it’s usually because the family is very spread out. A lot of my girlfriends are transplants, and their Fiance are as well. Both families want to honor the couple and it’s not always convenient for one side to travel to where the other side lives. Especially if it’s going to end up being a semi-destination wedding. 

    I think in the two shower cases, all the BMs were invited to both showers, but it was okay if they could only attend one. They were not expecting to give gifts for both either.

    I know one of the brides whose wedding I was in did NOT want two showers. But, his family is in S. Jerz, she is from beantown, and her mother’s family is from Penn. There was going to have to be some compromise.

     

     

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