Post # 1
We were invited to a friends hour for dinner so I returned the invitation
This friend is vegan and gluten free. We are more paleo so this makes cooking much more difficult, but fun mind you!
The morning of dinner I was shopping when I got a call that said he naturopath told her to stop corn for a month as well (she has some medical problems). I was planning on using corn tortillas. so I rushed around and changed my menu to accomodate all the requests (vegan, gluten and no corn) while still trying to satisfy Darling Husband who normally eats paleo style.
45 minutes before they were supposed to come they cancelled. I totally get it. She was not feeling well due to one of her ailments.
I want to, and will, invite them over again hoping they make it this time.
BUT I am a little weary about this happening again. Making a ton of food we would not normally eat and then having them cancel.
I was just wondering, what is the ettiquete. Do we owe them an invitation or do they owe us one?
Post # 3
To be honest, its alittle rude they cancelled on such short notice. Expecially since you ran all over the place. I have several friends who are very pickey or dont eat alot of foods, so I just have them over for drinks or a movie. If you have these requirements would they do the same for you?
I once felt quite ill before going to a friends for supper, but since it came on 2 hours before, I went anyways and put on a brave face!
Post # 4
If they’ve cancelled, I wouldn’t say you still ‘owe’ them dinner; you’d already gone to a lot of effort, and they cancelled last minute, which is very bad etiquette IMPO (I would always try to give at least a days notice unless it was a true emergency; if she was unwell she should have forewarned you the day before, and then confirmed what she was doing on the morning of the dinner IMO so that you could make alternative plans).
If she’s the type to cancel regularly, next time I’d probably invite them for something less formal eg drinks and very light, simple nibbles that are quicker and easier to prepare.
Post # 5
Bummer! I know how hard that kind of cooking is. We eat paleo, too, I have several vegetarian/vegan family members, some celiac family members and some family members who eat kosher. Cooking to keep everyone happy is definitely a task, but it is fun to get creative!
Anyway, as far as etiquette goes, I personally think it’s their turn to extend the invite. Or, if you still feel like you really want a turn to host, maybe just a cocktail hour with some crudites & nuts for snacking would be less stressful but equally as hospitable, then do another full dinner some time in the future when the memory of this one is less fresh 🙂
Post # 6
It was vertigo which comes on relatively suddenly so coming wasnt an option. But I totally get what you are saying.
I do think she would do the same for us. She cooks her way (vegan gluten free when we go there, but she tries to make it “meaty” for su
Good idea about somethign lighter. Maybe post dinner dessert and drinks. Like poached pairs or something.
Post # 7
My vote instead would be go out to dinner, relieves all the pressure.