(Closed) What's the craziest relationship behavior you've ever engaged in?

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Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

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@LALaw:  I keep picturing you hanging upside down looking through his windows like spideman or something LOL

Post # 33
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@208bride:   younare officially  my favourite person ever.

Post # 34
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I once used a reflective window to figure out a guy’s phone password, found out his plans to cheat, pretended to go to work (during a blizzard in northern Vermont), parked my car 1/4 mile away, and hiked through (I swear to you) three feet deep snow for 30 minutes to get to our place, waited for another hour in the shadows (outside… during a blizzard) while peaking in the windows, and broke down the outside door (which was unnecessary, because I had a key…) to catch them in the act.

And with another guy, I had a threesome with my high school BFF.

Post # 38
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

If crazy as in it took me 2 years to heal, then this would be crazy even though it lasted only two weeks.

My first boyfriend… when I was 19. He was from the same home-country/home-town. We actually met on Friendster, haha! Man, was I naive!! He was so sweet — or so, I’d thought. We were watching the movie “Notting Hill”. I was thinking, wow, so this is what cuddling is like! Then, he proceeded to ask me, “Would you want me to be your first boyfriend?”

I thought I was in a romantic comedy, but I made a mistake of being a doormat. I literally provided him a place to crash on campus. However, I’m glad he respected certain boundaries I set — or my brother would’ve hunt him down and beat him up (my brother’s words; not mine). Let’s just say he never got past 2nd base, hah.

He was on student visa. So, he would have to leave Canada immediately after finishing his final year of university. We were just walking around casually and he asked, “Would you marry me?” I was like, “Are you proposing?” (Inside, I was thinking.. he doesn’t sound serious enough)

In other words, he was desperate to try whatever means so that he could continue to stay in Canada. (I realize that now, but not the 19-year old version of me)

Post # 39
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

The first guy that I feel hard for was just using me as a rebound, told me as much, and yet for whatever reason I stayed with him. Maybe it’s because I was 16, I dunno. Anyway, even when he started hitting me I didn’t leave. And he didn’t hit me in the face where it was obvious, just about everywhere else.

Then I dated a guy who showered maybe once every week and a half, if that. Seriously. He claimed to have no sense of smell, so he also hardly ever changed his clothes. It wasn’t until after I started staying with him on the weekends that I realized how weird this way, but I couldn’t bring myself to just tell him to shower, so I had to find “creative” ways to get him to take a shower. Just thinking about it makes me shudder!

Post # 40
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

 I was on and off with a boyfriend in college. We were kind of “off” at the time but wanted to hang out. We had plans after I got off work but when I called he told me he was hanging out at a mutual friends house and it was just the guys. I got pissed that he blew me off and something came over me and I just showed up at our friends house. Boy was it awkward when I walked in to find them hanging out with girls I didn’t know. everyone looked up at me and I just awkwardly said can I talk to you outside? We went out and fought. But thinking back I can’t believe I had the balls to just show up there uninvited!  Makes me cringe and laugh. 

 

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

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@Twyla_Smith:  This is awful..I would’ve died right next to him..I have an extremely sensitive nose..LOL

I was in a weird relationship with a guy for about 8 months..It was some sort of sex addiction or chemical madness…I don’t know…

We met at the afterparty in Vegas..and it all started right away..we lived in  different cities (“1 hr on the plane” away from each other), so we got ourselves into long-distance relationship..But we were seeing each other every single weekend (taking turns flying).. he was extrememly hot, rich, young, smart, educated, amazing lover etc.etc.etc…but he was crazy..he was doing cocaine on the weekends, drinking and partying like crazy..there were always tons of women around him but for some reason I thought he was faithful..got 2 DUIs while we were together..but I couldn’t care less at that point because all I wanted was to see him and have sex with him (I was thinking with the wrong place obviously)..

One time I came over to see him during the week, because I had the whole week off…and I realized that he started doing cocaine every day in the mornings, before going to his office..instead of coffee..and for some reason it didn’t ring the bell…I was in love, I was blind, and acted like an idiot..

