Member- bibbithebee
- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2017
I see grown up women on here saying that they got proposed to with a promise ring, etc, what exactly is a promise ring? I assume that, in these cases on here, it is not a ring a 16 year old boy gives his girlfriend with a promise to propose later on, it mostly seem to have to do with the way the ring looks?
Is it, when you girls talk about it on here, just a less expensive ring?
Or is it just from a certain shelf in the store that says “promise rings”?
Ofc anyone can get engagaged with whatever they choose to be the engagement symbol. Ering, promise ring or just saying the words. Or car keys or a meatball for all I care. Where I come from the tradition is to wear just a plain band. This is not what I am asking about, so there is no need for any clarification about that.
I just wonder what the american tradition is? Since I assume that promise rings are a american thing? And they obviously somehow differ from what is considered a promise ring.
Does the ring (generally speaking) need do be of a certain value to be “good enough” for a engagement ring? (1, 3, 6 months salary etc?) Or does it just have to look a certain way for it to be considered a engagement ring?
I’ve seen girls on here telling others that it “doesn’t look like a engagement ring”, and some on here have been told their ring doesn’t look like one by others irl, etc. So, what exactly does a engagement ring look like?
Or maybe more important, what does it NOT look like?
I know there are millions of women out there who does NOT follow “rules” like that, but generally speaking, does the average american women expect the Ering to be of a certain value/look a certain way?
Were do you personally draw the line between what you consider beeing a promise ring and engagement ring?
Just curious! 🙂
UPDATE: I got a lot of replies saying that a promise ring can be a temporary stand in while the couple is waiting to afford to but the “real engagement ring”! I am sure this is the fact in many cases! (great solution, btw!)
But after seeing promise rings being spoken about it in so many different contexts, I got the feeling that it was more to what made it a promise ring! I’ve seen people talk about them as rings symbolizing a promise for engagement later on, and in other cases, as mentioned above, as a ring to use as a temporary stand in until the couple can afford “better”.
But I have also read about them in situations where women seemed to be very upset, saying their Fiance “cheaped out” on them, buying a “promise ring” instead of a “engagement ring”. And in these cases it didn’t seemed like the guy was planning on replacing the ring, ever. So, the guy obviously thought that he had bought a engagement ring (or tried to get away with saying the promise ring was one???) while the girls clearly didn’t think that what he had bought was good enough? Ive seen threads on here about this, with several replies from other women confirming that the ring the OP had recieved indeed looked like a promise ring, not a “real” ering.
So, I am curious what makes people look at a ring and see a “promise ring” and what qualifications it needs to match to be seen as a “ering”. 🙂
