Post # 1
so I feel like welcome bags is something I feel a little pressure to do? Why? Who gets them? When? and how are you supposed to get them to everyone if they stay in different hotels? We are having more than 50% of our guests travel, and this all seems to be a bit much.
Welcome party & swag bag? I hear your supposed to invite out of towners to rehearsal dinner? The ACTUAL wedding? take home favors? Post-wedding brunch? This feels like we’re having 2-4 parties already.
What’s everybody doing to rein this in? Thanks!
Post # 2
SIL made them for her destination wedding. Honestly I didn’t think they were worth it. I think I used the tylenol and maybe a water bottle, both of which I could have gotten easily myself. She had some cute personalized food items too, but it wasn’t something I could really take back with me on the plane (cheese and sausage or something)?
I don’t think they’re a necessity personally.
Post # 3
Those are definitely nice-to-haves and not must-haves. To give you some perspective, I have been to at least a dozen weddings where I’ve had to travel and not once have I received a welcome bag. I’ve been invited to a few rehearsal dinners and post wedding brunches, but those are definitely not must-haves.
Post # 4
Initially I was planning a destination wedding so in lieu of favors we were going to do welcome bags to kick off the weekend celebration. It would have been our way to show our appreciation and excitement with our guests while providing them with an itinerary and some goodies to make their stay more enjoyable.
I personally would not feel like a good host if I didn’t take care of my guests.
Post # 5
Our wedding was a destination for many (no matter where we would have been married it would’ve been that way). We did a map, a metrocard, some water and cookies, in addition to the weekend schedule. Not necessary but nice to have!
Post # 6
lol I asked this yesterday, and a lot of people commented saying that theres were wasteful and/or not needed. I’m not going to do them unless I find myself super bored closer to the date!
Post # 7
The only thing I really care about is the ‘schedule’. Other than that, I can find my own things to do, the concierge at the hotel and/or person I’m renting the airbnb from is probably more knowledgeable anyways. I guess water is nice, but the rest of the stuff is not necessary and just gets tossed. So I like knowing the progress of the weekend, what time things are, if theres a shuttle (and times) etc. You can easily just print that out and give it to the front desk manager to hand out when people arrive.
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2017 - Vineyard on Long Island
Most of my guests will be at the same hotel, so that helps. I’m just planning on doing paper bags with maps of the area, a map of the outlets nearby, an itinerary I type up closer to the wedding so they have the bus times and ‘welcome reception’ times handy, and water/advil haha
Post # 9
Just came in to ask if anyone else read this in Jerry Seinfeld’s voice…
Post # 10
We did welcome bags and had the front desk staff at the hotel hand them out when guests checked in. I’ve also been to a wedding where someone came around and gave the bags to guests in their rooms before the wedding. We had a card with our shuttle info and that we were having a breakfast the next morning (they doubled as “do not disturb” tags to hang on the door), cookies, peanuts, pretzels, hard candy and two water bottles. All of our guests LOVED them! We made sure to make it reasonable as it was just something extra and totally not necessary (maybe 15-$20 we spent?)
Post # 11
I wish I could ‘like’ this more than once 🙂
Agree with others that these are extras, not something you should feel obligated to have.
We had: take home favours aka bombonieres, my DH is Italian & these are a custom for his fam. We also had little gifts to ‘ask’ the members of our wedding party, totally unnecessary but I thought they were cute and we had a small wedding party with our kids standing up for us. Also wedding party gifts.
We didn’t have: STDs (word of mouth for family members & friends), engagement photo shoot, stag & doe (pretty common in our region), shower, rehearsal (lol still managed to marry the right guy), or next day brunch/ party
Post # 12
We have one room block at the hotel we’re getting married at. The people staying there get a welcome bag. The airbnb people are on their own and I doubt they’ll be offended.
Inviting out-of-towners to a rehearsal dinner was the norm when john and jane from the same town were getting married and there was practically no one from out of town except maybe a cousin or two. This isn’t the norm anymore with so many people living in different cities from the ones they grew up in and people meeting and traveling and living all over. This is why a “welcome party” is deemed a good alternative.
Skip favors if you need to cut something. No one will notice.
Of course guests can have post-wedding brunch. They have it on their own dimes wherever and whenever they’d like.
Post # 13
having a destination wedding in new orleans, so we’re doing them. including maps, water, mardi gras beads, some local snacks, and advil
Post # 14
I’ve gotten these at weddings before. Most of the time, I don’t really like them. I guess the water bottle & advil for the supposed next morning hangover is useful. I’ve gotten little decor things that matched their wedding (threw away), random snacks, a $5 giftcard to a cafe near by… Most of the time I don’t really need them. I do like the schedule. However, I like it even more if you have something electronically I can look at with the schedule, because I’ll probably lose the piece of paper.
I did invite out of towners to the rehearsal dinner, which in my opinion is nice because it gives them something to do when they get into town. Esp if I’ve been traveling all day, it’s nice to be able to come have a meal, mingle, talk, etc. and not just sit in my hotel room.
I dont think swag bags are necessary. Who wants a bunch of random shit that has your name on it?
Post # 15
I’ve never gotten one. I thought about doing it for our out of town guests but they ended up staying at various places so I gave up. But here’s what I would like,
Gift card for coffee