(Closed) What’s the deal with an ‘A’ and ‘B’ list?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Yeah, the “B Listers” get the second wave of invites, but I suppose if you’ve already sent out STD’s that they will all be “A Listers”. I have a list of about 30 B people. Yikes.

Post # 4
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5784 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

A vs B lists are used when you have more guests than seats. You invite the A list people first and as people decline you send invites out to the B list. Everyone you sent Save-The-Date Cards to would be “A” list because you’re basically obligated at this point to send them an invite.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

a b-list is your backup list. if you have space/budget constraints, you can send invites to your b-list as you get declines from your a-list.

b-list would not get save the dates, because you don’t know if they’ll actually be invited to the wedding.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

If you were able to invite everyone that you wanted to, then you only have an A list (which is a GREAT thing).  But, if you have people that you’d like to invite, but there are budget or space constraints, then a B list would be needed.  As you get regrets, then you send out invites to the B listers.  You HAVE to send to those with STD’s.  Make sense? 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

@jamithebride: Umm I have like 60 people on the “B” list. Every time my mom is like “oh, what about so and so” I just stick them on the B list so I don’t forget about them.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

We’re doing a B list.  We’ve got about 10 people on it.  They are basically folks that we would like to invite but are OK if we are unable to invite them  For example, my B list is has a couple of co-workers, my best friend’s parents, my godparents who I haven’t seen in forever –  that would be nice if I could invite them but I wouldn’t die if I couldn’t, ya know.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We did an “A”, “B”, and “C” list! It was in our wedding planning book.. We aren’t having a very big wedding so it was helpful for me.. The “A” list was immediate family and friends that we couldn’t live without at the wedding.. “B” was the people we want to invite as long as we could squeeze them in.. And “C” were the people like coworkers or long lost friends that it would be nice to invite if we could..

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