Post # 1
I’ve you have read my other posts you know that we had a recent accident where I had to take Next Choice because of the condom breaking, we are 8 months away from getting married, we would like to wait until then to actually have a baby, so I’m hoping the pill works. Well because of this we decided that for the remaining of the time of being engaged we will try our best not to have sex because even when the condom doesnt break I start panicing about getting pregnant, and that drives Fiance crazy, so we agreed that no more until our wedding night, if we can actually stick to it. Of course we will still do other things, just not actual sex.
Have any of you given up sex before, if so what is the longest you have gone without having sex with your SO?
Post # 3
2 weeks !! I was forced !! Well literally force by my doctor because oF my painfull kidney stones I was bleeding to much so We couldn’t have sex !! We can’t stop unless is something necessary ! But we are married now so doesn’t matter if a get pregnat !!!
Post # 4
@lioness_89: We haven’t “given it up” but we are long distance, so quite often we don’t see each other for 2-5 months, if that counts. However, I waited 1.5 + years into the relationship before becoming, ahem, active.
Post # 5
About a month because he was away for work.
Post # 6
3 years! haha we waited til marriage to have sex 😉
Now if one of us got into an accident, became sick or paralyzed, Id work around things. One can get pleasure from more than just vaginal intercourse.
Post # 7
DH was told to abstain from sex for 1 month because of a lower back injury. We totally cracked after a week and found a way to get creative. . We both need lovin’ in our life!
Post # 8
Honestly, we both kind of can’t stand more than 3 or 4 days.
The longest we went though has been one month this past December. He was busy getting his business set up and I barely saw him because I was working 2 jobs for the holidays and finishing up that semester of school, then I had kidney stones for 2 weeks and then I was on my period.
We both (sort of…) agreed that I would stop staying over our apartment (well, now just his until after the honeymoon) and we would stop having sex on June 1st. I don’t know if it is going ot happen but I’d like to try our hardest. I think it’d make our wedding night and honeymoon that much better!
But good luck, OP! I wish you guys the best!
Post # 9
My Fiance is career military, so I am regularly trying to prep myself for the inevitable long separation that comes from that. The longest we’ve gone so far has been six weeks, and I was a misery by the end of it. Mean and cruel and short-tempered. LOL at least all my friends knew the reason and didn’t hold it against me 😉
Who knows, maybe you’ll have fun pretending you’re 16 again and BJs are the best thing ever!!!!
Post # 11
- Wedding: April 2012 - St. Philip Catholic Church/Arcadia Brewing Co.
I have been on the pill for a couple years and when we first got engaged with all of the excitement (and family visiting) I forgot to take it for two days ( I never forgot before) I thuroughly freaked myself out and so we used condoms for the rest of the engagement and on top of that did not have any sex during lent (our wedding was the satuday after Easter). It was SO difficult but it made the wedding night/honeymoon that much better! 😉
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House
I haven’t had sex for a month (in Africa) and I am readyyyyy to fly home to Canada. If we were together, about a week is the longest.
Post # 13
Well, I’m sure I, along with a few others, may have some responses that are not within the norm, since I was a virgin (by choice, because of my faith) when I married, and I did not get married until I was in my mid 40s!
When DH tells me that I don’t have any patience, I just smile and tell him that I used it all up waiting until I was married before having sex! 🙂
Post # 14
Ouch! Yeah if we were married I wouldnt stop unless necessary, but if I were to get pregnant now my parents would kill me. Dont want that yet.
I waited 1.7 years too before I had sex with FI! I actually doubt we will be able to wait that long, because honestly we have said this many times and the most we can wait is about 2 1/2-3 months. Lets see what happens.
1 month isnt so bad, that actually goes by really qucikly.
Aww I’m proud of you guys! 🙂 Not many actually wait, thats good. & youre right there is ways around it 🙂
Ay that sucks! I hope he is much better now. & Fiance think the same 🙂 thats why we will work with “foreplay” for a while lol
Well I bet we would be the same if we lived together! But best of luck to you as well in waiting, I agree that it should make the wedding night that much more exciting and special! 😀 & thank you dear!
Haha I know right! That is what we plan to stick too, so we will have to wait and see how I take it! Usually we can only go 3 months the most because I start acting the same way 😉 when you want it, you want it lol
Lucky that you get to do it that often!
Oh thats scary! I really hope that if we do wait that it makes it so much better for us just like it was for you 😉
Post # 15
Hmmm probaly 2 weeks just due to being tired or stressed. But longer than that and I start to get very grouchy.
Post # 16
The sad part is we don’t even live together! We just got out apartment but he is staying there b y himself and I’ll move in after the wedding!