Post # 227
@Zhabeego: Sure if they demand it. But most don’t, if they pick out a certain ring, and then figure out a way to afford that ring so what? We didn’t set a budget, I knew what I wanted, we just compromised the size and he spent less money for a while to afford it. Yes it has been a fantasy since I was little, so what?
I think as long as the guy is fine with the girl telling him what ring she would like and is happy to buy it, I see nothing wrong with that. If she demands it or says no just because he got a ring somewhere else that’s a problem.
Post # 228
- Wedding: November 2016 - Highfield House, Stanley, Tasmania
I had no centre stone requirements, I feel that as long as it’s from my Fiance, I will be happy. I did, however, have a preference for smallish stones
Post # 229
@Jacqui90: I’m not criticizing you so I’m not sure why you’re being defensive?
Frankly, I can’t imagine any guy being “fine” with a woman “telling” him what he is expected to buy for her.
Post # 230
@Zhabeego: I don’t think any woman tells a guy what he is expected to buy, just what she would like him to buy. I am defensive because you’re attacking pretty much what Fiance and I did. I told him what I dreamed of, he made it happen. I think lots of guys love it when their girlfriends tell them what they would like, makes ring shopping a lot easier! Well that’s how Fiance saw it anyway haha.
ETA: Sorry for being defensive, I just am overly sensitive and don’t like when a choice I made or something similar to what I have done is attacked, so I got defensive.
Post # 231
@BrideToBe14: Ghetto people, really? I find your post to be extremely rude and in poor taste.
Post # 232
@Jacqui90: I think that it is sweet and loving that your Fiance made your dreams come true! I am happy you are happy 🙂 What I think @Zhabeego: and some of the other posters meant is that there is a big difference between what you desire, dream of, like to see as a minimum and what you demand, or refuse to accept or marry over.
I think the sentiment that many of the PP and me personally were taken aback by was somedayhisbride saying: “I don’t think I could say yes if it wasn’t from Tiffany, because it would feel like a deliberate slap in the face.”
Marriage meant so much more to me than the ring, that I personally couldn’t imagine myself (or someone else so in love like us) saying no to the man I love bc it didn’t match my dream. But to each his own. I hope that clarifies what I think was meant, and congrats!!!
Post # 233
@Payless: It was wonderful to see a positive and understanding comment directed towards me – thank you for being so nice, and for being able to see things from my point of view without twisting things or putting words in my mouth.
Your ring is lovely, btw!
Post # 234
@MrsBuesleBee: Let us not forget Vera Wang is now at David’s Bridal, the pariah of wedding gown boutiques(at least on WB).
I’d get a Vera Gown at David’s Bridal. I’m sorry that I and all the other “ghetto” people are ruining Vera for everyone else : I’d recommend that those who are unable to deal with us stay locked in their ivory tower so they don’t get the vapours from the very thought.
Post # 235
@Payless: I absolutely understand. It is more the way that she expressed her desire for an expensive ring, rather than the fact she wants one. Yes, she said she’ll say yes, although she’ll be disappointed, but she also said “I don’t think I could say yes if it wasn’t from Tiffany, because it would feel like a deliberate slap in the face.”
and “I would accept a 1/3 carat solitaire as long as it was the classic Tiffany setting, but I’d probably have to pick my jaw up off the ground from shock/disappointment (at the size only) afterward, not gonna lie.”,
and “I’m VERY color sensitive and I don’t know if I could handle any lower than F in color (preferably D or E).”
I mean C’MON! Sensitive towards color, so you can’t handle anything lower than F. That to me sounds ignorant and spoilt. Regardless of whether or not he can afford it. That’s all! 🙂
Post # 236
@SomedayHisBride: I’m not sure why your desire for a Tiffany ring is causing so much controversy! No one would dare criticize someone for saying they’d only accept a diamond chip from Kay jewelers, so I don’t know why Tiffanys is so controversial! 2 carats isn’t even that outrageous in some parts of the country(It is where I live though).
I say all of this as someone with a .25 carat ring from a mall chain store 🙂
Post # 237
Not engaged yet … I chose 2 cts because i like the finger coverage it gives me for my size 8.5 fingers … That being said … I DONT WANT A DIAMOND. lol. I would love a moissy … sapphire … topaz … He’s the picky one so of course diamond is best … SMH. However, My mom has offered us her ring to use and its a .5 solitaire i think! She has smaller fingers and it looks bigger on her … I will rock that .5 diamond proudly! … My boyfriend did say he would probably want to have it reset into another band. Of all the rings we’ve looked at he likes all the ones with more finger coverage … so we are on the same page there.
Post # 238
@Bridey77: lol! I know, at this point I just have to laugh at how crazy things got in this thread. At one point, I was being made to feel bad for calling a theoretical piece of string garbage instead of pretending it was priceless jewelry from a high-end retailer. Just silliness.
Post # 239
Yes! Exactly. Just goes to show you can be a classy bride at any price point, and you can also be a wealthy tasteless bigot with a heart full of hate and pretense. I’d take the former in a VW DB dress any day of the week.
Also yes re: Tiffanys – haters are always going to hate. If you love it and can afford it… why not!? Theres a reason the Tiffany setting is the most copied ering ever. The T&Co premium is steep but people pay it because for various reasons, its worth it *to them*. If it’s not worth it *to you* … then go elsewhere! duh!
is speaking in the context of *her relationship*- when you date a wealthy older man one of the perks is that a dream ring is easily attainable. Its the theme of the week to bash her, and this bee does not approve.
Post # 240
Regarding string rings, I think I’d take one! There are some that are pretty cool:
This one is made from a guitar string. As a musician’s wife, I’d love this! I’d totally want one, especially if my Fiance was a guitar player(my husband plays piano/keyboards):
these are real strings dipped in gold. I’m not sure its what I’d pic for an ering, but I’m betting someone somewhere did. I’d totally wear it as a pinkyring though:
This one is supposedly silver….I’m not sure about the cost because someone had already bought it from the site….uhm, I think I’d save myself money and just make one myself :
Post # 241
@MrsSkeletonKey: God I love your ring.