Post # 32
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
A friend from work asked me if we were going to make the guests wear traditional Chinese clothing… I was like “…what?” LoL Fiance is white and I am about as white washed as they come… and why would we even do that in the first place!? what a weird question! But I think her question stemmed from her invitation to her other coworker’s wedding, where they asked guests going to the ceremony to wear African clothing because they are both from Nigeria? But that too, is a strange request to make of your guests…
Post # 33
@jasn: I think they mean, are you having a sit down dinner, or is it cocktail food (and therefore, mostly standing). This enables guests to know that they should eat before the reception or afterwards.
Also, the question about an open bar tells them whether or not they should bring cash to pay for their own drinks.
I’m sure they didn’t word the questions in the best way that they could, but they aren’t the most mindless questions.
Post # 34
I’ve had several people ask how much it will be per plate! I’ll usually just answer with “expensive” because as a grown adult, you should probably know not to ask things like that!! And why exactly do you need to know that I’m spending $78/pp?
Post # 35
I find most questions weird, especially from strangers or vendors. I know they’re trying to be nice, but it’s all a bit odd. The jewellery asking how our plans are going, bridesmaid dress-maker asking about the flowers, flower lady asking about the cake, etc.
Post # 36
I’m getting married at Disneyland and a few work people have asked me “oh, is Mickey Mouse going to be the one marrying you?”
Post # 37
From my mom’s aunt “Will you move the wedding date so my daughter and her fiance can make it?”
My mom’s aunt has a knack for stirring up all sorts of drama. She lives in another country and thinks the world revolves around her. So, when my mom called to tell her the date she said she won’t be able to make it. I emailed her daughters separately to invite them, and turns out that her younger daughter’s fiance has shift work that is difficult to reschedule and is working that weekend. The daughter (I think she’s my aunt even though we’re the same age) told me they can’t come either. No big deal, we’ve only seen each other 2-3 times in our lives. Turns out, my mom’s aunt called my mom and started saying how her future son in law has this incredible position somewhere, and won’t be able to take time off and asked if I will move the wedding date so they can come. When my mom told me this I almost fell out of my chair.
Post # 38
@lealorali: Ha! That’s my favorite so far!!
Post # 39
@Amayansong: people on FI’s side don’t know how to have fun without being drunk, so about 4 of them have asked me if there will be an open bar. -_-
also, a few people have asked if we’re ‘doing any jewish stuff’ because FI’s mom is jewish. other than that, not really, yet!
Post # 40
@jasn: I’ve asked before who is invited to the wedding that I know for logistical reasons. I don’t want to talk about your wedding to people who weren’t invited and make them feel left out. Plus, depending on the wedding location, I’ve split carpooling and hotel rooms with other guests.
Again, the open bar situation can determine whether or not I drive to a wedding or ride with someone.
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Post # 42
So many… but the recent winner has to be one of my BMs.
Bridesmaid or Best Man: During the church ceremony, will there be seats so we can sit down at any stage?
Er… yes. It would be a very strange church if it didn’t have seating…
Post # 43
My BFF got married. After changing her “status” and me posting a few pictures of the wedding, a mutual friend asked her “You got married? Why wasn’t I invited?”
Well, first, you saw the pictures and can count, so you must have known there were a grand total of EIGHT guests.
Second, you only know the bride through me and have hung out with her maybe ten times, always in big groups.
Third, the last time **I** saw you was THREE YEARS AGO. I have no idea how long ago the bride saw him, but it was definitely before that.
Post # 44
When I was showing one of my good friends a picture of my dress she asked me, “so are you going to fix your hair and wear makeup?”
I don’t wear makeup as part of my normal routine and I generally wear my hair in a ponytail or just wear it down and natural. But obviously if I’m going somewhere special I’ll fix myself up appropriately. So yes, for my wedding, when everyone will be looking at me and I will have loads of pictures taken, of course I will fix my hair and wear makeup. What did she think I was going to do, just show up ungroomed?
One of my friends jokingly paraphrased the question the best: “are you going to look like shit like you always do?” I feel like that was what she was implying. I don’t think she meant to be rude, but I was taken aback.
Post # 45
We’ve been engaged since December 2012. Fiance was asked by his mother if I was pregnant just a few weeks ago. Not only is this totally random and unfounded, but I’m 35. I’ll be 36 when we marry. Neither of us are certain we want children. And IF we do, I’m getting my degree first. So ya…
When we announced we were going away, just us 2, so there would be no wedding party and no guests.
One of my good friends said, “Can’t you just get married in (our city) so I can come? I know you don’t like it and don’t think any places are pretty, but I’m sad I won’t get to see you and if you get married there, I can come”.
When I said that wasn’t an option, she said, “Well, can you just invite me as your witness?”
Right. Because I would forgo my own personal dreams of a location to make you happy. Annnnnd out of all of the people important in my life, YOU are the one person I would invite, say, over my own mom, to see me get married.
And then, because we weren’t getting enough rudeness from people…
FI’s aunt had the audacity to ask him (in front of me) when he said we were getting married in the Caribbean, “How come you don’t go to Hawaii?”.
Ummm, because that’s where he went on his HONEYMOON with his first wife? Seems like a great reason. And they had even stayed at his aunt’s condo!!
Post # 46
about a dozen people have asked me if I’m excited. umm, I get to celebrate uniting with by best friend for the rest of our lives… naah, I’m dreading my wedding day!