(Closed) What's the key to making a relationship work?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 18
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Worker bee

Communication, trust, respect, and video games 😉

Post # 19
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Blushing bee

@happilyeveraftergirl:  respect, love and a healthy sense of humor.  Believe me, you need all these things in abundance in a healthy relationship.

Post # 20
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Sugar bee

– Good communication and honesty

– Emotional maturity

– Respect, loyalty and trust

– Common goals and interests

– Reciprocity for all of the above

 

Post # 21
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

@happilyeveraftergirl:  I think you first start dating you have to see if you are compatible–do you have similar energy levels, similar values, enjoy doing things together, can talk to each other about everyday topics, are they trustworthy/dependable, am I still attracted to them after 3-6 month, do I find them funny, so they treat me with respect .

Then as the realtionship develops and deepens, then you look to things like do we speak the same love language, can we fight properly and hash out disagreements (or negoitate somthing that works for both  of you).

Once you have reached a place that you think you are coasting along, that is the time to reinvest time and energy into the relationship. So many couples work to get the relationship to a happy place and get married. Then they set it on auto-pilot. That’s how drifting happens. It’s remembering to put money in the love bank by being kind, respectful and being grateful.

 

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Communication, honesty, compatibility, and trust. I’m also a big believer in trying new things together. It keeps the spice in the relationship and prevents things from getting stagnant.

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - Historic cinema

Separate bathrooms! lol

We have them and it is GREAT! :p

Post # 25
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Hmmm…I’m sure we will continue to find out what makes our relationship work as we go, but for now: respect, real communication, laughter, and trust. Oh, and learning how to fight fair. Every couple fights, but figuring out how to do so in a healthy way is really hard. 

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

@happilyeveraftergirl:  For me, an effective line of communication, the ability to forgive…love doesnt count injuries, but never ever betray trust

Post # 27
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Newbee

It’s hard to say what makes a perfect relationship for everyone. But for me my relationship is perfect because I can trust my fiancé 100%.

We run a business together, so we have learnt to listen to each other, and still speak our minds, we have learnt to work with each other and mist importantly be a team. The way we work spills over into our home life, we work together on business and on our home life. I know he will always be there for me to fall back on and I know he feels the same. He picks up what I can’t handle and we can do this all without a word. There isn’t a day thar he doesn’t tell me I’m beautiful or that he loves me. When we argue we make sure we keep talking until we are both happy with the solution. And because sometimes we argue durning working hours, we never leave the other to finish working alone and we don’t forget that even though we may be annoyed at each other work still needs to ve done and we still need each other to get through it.

He understands me completely, he knows my strengths and helps me with my weaknesses.

We do spend a lot of time together, but we make sure we have separate time, and it’s ok to say that you need space.

Basically I think it’s down to, trust, communication, understanding, respect and love

Post # 28
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

@happilyeveraftergirl:  I’m glad you liked what I wrote. 

I wonder if you need to read some book. First books on how to be with the right guy. ThisTimeRound has an awesome list with Dr.Phil, Steve Harvey and Greg Burnhart (sp?) books. That is the first stage. And that is critical bacause if you dont find the right guy for you, then the next part is useless.

The second part–books to creating and keeping a good relationship. Anything by John Gotman. I read one of his books in my late 20’s when I was single. The stuff I read in that stuck with me and I still use them in my marriage (to the guy I didnt meet until 38). They are that good and life changing when it comes to relationship information. The other book is Love Languages. I havent read it. But read enough online to understand the basic concepts. And I’m lucky enough that Darling Husband and I have the same Love Languages that I didnt need to read it. But if I was still looking, it would def be in rotation. 

Post # 30
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

There are MANY things needed to form a long lasting relationship, but besides the obvious [trust], I think appreciating your partner is one of the things you should never do… and showing them that you appreciate them.

Post # 31
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@somethingblue04:  100%, it’s the only way to be fair to one another.

Post # 32
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Blushing bee

good communication – which my Boyfriend or Best Friend obviously doesnt have

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