What's the cruelest thing that's ever been said to you?

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Post # 63
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I actually don’t think this thread is that depressing. It’s a testament to how we all survived (and even thrived) in the face of some really terrible things. I salute all of you strong women.

Post # 64
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

These aren’t the cruelest things in the world, but they hurt because they came from family. I went on vacation with my parents after my divorce. I was very hurt, but still had a good time and even flirted with a man at a beach bar one afternoon. When I told my mother jokingly, she replied with “You probably looked desperate. No one likes desperation.”

When I was first married, my dad gave a sweet speech at my wedding. It turned out that he had written one, but forgot the notes in my apartment, so spoke off the cuff. Later, I found the actual speech and it was awful and talked about how much weight I had gained. I was maybe 130 pounds and 5’5″ and my parents were appalled at how “fat” I’d gotten. smh.

Post # 65
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Mls1988 :  yes/no it’s kind of weird, there’s some kind of support network for people with mental illnesses and obesity (they talk about their problems and post photos of themselves there and you can see their struggle) and obviously it’s great that they have support with each other but for some reason they like to just talk endlessly about how ugly or stupid I am and then private message me here to tell me about it. I guess it’s typical bully fashion to talk down on others when you feel bad in yourself but I hadn’t come across it since school age. I’m just sorry they feel that bad. I have message notifications switched off for that reason here but it’s totally random (like one of them just “discovered” me on the bee seemingly) and I’m still enjoying the bee but yeah, it’s a full on hate campaign by these troubled people I don’t know in real life. 

Post # 66
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

rosey1739 :  I had an asshole science teacher say horrible things about/to me to our entire class,

some that stuck with me:

“trying to talk to you is like trying to throw peas against the wall, nothing sticks.”

“maybe you should stop wearing so much hairspray as its destroying your brain cells.”

“If you cared half as much about science as you do about your appearance you would be doing much better in this class.”

“Girls like you are only good for one thing…” The class was disgusted after this one, even the boys were shouting at him that he was being horrible to me…

I went months of hearing these comments and saying and doing nothing but after he said that last comment I left the room crying went to the principal and told her everything. Kids in the class all reported him too… Not sure what happened after except i was taken out of his class put into another science class and then he did not come back the following year. 

And he is the reason why I became a teacher. So I could be a better one than he ever was. Fuck him.

Post # 67
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Blushing bee

After 9 VERY lonely years with me then fiance … he told me as I FINALLY got the guts to break up with him ….. that for the past several years he’s been scheduling his days off when he knew I was working so he didn’t have to see me. 

Post # 68
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Sugar bee

From my dear mother:  I hope you get a  kid just like yourself {and that wasn’t a compliment}. She said it quite often. And if I did, I was a great kid because my son is terrific in every way.

From my father: My son’s father’s name is Richard. My father makes this toast at ur wedding reception: “Well, like Ben Franklin said–Poor Richard”.  There was a collective intake of breath. People were saying how inappropriate.  That was mild compard to some other things he has said.

Needless to say I have absolutely no contact with them and they have never met their two grandsons.

 

 

Post # 69
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I feel so bad for some of you!  Mine is pale in comparison but none the less, it still sticks with me.

I had a bad breakup with my ex Fiance because he cheated on me.  I started dating a guy a few months later that I fell head over heels for.  Things were so awesome at first; I couldn’t believe my luck after having gone through such a terrible breakup.

About 4-5 months into that relationship, my ex boyfriend started to show his true colors.  He was incredibly insecure and paranoid that I was going to break up with him.  I was so confused as things had started off so well.  He traveled a lot for work, which certainly didn’t help, as many of his insecurities came out when he was away and we would talk or Skype.

One day we had a bit of a tiff; I don’t even remember what it was about.  He said to me he could see why my ex Fiance cheated on me.  That comment was like a knife through my heart.  I broke up with him a couple of months later.

I actually contemplated getting back with him a few months later as he had “changed”.  But that comment always stayed with me and I thought if he could hit below the belt like that, what else was he capable of?

We are actually friends now as we are in the same social circle and he knows he majorly fucked up with me.  Even though he apologized for the comment and said he knew as soon as he said it he would regret it the rest of his life, it still doesn’t make me not hear it.  He is right – he did fuck up and I am now engaged to a great guy that would never say something like that.

Post # 70
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I’m a full time hair stylist now, but before I went to cosmetology school I worked in a salon as an apprentice. The person I was working under was supposed to be my teacher and mentor. He would constantly degrade me by calling me stupid, making jokes about my weight, making fun of haircuts I’d done, etc. My final straw was when he was trying to teach me a haircut one day and I wasn’t quite understanding what he was doing and he yelled at me “I don’t know why I even bother with you, you’re not cut out for this job and you never will be.” 

That stuck with me for a very long time. I ended up quitting and going to work a different, he left a really bad taste in my mouth for the business. I eventually went to a cosmetology school and it really helped my confidence and self esteem.  It’s been about 7 years since and I’m currently working full time in a salon and have a free lance up-do/makeup business for formal events. 

Post # 71
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Blushing bee

Cheekie0077 :  Good for you! There’s a special place in hell for teachers who say things like that to kids. I’ve obviously healed and moved on but, I’m not gonna lie…it still hurts sometimes. 

Post # 72
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

“Stop eating so much.” “You’re fat.” “You’ll never get a man.” (All throughout my childhood) “You’re going to end up pregnant” (after dating my bf in hs a week) -my father 

“We we’re going to send flowers to your house because we thought you had died” -8th grade science teacher ,when I came back to school after going through a deep depression for half the year. 

Some people are just awful. I feel for you bees that have gone through much worse! 

Post # 73
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

My grandmother once said “you have the height of a model, it’s a shame about your face”.

I also found out that my parents have a running commentary on the size of my thighs and ‘encouragingly’ tell me when they think I’ve lost weight, which I was under the impression I didn’t really need to do. I’m the only woman on my mum’s side of the family who isn’t built straight up and down, so they can’t cope with curvy thighs.

Post # 74
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Holly Hedge Estate

desertgypsy :  Let me know the coordinates, I’ll piss on his grave 😉

Post # 75
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Helper bee

“Your face looks like a terrain map.”
-A guy in my college class, said to me because the birth control I was taking for depression made me break out in cystic acne. He had asked me a on a date and I said no thanks, and then him and his friend came over and said this to me.

I started crying in class, and this guy and his friends stood around me and jeered at me. It was like a scene out of a teen movie, hahaha.

 

Now my skin is flawless, and I have an incredible husband! But that comment hurt bad, since I was already so insecure about my skin.

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