Post # 1
Two of mine and Fi’s friends John & Sara were given a save the date 2 months ago. They are recently engaged and casual friends of ours. Sara texts me and said shes sorry but she won’t be able to attend because of another one of her friends wedding but John will still be attending which is fine. John texts my Fi couple days later and asks if he can bring his brother (whom we’ve hung out with once or twice not really friends with) as his plus 1 since Sara won’t be able to attend. Fi and I agreed that would be fine but now that we are addressing the invites, do we address it to John and his brother or John & Sara since Sara is our friend clearly wanted at the wedding and John’s brother we know but aren’t friends with? Or address it John & guest?
Post # 3
I’m not an etiquette expert, but I say just address to John and guest. 🙂 You can’t go wrong there!
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I would address it to john and his brother, and let sara know she will be missed. I would think it would be rude not to address the invitation to his brother and address it to her instead, because it might seem like you weren’t listening to them, and sara might feel like she has to explain to you again why she can’t come. I wouldn’t do “and guest” because they already told you he wants to bring his brother- just invite him!
Post # 5
I didn’t vote as there is no “other” .
If I already knew that Sara couldn’t attend, I would address the invitation to John and send a separate invitation to his brother-given that they are both adults.
I would pop a short note into the invitation sent to John saying that we would miss seeing Sara at the wedding but understand that she has a prior engagement.
Post # 6
I would address it to John & his brother. They already told you that his brother would be coming instead of Sara so in my opinion addressing it to John & Sara seems like you ignorned them when they explained their situation to you.
Post # 7
@julies1949: I like this! Thank you!
Post # 8
Since your specific question is about what to do here re: ettiquette, a lot of people voted “and guest” but apparently ettiquette guides us to always name people specifically on an invite. I like the PP idea of including the note about Sara and sending John a seperate invite!
Post # 9
@littlemiss604: I would address it to Jon and Sara, then enclose a note saying, “Jon, please let us know if you decide to bring your brother instead of Sara — can’t wait to celebrate with y’all” or something like that!