(Closed) Whats the etiquette on this? NWR

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

To be honest, its alittle rude they cancelled on such short notice. Expecially since you ran all over the place. I have several friends who are very pickey or dont eat alot of foods, so I just have them over for drinks or a movie. If you have these requirements would they do the same for you?

I once felt quite ill before going to a friends for supper, but since it came on 2 hours before, I went anyways and put on a brave face!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

If they’ve cancelled, I wouldn’t say you still ‘owe’ them dinner; you’d already gone to a lot of effort, and they cancelled last minute, which is very bad etiquette IMPO (I would always try to give at least a days notice unless it was a true emergency; if she was unwell she should have forewarned you the day before, and then confirmed what she was doing on the morning of the dinner IMO so that you could make alternative plans).

If she’s the type to cancel regularly, next time I’d probably invite them for something less formal eg drinks and very light, simple nibbles that are quicker and easier to prepare.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Bummer! I know how hard that kind of cooking is. We eat paleo, too, I have several vegetarian/vegan family members, some celiac family members and some family members who eat kosher. Cooking to keep everyone happy is definitely a task, but it is fun to get creative!

Anyway, as far as etiquette goes, I personally think it’s their turn to extend the invite. Or, if you still feel like you really want a turn to host, maybe just a cocktail hour with some crudites & nuts for snacking would be less stressful but equally as hospitable, then do another full dinner some time in the future when the memory of this one is less fresh 🙂

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My vote instead would be go out to dinner, relieves all the pressure.

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