(Closed) What’s the most awkward way someone has asked if they’re invited?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Me and my cousins have always been kinda close..but only kinda. My 12 year old sister asked her over thanksgiving right after they got engaged if they could be in their wedding. Everyone from her side of the family laughed akwardly and looked nervous.

Turns out there were no kids allowed, except for the ones in the wedding party. When Thanksgiving came again before her wedding, my sister asks, “I’m not close enough to you to be at your wedding? Do you hate us or something?”

It was so akward, and my mother and grandmother didn’t go becasue they were both offened, and they were my ride so I didn’t go, AND our other aunt didn’t go becasue my mom didn’t go. She had like….no family at her wedding and it’s been so akward at family events sence

Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My cousin started talking about making travel plans to Hawaii…ummmm sorry but you’re not invited.  Awkward!  I just didn’t say anything.

Post # 19
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

@Luckygal5571:  “Do you hate us or something?”  Yikes.  That’s awful.

I went to a Halloween party hosted by one of my friends from my theatre company.  Everyone at the party that I already knew was from that theatre company, and ALL of them are invited… except for one guy.  Everyone else was talking about my wedding the whole night and how excited they are, and the one guy, who is kind of awkward already, was just standing there.  At the end, the hostess saw me out and said goodbye, and she pointed to her invitation sitting in a stack of mail near the door, and said she would send in her RSVP as soon as possible.

The awkward guy was standing nearby listening to this whole exchange, and he just looked at me with this hopeful look in his eyes and said, “Can I come?”

UGH.  So awkward.

Post # 20
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I ran into a girl I grew up with. She asked me lots of questions about the wedding, but I managed to just give her the date and a general area. As we were leaving, she said, “Oh wait, let me write down my address for my invitation!” Really? We haven’t seen eachother or hung out in YEARS. Just because I answered your question does not mean you’re invited. Wth?

Post # 21
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Ms Bookworm: This too! I had people coming up to me at my Papa’s funeral a few weeks ago asking about my wedding. I was SO PISSED. I am not concerned with telling you my colors, my date, or anything like that right now. I wanted to scream “Go away, none of you are invited!” But…I just gave them a look and walked off.

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@AmeliaBedelia: WOW. Maybe this is a little stringent of me, but my thought is that if there would be no other way to get a possible guest’s address, as in you and her don’t talk on the phone, email, Facebook, anything… then that should be a sign unto her that she’s not going to be invited. Wow.

I don’t have any awkward self-invitees yet, but I always feel weird when someone asks the date because then I feel like it sounds like I’m pre-inviting them. I’m anticipating weirdness because I won’t even work at my current workplace by the time I get married, so, um. Not sure how that’ll pan out!

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We had some friends (not super close) keep hinting at bein invited so we did invite them finally and they rsvp’d yes and then never came. Didn’t even say why, send a card, nothing…

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

Someone who works at the same place as I do, but in a different department seems to think she is invited to my wedding.  I am coridal when I encounter her, but find her a bit…difficult to deal with. 

We were both waiting for a meeting to begin and made what I thought was small talk.  After she asked if my ring meant I was married already (she can be pretty clueless at times) and learning that it was an engagement ring, she said that she can’t wait to see my dress. 

I haven’t seen her in a social setting over five years.  She is not on our guest list.

 

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

 We are having a very small intimate wedding in Las Vegas, only inviting parents, siblings, and our best friends. Fiance has a cousin who knows we are getting married, and he has stressed to him that it is going to be a very small party for us.

Same cousin hosted Thanksgiving dinner this year, and as we got in, the very first thing that was said to us was from cousins wife “Hear your wedding plans are coming right along!” which we never discussed with them, which leaves FIs dad/stepmom having talked about it. I just nodded and said “we are getting there”…Later, the cousin was sitting down beside us saying “We sure would love to go back to Vegas and see some more shows. They have great shows there in Vegas you know… we cant wait to go back”.

 

We sat in the longest minute of silence EVER!

Fi’s Dad kind of has a history of including people even when he shouldn’t, or doesn’t have the okay, and we are just hoping he hasn’t told the cousin&cousins wife that they are invited already – because that isn’t the case. We aren’t even close to them…. and maybe if we were getting financial help from someone else, I can see it then, but we are paying for this entire shindig all our lonesome and small/intimate/fun is exactly what we want, not awkward dinner reception. blaaah

Post # 26
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

@TankGirl: Right? I was thinking…if I needed your address, I probably would have asked for it already. She doesn’t know that we sent out Save-The-Date Cards months ago! I was just like O_o

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013 - Colonial Country Club, Ft. Myers, FL

Not a day goes by when one of my patients asks when my wedding is so they can clear their calendars. They are dead serious!

Post # 28
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Bumble bee

my FI’s friend’s ex-girlfriend,,,, yes you read that right.. asked me to send her an invite to new york on facebook…….

i didnt’ reply.. um no I haven’t seen you in 2 years. you’re not invited..

also this guy I kinda talk to like once every 6 months, asked me on trax(a public transportation train in utah) to come to my wedding,, very uncomfortable.. i just smiled … awkward.

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

We invited most of our extended family, but not all of it. The ones we left off were on DH’s side, and they were people he just didn’t feel close to and didn’t want to invite (he has a ton of aunts and uncles and cousins). The most obvious one he left off was his uncle, who has been estranged from the family for years and didn’t come out when DH’s grandmother (who is his uncle’s mother) was sick. His uncle also didn’t come out for the funeral about a month later, which all the rest of the family attended.

A few months after that, Darling Husband posted something about the wedding on facebook, and his uncle’s wife responded, “I’m so excited! When’s the date??” Darling Husband was really confused by that, but thankfully, he just didn’t respond and nothing ever came of it. 

Post # 30
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Bee Keeper

In a birthday card… 🙁

Post # 31
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I haven’t had anything super awkward except FI’s cousin… they just had a new baby and posted a picture on facebook. I told her he was so cute and we hoped to meet him soon (they live in the US and we are in Canada) and she responded with “Oh don’t worry, he’ll be at the wedding”. Meanwhile we are planning an adult only wedding. 

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