Post # 47
“It is very good that he supported your belief of waiting until you were married, any other man would have walked out once he heard he had to wait, well those that dont really care about the person themselves anyways, you picked the right man to become your husband! :)”
Very true! (Although I honestly believe that God chose him for me. 🙂 My DH is a strong Christian and a pastor, and, when we decided to pursue a relationship with each other, we both agreed that neither of us wanted to do anything beyond kissing until we were married (or as DH liked to say, after the “three ring circus” — meaning that we would need to legitimately be wearing all three rings: my e-ring and each of our wedding bands, for real) before anything else could happen. It definitely was extremely helpful that we were on the same page regarding this.
Post # 48
We waited for 3 years before getting married, but neither of us had ever had sex before, so we didn’t really know what we were missing.
The longest we’ve gone since being married is 2 months when he was in bootcamp. The sex after that was the BEST sex we’ve ever had! It makes me curious to see what sex will be like after an 8 month deployment… hehehe… 😉
Post # 49
Very true 🙂 & I agree that being on the same page was a great help, and him being a strong Christian and Pastor made it that much easier. I liked how he put it, the “three ring circus” I hadnt heard that one before 🙂 I always thought I would wait, but then I eventually changed my mind, so I tend to be very proud when I read that another bee like yourself actually waited until marriage. Its take a strong and determined person to say no, and you were one of them 🙂 Great job!
First off, great job on waiting that long! & well thats why I actually want to wait this time lol, I read all these stories how its so great after waiting so long, and I would like to experience that for myself 🙂
Post # 50
@lioness_89: I was in your exact position a while back- the condom breaking and having to take Plan B. Except SO was the one flipping a shit, not me. I was like “oh, something happened?” (because I was unaware the condom slipped or broke or whatever the hell happened) and he was all “OMFG THIS CAN’T HAPPEN MY LIFE WILL BE RUINED” and some nasty, hurtful stuff (mostly as a result of me being on the calmer side while we were on our way to the drug store while he flipped out and got mad at me for being calm and how it would ruin his life more than mine- my parents would be supportive while his would completely cut him off- we’re not quite engaged yet and still both live at home while in college- and how if I got pregnant I would take him for all he’s got and this and that… it wasn’t pleasant.)
But the the question at hand… we were long distance when we started dating so we had been together for two weeks before we saw each other. Then didn’t see each other for a while, then at about three months, lost out virginities and after that we went about three months before I came home from college (transferred home) and, with the exception of a couple times where we were able to have sex two weeks in a row (once each week… one or maybeeeee twice we had sex twice in one week. maybe) but it’s usually once a month. Then we plan to have sex but I end up having my period so it gets pushed back until I’m about to have my period again but it usually works out to once a month. He likes sex but… it’s a really, really low priority for him and while yeah, I like that he isn’t all about sex and junk but come onnnnn, he’s good at it and it’s fun and we’re young! And this past month -_- we were gonna have sex but I got my period so we just fooled around a little while plans to have sex the next week. That was March. So no sex in March. Now it’s almost the end of April and we still haven’t had sex -_- but my period just ended and finals are almost over so… maybe Saturday? or maybe May? -_- it’s our god forsaken schedules. Between his work and school, he’s busy all day until 5:30, or later with meetings and labs. Then I had school twice a week until 6:45 and I’m a waitress so I don’t exactly have regular hours and forget having a Friday or Saturday night off!
