Whats the max you would pay to attend a DW?

posted 3 years ago in Destination Weddings
  • poll: Whats the max you would pay to attend a DW?
    For a close friend or family- I would pay anything to be there : (62 votes)
    19 %
    I'd try my best, but over 2-3k is asking too much : (116 votes)
    36 %
    I don't attend DW because they are almost always too expensive/ Less than 2k : (125 votes)
    39 %
    other? : (18 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 139
    Member
    38 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    We are having a small destination wedding in Maui in july, and we would never do this to anyone attending (family or not). 2k+ is a lot to ask for.

    We are having less than 20 people, mostly our immediate family and a few very close friends, and we are paying for their accomodations (they insisted on purchasing their own tickets, meals and entertainment). There is also a strict no gift policy. We both feel like even $700 for tickets + cost of living in Maui for a week is a lot. Someone mentioned that this is ok since people are technically going on a nice vacation, but I will disagree. It looks more like a forced trip than a nice vacation, since you are the one who sets the dates. 

    If you are considering a Destination Wedding, please run your plans by everyone you plan to invite first and give the guests enough time to prepare (at least 9 months to a year). Your guests should not feel obligated to attend something so expensive. 

    Post # 140
    Member
    1737 posts
    Bumble bee

    My brother got married in India and I didn’t go, neither did my dad or other siblings. We just didn’t want to use our money or vacation days for India. Plus we aren’t Indian/Hindu and he had already been married in the States months earlier which we all attended. My brother was very, very disappointed, but that can happen if you do a Destination Wedding where people don’t want to go or can’t afford. He had also told us only 8 months prior. No relationship was damaged because we didn’t attend. We are all still on good terms.

    Post # 141
    Member
    152 posts
    Blushing bee

    TBH I didn’t read all the pages.

    But if you want to cut costs for the dog housing you could try getting a pet sitter, this website takes a sign up fee but it might work out cheaper because the actually sitting is free. https://www.trustedhousesitters.com

    Could you also stay at a different hotel?

    Post # 143
    Member
    4 posts
    Wannabee
    • Wedding: January 2018

    We are having a destination wedding. It’s $1750 pp for a week, flights hotel and food/drink. The people who want to come are coming, those who can’t afford it… oh well. Our feelings aren’t hurt and nor should theirs. We couldn’t fathom spent $20,000+ on a few hours of fun and having months of planning and stress leading up to it. It’s our wedding so this was how we wanted to do it. It’s still going to cost us over $6000 but to spend that on a week and a beach holiday with our family and friends we could justify. The planning was easy, I called the travel agent, picked a day and wedding package, paid for it. Done and done. Now I have to get invites out and wait. With all that being said, I did talk to everyone I wanted in my line up first, just to feel out whether or not they would be attending. Then I asked if they would like to be in the wedding party. It’s not fair to put that stress on them if they can’t afford to come. We get it but this was affordable for us!! I would just tell her you can’t make it work. If she’s a true friend she would understand;) 

     

    cheers 

    Post # 144
    Member
    371 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    fromatoz :  I think that is about average. I don’t think paying 2-3k is too expensive for a destination wedding; I just know I personally could not afford it. The most I’ve ever paid for a destination wedding was $200, which was the cost of gas to drive there and ONE night’s stay in a hotel other than the wedding hotel. Maybe you could check to see if you could combine rooms with someone to save money or even stay at a less expensive hotel nearby. Good luck!

    Post # 145
    Member
    697 posts
    Busy bee

    It depends on how much you value you the friendship.  That resort does sound unreasonably expensive for a Destination Wedding though…  Is there a cheaper option nearby?

    Post # 146
    Member
    433 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    I don’t think b/c you don’t make a friends wedding the friendship is over. Also I didn’t make one of my sisters wedding or the other sisters 2nd wedding and we were fine. We are still as close as ever but circumstances come up and sometimes people can’t make everything they want to.

    Post # 147
    Member
    1274 posts
    Bumble bee

    Yikes. Unless the Destination Wedding is within a couple states drive or it was for my sister, I would be a firm no. Brides and Grooms can do whatever they want, but shouldn’t expect their guests to cover the cost of it.

    Post # 148
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    8173 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

     

    cabber :  

    I know this is late, but I just wanted to agree. Saying they are perfectly fine with declined  invitations and totally understand the reasons is one thing , but the attitudes and behaviour following often  say something quite other !

    It often fairly obviously conveyed that  you should ‘save up  for it’ and/or that it is ‘a nice holiday for you’ .   

    Post # 149
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    445 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    I happen to live in Mexico.  If you wish to save money the best thing you can do is find a cheaper hotel to stay at.  Air B&B is going to be your absolute lowest best price in mexico.

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