(Closed) What's the minimum size centre stone you'd like…

posted 8 years ago in Rings
  • poll: I'd be happy with at least ...

    No centre stone

    .10 carat

    .25 carat

    .50 carat

    .75 carat

    1.00 carat

    1.25 carat

    1.50 carat

    1.75 carat

  • Post # 137
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    Helper bee

    @busybee3791: I understand the concept.

    Not sure why you felt it necessary to personally attack me by calling me “tacky” and “immature”. I never cast doubt on the validity of engagements with less expensive (or no) rings…though my words have obviously been falsely interpreted as such.

    A ring isn’t a requirement for everyone’s engagement to be official or meaningful and I never said it was. For me, a ring is a requirement. I’m surprised that this is even vaguely controversial! I merely shared my preferences in a thread which was created for that purpose.

    It seems to me that you’re the one who is having some difficulty seeing things from a perspective other than your own.

    Post # 138
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    1946 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We picked out a .5 together, but he surprised me by buying the same ring with a .75!

    Post # 139
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    457 posts
    Helper bee

    @SomedayHisBride:  I’m sure you’re not understanding. In my original post, I said that I don’t see why anyone is attacking you over your preference for your ring. If it works for the two of you, that’s really great and I’m sure it will be beautiful. 

     

    But it calling the sentiment of not using a ring or using string “dumpster diving” is a tacky thing to say no matter what. Respect the sentiments of others and I will respect yours. 

    Post # 140
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    @SomedayHisBride:  I only brought up him designing a ring as something he might do if you haven’t TOLD him strongly enough what your preference is.  You said you’ve hinted, but if you’ve only hinted he might not quite get the hint. And it would suck for him if he didn’t get the hint and designed a gorgeous ring for you and you said no because it wasn’t Tiffany’s.  

    Post # 141
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    381 posts
    Helper bee

    @RenoSweeney24: Can you post a pic of your ring? I LOVE the Soleste!

    As far as the Tiffany thing goes, I have just always loved the brand. It’s like anything else, some girls HAVE to have a Vera Wang gown (which I can also kinda relate to, lol). I always dreamed of having a Holly Golightly moment just once in my life. Silly? Maybe…but to each their own.

    Post # 142
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    6397 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Honestly, when I was looking for my new ring I was looking at .30 marquise diamond rings. I would have been perfectly fine with that (though marquise stones show bigger than rounds.)

    My first ring was a 2.5 emerald/cushion (I could never tell which) and it was just too big and bulky for me.

    Post # 143
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @SomedayHisBride:  To some extent I know where you’re coming from, you want something specific. 

    I too wanted something specific and would truthfully prefer to not get married if that something specific could not be acquired. My Fiance wouldn’t propose with something I didn’t want, nor with nothing.. Neither of us thinks that acceptable. The ring is a reflection on him as well, and he would not be comfortable with that. 

    I had no minimum carat size, I wanted a round brilliant solitaire that suited my hand. My Fiance and I both agreed that 2 carats or more looked best, and went with a stone just over 2 carats. I’d have been irritated if he disregarded my thoughts and opinions and chose to propose with whatever he felt like proposing with, personally I’d rather just be together than cut corners. We agreed to get married because we have the freedom to do exactly what we want, that included the ring I wanted/ he wanted to buy me. 

    Post # 144
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    @SomedayHisBride:  

     

    Anyway, as long as he can afford it and KNOWS that you want a Tiffany.  I think it just seemed a little whoah to some people that you posted that you MUST have 2ct or larger D/E color from Tiffany’s and if you didn’t get it you would say no.  No problem with knowing what you like, of course.  If I hadn’t gotten what I loved, I would have been disappointed, but I wouldn’t have said no.  I think that’s the part that shocked people.

    ANYWAY, I love the soleste and I think it’s super great. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 145
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    381 posts
    Helper bee

    @busybee3791: I never once called “the sentiment of not using a ring” dumpster diving. To me, the idea of giving a literal piece of string as an engagement ring is “tacky”. A piece of string or bread tie are things I routinely throw in the trash and I’m fairly certain no one actually wears a twist tie or string as their engagement symbol. It seems like it’s just something being used to make me feel badly about my preferences, and to insinuate that I’m a materialistic bitch for not fantasizing about my love putting a dirty rubber band on my finger as a symbol of commitment to marry.

    It seems like you only want to argue, and while I can see where you’re coming from, I sense that regardless of how I explain myself, you won’t like what I have to say. So we can just agree to disagree.

    Post # 147
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    381 posts
    Helper bee

    @RenoSweeney24 OMG…it is perfection on you! Sooo beautiful! Thanks for posting the pictures for me, and for being so kind.

    Post # 149
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    468 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @SomedayHisBride:  Listen, I’m not saying that you can’t want what you want, and that that cannot be expensive. I don’t, personally, understand how a person could possibly say no to a man they supposedly love proposing to spend the rest of his life with her, but if you really cannot imagine marrying a man who chose a different ring than what you demanded, then that’s 100% up to you. And yes, you are demanding that he get you a specific ring. You outright said that you would not accept anything not Tiffany, and would be devastated if it were less than enormous. I honestly feel terrible for your man that the ring he offers you is so much more important to you than him asking you to marry him. 

    Post # 150
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    381 posts
    Helper bee

    @SarahTee: You can “feel sorry” for him all you want. This man is the air that I breathe and I know there’s no one else I could feel this way about in the world. The whole “saying no to anything but Tiffany” thing isn’t an issue, because I know he will honor my wishes when the time comes. I won’t have to say no to him, and if he theoretically couldn’t afford any ring at all I would still marry him.

    Post # 151
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    494 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I would’ve been happy with anything but I did say I wanted a .50 and I got a .71 ๐Ÿ™‚
    I love it ๐Ÿ˜€

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