(Closed) What's the meanest thing someone has ever said to you?

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Post # 122
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

My best friend in middle school pointed out a picture of me in the yearbook with my arm up and told me that my arms looked like fat legs. I haven’t worn a short sleeved shirt since. Ever. 

In high school, one of my professors took sexual interest in me. I didn’t understand what was going on because I was extremely innocent and naive. I thought we were just close and connecting intellectually through writing.. We exchanged emails and such about my writing that were intimate (emotionally). My parents found them and thought I was trying to seduce him. Around the same time, my dad inspected my phone and found that I had googled “kama sutra.” I had heard it on TV and just wanted to know what it was.. We got into a huge fight, and I couldn’t talk because I was sobbing and so confused. They called my younger sisters into the room and my mother said “Your sister is a slut. Never be like her.” 

I will never forget that. 

Post # 123
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Bumble bee

Some of the worst:

When I was in fifth grade, I was bullied. I befriended one girl who everyone thought was wierd because she wore black clothes and was kind of goth/grunge, plus she hit puberty wayyy earlier than everyone else. We were inseperable, so people labeled us as lesbians, Devil-worshippers (we bonded over amutual love of Harry Potter), etc. That didn’t last once the guys hit puberty and she had developed in places other girls hadn’t. I also ended up with the nickname “pizza face” because I had acne (really only in middle school) that no kind of face wash or home remedy could fix.

Once, that same friend and I were at my house alone (we were like 12 or 13). We were playing around with my mom’s make-up, trying on red lipstick and eye liner. We would NEVER have left the house like this, mind you, but it was fun to try at a sleepover. Well, another friend’s mom came by to pick something up from my house and when she saw us she started screaming at us that we were sluts and bitches and would end up knocked up at fifteen and never going anywhere in life, because we looked like tramps. Honestly, we were just playing around, but she wouldn’t let me get a word in edgewise to even try to defend myself. I ended up in tears later on. (For the record, she was completely wrong!)

When I was 16, I started birth control for my periods and gained weight. I only gained about 10 pounds and was nowhere near unhealthy, but I couldn’t help that for a few weeks my appetite increased and I wanted to eat everything in sight. My dad told me I needed to start exercising and watching what I ate, which made me so self-conscious. I wanted to die. I simply couldn’t believe he said that when I was at a perfectly healthy weight. That one comment made me feel so fat and so gross for months afterward.

Some of the worst ones have been from my mom. I know she has a personality disorder, but some of the things she says are really hurtful. She’s told me she wishes I wasn’t her daughter and I’m a terrible daughter (which I’m not), she told one of her friends she didn’t give a shit about coming to my high school graduation, she’s threatened to lie to have me put in a juvenile detention facility. It’s horrible, and then she expects you to act like everything’s perfect when she comes off of her trip (when she has bad spells, they come on sudden and last for days, but then they go away really quickly). She’s also made comments that my best friend looks like a man (which she definitely does not), and makes ridiculous, rude, stereotypical assumptions about her religion and tends to degrade it and act like it’s a joke.

Post # 124
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@lealorali:  My ex-BF had some doozies, including “you’re too fat to eat that”, “nobody will believe you if you tell them (about being abused) because you’re nuts”, “you’re right, your parents really don’t love you as much as your sister” etc.

My first ever boyfriend turned out to be gay, I asked him what he was doing with me and he said “you’re so tall, like a man”.

The winner – my aunt and grandmother told me that mental illness is all made up and if I wanted attention I should just ask for it instead of being a selfish brat. This was after I’d been hospitalised. They then told my parents it was their fault for creating an attention hog of a daughter. A couple of years later my aunt starts saying she “definitely has depression” and it’s so hard and nobody understands it etc. I could have smacked her.

Post # 125
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270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

A “friend” of mine was complaining about her car not running, and saying her parents were not helping her enough. (They bought her the car.) She was about thirty at the time and I was slightly younger. She was adopted. (I was in foster homes but I have been on my own since I was 14.) I told her she should be thankful that she had great parents, because she was complaining about how they owed it to her to get it fixed, and they were bastards, useless, etc… I didn’t say what was really on my mind, that she needed to take responsibility for herself and quit using them. Anyway, she said I wouldn’t understand because my parents never wanted me. 

Needless to say, we don’t hang around anymore. I still think she is lucky to have them and takes advantage of them.

Post # 126
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438 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

When I was in grade school a couple of girls found out I was Jewish (this is in a small rural town where 95%+ of the population is Christian- I have absolutely nothing against Christians, Darling Husband was raised that way as were many of my close friends, but it did make me “different”), and proceeded to push me under the bus seat while chanting “we go up and you go down.” We were a good few rows back so I’m sure the bus driver didn’t hear. It sucked.

Post # 127
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Oh man, I just want to hug everyone! While I’m over the “meanest” things said to me now, at the time they really hurt. Even thinking of some of them make me a little sad. My ex husband was incredibly mean to me, and often said just cruel things, although a lot of what he said that was mean was along the lines of typical abusive crap. He said a lot of “You’re lucky to have me b/c absolutely no one would ever love you. I don’t even know how you have friends”. while certainly not the meanest, he would commonly say that we couldn’t have vacations/nice things/a new car because I “chose” to spend all of our money on medications and health related expenses (Yup, you know me! I’m all about tossing aside all of the “fun” money on surgery co-pays! whoooo hoo! So much awesome!)

