(Closed) what's the hold-up??

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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849 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Hmm, since he said he wants you to have final say on the ring, I’m assuming that means he wants your approval on it before he buys it? In that case, my only theory is that he’s still trying to save up money for the ring. 

Post # 4
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4524 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@luvstoshopsd:  First of all, welcome!

 

Second: no, just because he asked you to look at a ring (or even PURCHASED) a ring doesnt mean he’s ready to propose yet. I have seen countless stories on here of girls whose Boyfriend or Best Friend bought a ring and held onto it for a YEAR!  My Boyfriend or Best Friend is buying my ring this week (possibly today) but there is a good chance he could wait until our vacation in August to do it…or he may do it when he gets it. Who knows? Some guys just take longer than others to get up the nerve or maybe they have something planned in mind.

 

Third: I know it’s a big bummer and it’s hard not to get sad, but do your very very best not to have these “meltdowns” in front of him. Come vent to us instead 🙂

Post # 5
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1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@luvstoshopsd:  Welcome!!! And hugs sweety, waiting is horrible and difficult and annoying! Have you guys discussed budget? If you have, then why don’t you look online or ‘casually’ look at rings. If you find the one then take a picture and tell him! At least that way, he knows exactly what you want and then all you must do is wait, which will bring you back pretty much to this point in time but at least some progress will have been made! 

And yes, don’t have your breakdowns with SO, it puts unnecessary pressure on them and it makes it less exciting, kind of ruins it, thats how my Fiance explained it to me when I was bugging him too much, and trust me, after that I was quiet!!!

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Talking to us is useless. Go talk to him. Go ask him what his 5 year goals are. Ask him if he wants to marry you. Ask him about his other goals and dreams. Then talk to him about your 5 year goals and your dreams. Then start figuring out, together, how both of your plans fit together and what you both want the timeline to look like. This is your life. It is as much your decision as his.

Post # 9
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Worker bee

I’m sorry you are feeling this way 🙁  But I just wanted to point out that sometimes it takes a few weeks to have the ring sized, and even longer if the ring is custom made. Keep your chin up!

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