Post # 1
Ok. . .so SO and I have talked openly about engagement/marriage for a few months now, and we’ve even checked out a few websites together. We will most likely do a Destination Wedding because our families are from different states, and doing a Destination Wedding would help us to keep the guest list to a minimum. (For us keeping it “small” is nearly impoosible since we’re both from large families).
Anyway, several weeks ago, I was browsing the web for reception venues and found a place that really caught my attention. I showed the website/menus etc. to SO, and he, too, was impressed. I mentioned that I was curious as to how far in advance you need to book the place, and his response was along the lines of “You could call and ask.” And I didn’t call. . .until today!!! Am I crazy or what?!?!
The story gets better. When SO and I talked today on his lunch break, I mentioned to him that I called the venue. He asked how far in advance they start taking reservations. I told him that they start booking 1 year to 1 1/2 years in advance. Now of course he’s a boy and seemed to think that was an insane amount of time to book in advance. . .but then again when we make dinner plans, I’m the one to make the reservation. Lol. I’m a total micromanager and he’s totally not, so I guess that’s why we work. 🙂 He proceeded to ask me about the deposit required to reserve the hall!!!
We’re not yet engaged, but have talked about a projected timeline with respect to getting engaged (by around June 2011) and getting married (Spring-ish 2012). Am I completely insane? I really think this is by far the craziest thing I’ve done so far with respect to waiting.
Bees, please tell me I’m not the only one here who’s done something like this before technically being engaged.
So here are my questions to all current/former waiting bees:
What’s the craziest thing you’ve done as a (or former) waiting bee?
Post # 3
I was never waiting but my friend planned the entire wedding before he was ready and a a result he left her. She was devastated, I felt awful for her.
Post # 4
Hey, a girl has gotta plan!
My friend and I are going to a trunk show this Saturday. Neither of us are engaged and I’m not sure how close we both are. (I think I am closer than she is, but her and her Boyfriend or Best Friend have been dating longer.) WE are pretty stoked.
I have also started collecting brooches for a brooch bouquet. BF’s mom bought me 29 of them. So she even jumped the gun a little! 😀
I have magazines and ideas, but haven’t called anyone or priced anything out.
Post # 5
Nothing too crazy for me, but I did introduce SO to Weddingbee last night! I figured with as much as I am on it he would probably find out eventually 🙂 I explained how the Hive works to him and he was actually really interested. I had to pry him off the laptop last night after he started reading the boards. haha
Post # 6
@pumpkinpatch: My SO loves that I have found this site and he likes to read some of the boards.
Post # 7
I don’t think you are completely insane! Weddings require work, time and research. If you know it is going to happen, no sense in not getting a head start, right?
Keep it up, as long as your SO is really on board with it.
Word of caution – I was like you. Bought magazines, looked at dresses online, looked at venues online, called, got pricing, etc.
When Fiance proposed, I was kind of disappointed. There wasn’t that feeling of “ohmygosh, we are getting married, what should I do first?” because I had already done it. I really wish I would have waited.
Post # 8
I joined weddingbee as soon as I found out my Fiance was shopping for the ring, and I had about 4 months of “waiting.” Other than being on wb, I’d say the craziest thing I did was go into a few jewelry stores to try on rings without Fiance. My excuse was that I knew my Maid/Matron of Honor was helping him shop, and I was telling her and him my preferences and I was like “well I’ve only looked online so I should go try things on to make sure I like them!” lol. I felt pretty crazy going to try on rings alone 🙂
Post # 9
@Linz1231: I feel like that at the moment! Like Ive started a race before the gun goes off! But SO is so insistant that he wants to get married in July 2011 so we need to get organised now (even though a proposal is about a fortnight away!). We have not contacted vendors but have spent the last couple of weeks talking openly and planning our wedding vision so once its official we just have to get quotes and book! The only thing about this at the moment is that I think my mum is going to be a bit hurt that we already have our ideas planned by SO wants to pretend like we havent done anything until its offical! So I suppose Mum will be fine!
@pumpkinpatch: I could never introduce SO to the bee cos Ive posted some pretty private stuff that he doesnt know about (finding out proposal info etc) and he would be pretty hurt by that so this website just doesnt exist! We live in a very popular wedding area and so they are lots of local websites he can look at and since we are in Australia all the vendor info on here isnt relevant – I just use the boards!
And the craziest thing Ive done as a waiting bee is probably poured my brain out on these boards!! It always feels much better to get it out since I cant tell friends or family! You guys are like my waiting family lol!
Post # 10
@shmell7: I can totally understand that! I actually noticed today that I was proof-reading what I was saying with keeping in mind he might be reading the boards now Haha (HI BABE!)
Post # 11
I only ever got as far as “planning” the ring. Which is to say I went on the Cartier website and picked a huge honking diamond solitaire and saved it to my computer. Then my friends and I traded dream ring photos just in case our bfs ever asked our friends for ring shopping help. I ended up not wanting that ring anymore anyway. 🙁
In hindsight I really, REALLY wish I had started planning a long time ago. We’re having a very short engagement and we’re eloping, so there is isn’t that much to plan, but there was still not nearly enough time to find a nice dress. I’ve been so stressed out about the dress because I’m really picky and damnit, I want to look gorgeous on my wedding day! I wish I could go back in time and start dress shopping last year so that I could find the dress of my dreams and have enough time to order it new.
So go ahead and plan away, bees. Go dress shopping and write down style numbers. Research venues, photographers, etc. He doesn’t have to know! And when the time comes you won’t panic like we did!
Post # 12
…Probably going to try on dresses. My Boyfriend or Best Friend knows I’ve done this and he’s cool with it. We look at magazines together, and I routinely tell him about things I read on my “crazy forum” (yeah, that’s the Bee :-P). Other than that, I haven’t done anything *really* crazy. Yet.
Oh, wait. I met up with one of my high school friends a couple weeks ago. She got engaged about six months ago, and their wedding will be next summer. I was asking her how the planning was going, etc., and she said she was really behind and had no clue what she needed to be doing. I jumped in and started telling her all about the planning/budgeting tools on The Knot and the awesome forums here, and I had been going for about a minute before I looked over and saw that her fiance was giving me the crazy face. My Boyfriend or Best Friend told me later that it was all he could do to not burst out laughing at me. I finished it off with a very lame, “…I was a bridesmaid for my friend in Japan and was helping her try to plan, and I was the only bridesmaid in the same country as her, so that’s how I know.” I turned crimson!
Post # 13
@pumpkinpatch: LOL Hi Mr Pumpkinpatch!
@jayce: I have a big sketch book that Im using to create collages and a folder on my computer full of sub folders and pictures! And I still have not bought a single bridal magazine and Im starting to think I dont want to! I love looking at threads on here and seeing REAL brides and their ideas/hair/dresses and learning about everyones take on ettiquite! Our engagement will only be 8 months and we will be having a 70 person marquee wedding so there will be lots to do! And Im so glad Ive started now and that SO is in on it too!
Post # 14
@shmell7: Omg, that sounds like so much fun!!! I wish I made collages! Bah… now I have no time for that.
I agree, bridal magazines are kind of a waste of money. I flipped through a bunch and didn’t find anything in there that I couldn’t have gotten online for free.
Post # 15
Collages is a good idea! I have made a few inspiration boards here and there with things I see I liked when I was dating my ex, but deleted it all after we broke up.
Post # 16
I totally bought my dress and chose our colors, menu, and venue.