It’s a long story, but I have three half sisters all of whom i was not raised with (i was raised with them as “cousins”. It’s also important to note that while I’m biased, I had a significantly better upbringing on many levels). Anyway, one day my youngest half sister was very angry at the world and me. I received the brunt of her anger that day. It wasn’t too bad until she started yelling that i was the unwanted one, and that no one wanted me. I was in my mid-20s (and she was in her mid teens). It was even more awful when her mother actually joined in, and then mentioned that b/c of my health issues (which were not diagnosed until was 8 or so) that was more reason why no one at all would want me.

Post # 128
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I didn’t hear this, but my boyfriend did and told me about it months later. Every year I go to see the cherry blossoms in DC, and ever since my Japanese sister-in-law gifted me a yukata (cotton kimono) I like to wear it there with a paper parasol. 

Two years ago, as my boyfriend were walking along the blossoms, apparently some Asian guy said “Japanese slut” as he walked by. Prolly good I didn’t hear it, because I’d have taken my parasol and smashed it over his head!

I am not Japanese but I love Japanese culture, so I was offended at the racial prejudice, the ridiculousness of calling some random, very modestly dressed girl a slut, and just that nastiness in someone’s soul it would take to do that.

Post # 129
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@MlleDarcy:  Oh my GOSH! Their daughter comes probably dangerously close to being sexually abused by an adult and all they can do is think their little girl is a slut?! Do you still talk to these people/have they ever figured out what total dicks they are?!

@craftylish: And yours is even worse. What a an awful, hard-hearted bitch. It literally makes me vomit that people can think that way. I am so sorry for what happened to you, and that you were made to feel ashamed of something you should feel no shame for by someone you should have been able to trust.

Post # 130
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I was told I have a manly voice.

I only cared because it was kind of true. I do have a deeper voice than I’d like.

I have had some pretty nasty stuff said to me, but I was unaware people even got upset over being called names until I went on the interwebs lol. I’ve just always been around people who insulted each other (both seriously and as a joke) so I was never really bothered by words, but that one got to me because there is some truth to it and there’s nothing I can do about it. I have a ‘phone voice’ because I have been told I sound worse on the phone than IRL, so I talk in a higher pitch on the phone lol.

Post # 131
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984 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Let’s see… my mum, trying to shame me into losing weight for a family wedding, once told me ‘don’t even bother showing up, I’ll be too ashamed to be seen with you’. She was angry and I quickly forgave her, but it still stings.

Also a girl in my class a few years ago told me that because I wasn’t chasing down a degree, I was going to ‘end up a single mother with five kids, living off MY taxes’. Now I see it was childish and pathetic, but at the time that burned!

And the best of all, was at my old job where my manager called me in and said that she’d received complaints about me. I was shocked because I put in huge efforts to be nice to people at that job even though I didn’t like them much. She then went on to tell me that I’m ‘mean, nasty, nobody likes you, You come across as arrogant and judgemental, and you seem to put forth and effort to make people hate you’. I burst into tears after that and she was shocked, she then asked ‘Do you mean to tell me you don’t realise how horrible you are?!’

Yeah… there’ve been some painful things.

Post # 132
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1218 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@dv3849:  What a bitch!

Also, I’m studying teaching, and I was in the gifted programs right through high school. I had the grades for medical or law school – but I want to be a teacher. Being smart doesn’t automatically disqualify you from teaching and it should NOT be seen as a ‘dumb’ career. Your counsellor was nuts!

Post # 133
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567 posts
Busy bee

A student in my class stormed into a lecture theatre and pointedat me and shouted that he wished I was dead…. infront of a class of 150 students and a lecturer.  I froze, my heart was beating so fast but I continued with sitting in the lecture theatre.  He stormed back out.  He was then diagnosed with aspergers after that as we reported him to our department; he was jealous that I was sitting with a girl he liked and we hadn’t interpreted his silent wish to ask him to sit with us.  I’ve nver been so scared i my life, because of the audience, the shock of it, and the fact is was huge and had a booming voice, and could easily knock me out.

Post # 134
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Busy bee

@ZebraPrintMe:  :O what a beaaaactch!  Hugs to you, sometimes people come up with incredibly horrible things to say (normally because they are jealous and were probably jealous of your way of serving customers politely).

Post # 135
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567 posts
Busy bee

@adoc86:  “Then there are all the people who assume that I’m mentally challenged and make really offensive comments. I’m given children’s menus, always referred to as sweetheart/sweetie etc, and often people speak veryslowly to me. I understand that in their mind they are just being nice, but I find all of this to be terribly rude.” 

 

:O  How can people give you a children’s menu just for using a wheelchair?  People astound me every day.

Post # 136
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567 posts
Busy bee

@craftylish:  Hugs.  It’s what parents say that brands most.

 

Oh, and another time I got egged at school by some biiiitch in the class 2 years below because she was trying to impress a boy…and I was known as the goodytwoshoes of the school.  That walk home was fun…. oh, and the teacher who didn’t want to help me in anyway, yeah biiiiitch, you had a crying 15 year old and you did nothing. 

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