Post # 51
Oh god that must have been horrible to hear him go off like that, but I’m glad it all worked out and you didnt get pregnant. Like him getting cut off, I’m sure that if I become pregnant my parents would literally kick me out of the house. Since the pill has worked before I am trying to relax, and I was ending my period, so I hope I’m fine? It must suck to have your schedules all mixed up! & I’m actually surprised he doesnt push more for it, but its good in a way because you know thats not the only thing he cares about. I hope you get to this weekend (if thats what you want). I know what you mean of planning for it and then having to change it because of random things, and btw if you arent exactly engaged yet, I hope it happens soon! 🙂
Post # 52
It wasn’t fun. But I didn’t just sit there and take it. I have a certain tone I get when I’m really pissed off and not gonna take anyone’s shit and that was the ONLY time I’ve ever gotten that tone with him. I know when I took it, my period came a few days later, which was a week earlier than it should have. And if your period was just ending, there’s only a very small chance any sperm would live long enough to see another egg come along, even if you didn’t take the pill so I wouldn’t worry too much 🙂 I was a little surprised at first too because he was all excited about sex before we started having it but after, he said he realized it wasn’t as important as he thought. And he has a bad knee (first time we had sex, it locked up and was super painful for him) so it takes away from the more pleasurable feelings and it’s no fun to ALWAYS be on top. I would love to get laid this weekend lol. I don’t work until like 5pm on Saturday so I’m hoping for an afternoon romp… if he’s up for it- he stays out really late on Fridays. It just gets so frustrating sometimes. We’ll plan for a Wednesday- nope, he ends up having a meeting. Thursday? At the last minute he’ll have to be home for dinner. Monday? God forbid we decide to get dinner because after that, there’s no time because we live halfway across the city from each other and his parents throw a shit fit if we have sex at their house.
🙂 Thanks! I know it isn’t gonna be happening too soon though. Just like he’d get kicked out and cut off if he got me pregnant, the same would go if we got engaged anytime soon. It’s been a year and a half but it’s probably gonna be another year and a half (which would be right before he graduates) before we get engaged. I’m wearing a promise ring but I’m not allowed to wear it around his family (it was his grandmother’s- she gave it to him because he was the only one she trusted when she couldn’t even trust herself to keep it and his mom is mad she didn’t get it so she doesn’t get to know I have it now)
(wow lol I really let myself get carried away talking… typing, whatever lol)
Post # 53
I voted 1 week- 1 month. I could go longer if there was a time we weren’t together, like if I was away for school or he was on tour… we’d still find a way to keep in some sort of intimate contact. We’ve only gone longer than a week a few times, but are now trying to make sure we give ourselves time to “reconnect” a few times a week.
Post # 54
Willingly? 2 weeks. Not willingly? 3 months.
Post # 55
I voted 1 week – 1 month but honestly, the longest we go without sex (in the form of intercourse) is when I have period. And even during that time I please him and he finds ways how to please me…
Post # 56
Anything longer than a week and we both get kinda bad tempered and short with each other- as a couple we need sex to relieve sexual tension otherwise it builds up too much.
Post # 57
Well… it’s currently been since New Years. lol. DH wasn’t all about having sex with a massively pregnant lady. We’re just (impatiently) waiting for the all-clear and my Mirena to get out in now. lol
I think the longest has been about 5 months? He’s military and we were long distance for about 2 years so dry spells happen more often than we’d like.
Post # 58
Ouch! That must really suck! & yeah I like being on top sometimes but not ALL the time so I get what you mean. Geez it seems so difficult to have a little fun lol but tell him what you just told me and he may make time 😉 It really sucks that you have to wait a while just to get engaged, but hey I waited 6 years, so you can do it! I wore a promise ring before as well 🙂 bought it with his very first pay check! I would understand why his mom would get mad about you wearing it, but if it wasnt meant for her to wear, too bad, his grandma chose you! 🙂 For now pretend that your promise ring is your engagement ring lol, everything else will come before you know it! & dont worry about writing too much, I like reading stories 🙂
thats good! 🙂
not bad! 🙂
I think everyone has to stop during that week :/ Fiance still gets somethin during that week, and he loves it that he doesnt have to wait! Good that he finds a way to please you as well 🙂
yeah I bet! We wait longer now just because we have too, otherwise I would feel the same way!
wow thats been a while! Good that he isnt all about sex and you are both find a way to be waiting, even if it is impatiently!
Post # 59
Before I met my current Fiance, I went 18 years!
Post # 61
I’m along the same lines as most people I think…we did the LDR for a while and the longest was five months, but that was 4 years ago…I can’t imagine going back to that situation, but we would do what we needed to for us to work. Otherwise, no more than a week!