Post # 47
@LilDrAnya: I think that’s might just one of those small conversational questions like “How are you doing?” or “Eating breakfast?” when they are looking at you eating breakfast. I would assume it’s more of a that than a question about your mental state. I would enjoy the attention and move the conversation on. 🙂
Post # 48
I’ve had an acquaintance (old high school friend of FI) ask me, after meeting me for the first time ever, if she could be a bridesmaid. Umm…. no…..
Post # 49
@Rachel631: this sounds like a valid question to me…? usually the wedding party has to stand for the whole ceremony.
Post # 50
Thankfully I haven’t had any ridiculous questionss from adults yet. But I have a little brother who is 6 years old. He was 5 when we got engaged and asked him to be our ring bearer. He asked what that meant and we told him “you carry the rings up to the altar”. He gave us a strange look and said “Well I guess, but why can’t you just carry your own rings??”
Post # 51
@JLR1982: Not at a church wedding, they don’t! Those beasties regularly take over an hour. You’d have people fainting if you made them stand for that length of time. She surprised me, because she’s been to British church weddings before, and they won’t have made them stand the whole time.
… but of course, that isn’t quite what she asked. She asked if there would be seats/a place to sit (implying that all of the guests might have to stand for the whole thing). It’s just difficult to get over the nuances when I only have text and I can’t show you her non-verbal cues as well!
Post # 52
I’ve been asked TWICE if I’m wearing white or if I “have to wear another color”. Once was my super conservative, dumb adult cousin, and once was FMIL! Which, Future Mother-In-Law has NOOOO room to talk because at her wedding my Fiance was her ringbearer…because when Future Mother-In-Law got pregnant, Future Father-In-Law was married to another woman.
Post # 53
My fiance is Irish and I am American. While I was talking about some american wedding traditions, a family member very firmly asked me: “Well is this going to be an Irish or an American wedding? – stating that she had been assured it was going to be an Irish one.”
Post # 54
Ready..My grandmother asked “doesn’t she want to date around?” no grandma…no.
Post # 55
I HATE the questions about money. My hairdresser flat out asked me “How much did you spend on your dress?”
I have also had people ask me how much it is per plate and what our total wedding budget it. Why is it any of your business??
Post # 56
I was talking to my nan about the hotel they are probably staying in etc . and the other day she bought it up and was like’ oh u can do our booking for us we need 3 rooms for 5 people and 2 taxis to and from the reception and hotel so u can book those for us too’
I was like seroiusly! like i dont have enough to do!!!
luckily my aunt stepped in and said er no we will sort that!
Post # 57
@Sea_Ashley: My boss constantly keeps asking me how much things cost… the ring, the dress, the venue, everything! She asked me yesterday how we’re planning on paying for it all in such a short time. It’s so rude!
My boss keeps asking me if she’s invited even though I’ve told her so many times that it’s a small wedding.
My Future Sister-In-Law has had some crazy requests in regards to the wedding and her kids (the flower girl and ring bearer) but I’m dealing with those.
My fiance’s niece (she’s 3) asked why we’re having a bear in the wedding when we said her brother is the ring bearer. That was cute!
I’ve been asked a few times if I’m pregnant. I’m not, but with a 5 month engagement I can understand why they would ask that.
Post # 58
When we started planning, we were thinking about getting married up north, where most of FI’s family is. FMIL’s reaction was, “Ughhh can you just get married here?! How am I supposed to get my hair done up north?!” Um, do it yourself like I, the bride, had planned to?
We’ve been asked a number of times about having a church wedding. Fiance and I are Agnostic (something we don’t advertise to certain family members). We never attend church. We decline invitations to go to church (except for weddings and funerals), and always have. We are not suddenly going to change our minds or have a church wedding (or a religious ceremony at all, as people will find out). To me, that’s a ridiculous question to ask (especially because it’s been upwards of 20 times)–knowing that we do not attend church ever, why in the world would anyone think that we would have a church wedding?
Post # 60
My craziest one was when FI’s grandmother asked me if it would be a ‘white wedding’. Super, super awkward. It was over skype, like, the day we told them we were engaged. I just got weird and said ‘Umm..I really like…the more…interesting colours…like blush…and cream…’
One of the most awkward moments of my life, for sure.