Anyways, it all ended one day..because of a little coinsidence..The week beforehand, I flew to California to see him (he was buying my tickets usually and always setting text message alerts for me to get notifications, so I wouldn’t miss my flight..he did the same thing that time:)…

Next week it was his turn to fly..However, he told me that he had a very important business meeting in Chicago and wouldn’t be able to come over..I said that it was fine, and I was very happy that he started working so hard, even on the weekends (what an idiot woman I am)…On the day when he was suppose to fly to Chicago, I received a text message notification (he was probably on cocaine again when booking his flight and forgot to change my number for his) that his flight to Miami was in several hours blah blah..I didn’t connect the dots right away…but in 10 mins I remembered that his ex girlfriend  of 2 years lives in Miami..And I knew right away that there was no business meeting in Chicago; but instead there was a sex meeting in Miami…I didn’t say anything to him right away..I waited till the evening; when he called me with a fake, tired voice (obviously wanted to get back to bed with his ex)…and started asking how my day was and all that…I said that my day was great and that’s when I asked:”And how is Miami my love?”..He was speechless..I hung up..and didn’t pick up the phone for a week…he was calling every 10 mins..5 days later he showed up at my door, was asking for forgiveness..telling me that he will stop doing drugs, drinking, and cheating..It was hard to believe it..so I didn’t take him back…

It took me 2 years to get over him…

 

 

 

Post # 42
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

My ex was an asshole after we broke up, but we were still ‘friends’ because we had a lot of mutual friends (his older brother and my best friend are still dating now, and we used to hang out at his place).

I tripped over one night and for some reason he sort of kicked me/shoved me with his foot. That made me so angry that I tried to punch him in the nuts as hard as I could. If he hadn’t covered up with his hands I think he would have been in a world of hurt!

Post # 43
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

I dated a guy I didn’t even really like, much less love, for about 3 years. Moved in with him. Went to Mexico on vacation. Pretty much hated him the entire time.Not hate; completely indifferent.

Then he cheated on me. With an 18 year old. In the bathroom… at his best friend’s WEDDING. Yup, stayed with him for a while after that too.

Then I left him finally one day, just put all my stuff in a suitcase.

Met my husband 6 weeks later!

Post # 44
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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@208bride:  hahhaha I’m DYING!! that is absolutely hilairous!! It sounds like your Fiance has a great sense of humor!!

 

The craziest thing I ever did wasn’t all that bad (i think??).  Like, 3 months into dating, my now fiance had a freak out.  Like, we had “the talk” of “I’m just not read for this” (and me being like wtf thanks for staying the night, me cooking you dinner, and then us having sex before you told me this…?).  I had to get ready for work, so I asked him if we could keep talking after I took a quick shower- otherwise I’d be late.  He promised we could.  So, I shower, and when I get out- he is GONE.  Nothing left of his in my apartment.  So, instead of being pissed, I text him a nasty message – something along the lines of “oh, guess you didn’t have the balls to walk out in front of my face.  BYE.” He tried to come back up, but I had to leave and told him to get over himself.

Well, later on- I found out that the night before, he was hanging out with his friends from the neighborhood and his ex was there.  I also found out she had been texting him non-stop since he got home (he had just gotten hime from 4 years active duty in the USCG).  I heard from FI’s cousin that they spent the whole night talking- nothing happened – just talking.  I was devestated and so, so upset – but knew there really wasnt anything I could do becasue we were dating and not in an exclusive relationship (which, ironically compared to the previous conversation, were bc of my terms).  I wound up taking the day off with my now Maid/Matron of Honor and we went to the Cheesecake Factory and got drunk – then over the BBB to do her wedding registry.  Shes the best.

So he decides he’s going to text me ALL day about what a mistake he’s made, blah blah blah you know the story.  So, I agreed he could come over to talk – but he was not allowed to stay.  Long story short we got back together eventually, and obviously started seeing eachother exclusively after a bit and now we’re getting married. YAY!

Now for my crazy

This girl did not stop texting my Fiance after all of this (I’m not sure she knew the whole story).  When he told me, I was SO mad.  I stalked this chick on FB, Myspace (oh yes, she still has -and actively uses- her myspace), I googled her, and basically went crazy lurking all over her online pages.  I send her a message on facebook calling her a pathetic idiot, to keep texting someone’s boyfriend and that she should grow up (she is younger) and leave him alone – that maybe she should stop taking so many duck-faced selfies and go find her own boyfriend — basically a typical crazy girlfriend’s email. 

I also went through my FI’s phone and computer one day when he was in the shower and deleted every single picture, email, text (after I read them), her phone number, and reference to her that I could possibly find. Then I went through his facebook, unfriended her and deleted every posting/message/picture from her.

I didn’t tell him either.  I just remember when he got a text from her – which popped up as a random number saying “hey!”- him replying “Who is this??!” and her texting back “Fine! F#%^$ YOU!” (normal/mature right?!?!) and I was just LAUGHING inside.  After it all passed, I did eventually tell him – and he forgave me – but he fully sees the crazy in her and does not speak to her anymore. And, on top of all of it – her name had been my #1 favorite baby name …. obviously until this happened. 

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

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@SashaUSARu:  Oh it was, now that I look back at it. No idea why I put it up with it for so long back then!

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