(Closed) What's the most ridiculous thing someone's asked after you got engaged?

posted 5 years ago in Engagement
Post # 31
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018 - Anthem Golf & Country Club

If I’m pregnant. My Fiance and I have been together 6 years… Somehow, people think that because we have been together for so long without marriage yet, that the only reason we’re getting married now is because I’m pregnant. For some people I think they might be joking, but it’s still kind of irritating. 

 

I’ve also had a few customers at my work ask when we’re having kids. As if it’s their business. Oi vey. 

Post # 33
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

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whoami :  Yep. People totally are pushing us to have more people so we can get more gifts. Because that’s what I want – a bunch of people I’ve never met and who haven’t seen either of us since we were children there. 

 

Oh, and yeah, definitely have gotten the “is she pregnant?” question. We just got a new puppy so that should squash those, but that one is the worst, especially since we are CFBC.

Post # 34
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Helper bee

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mrshmc1204 :  +1 forever. I have had sooo many people that I barely knew to begin with assume they are invited? Like yo…no. 

Post # 36
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018 - Anthem Golf & Country Club

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whoami :  Neither can I. I often tell people I am never ever ever having children and they usually shut up. It’s not the truth but it’s not really their business either. 

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

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whoami :  Ya they said wow that place must be an expensive venue and then they googled it and it came up and showed the price then they went yikes what is your whole budget it must be at least $50K… super awkward 

Post # 39
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018 - Anthem Golf & Country Club

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whoami :  I do get that response about half of the time. I DO NOT understand people’s sense of entitlement to private information like that. It’s one thing to discuss it with family or friends, which I’m usually open with, but perfect strangers? It’s ludacris. To all the Bees that have felt this lack of sensitivity, I’m sorry. Goodness, it’s frustrating!!

Post # 40
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

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futureblagdon2018 :  Except this is <u>exactly</u> why people ask people who say aren’t having children when they are having children or tell people who are CFBC that they will change their minds/have them eventually – because they know people who said “never” who did not mean never who did have them. I agree it is personal and not their business, but there is somewhere between saying “we are starting tomorrow” and “never never never” if the latter is not true.

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whoami :  Sorry you are getting so many intrusive questions OP! I don’t recall getting anything like that (maybe I did but I just chose to ignore them and pretended I did not hear so cannot recall them!)

Post # 41
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: Beach

I get asked about kids even before the proposal then when I say we are not having kids one stupid girl said “oh you can be an awesome auntie”! F off forever. The kids thing is so rude!!! I actually have health issues and its not an easy answer. I haven’t had the guts to say to these people I can’t you jerk. I would love to though. Teach them a lesson. It’s always so out of the blue too. Like getting coffee at the break room “hey when are you having kids?” I so want to say “when will you not be stupid?” Or “hey did you ever think about why you had kids?”. 

We are also eloping to an amazing destination that takes a lot of planning so it’s not until next year but I’m only telling immediate family and my best friends. I don’t want to deal with the follow up questions and opinions and I think it’s takes away the excitement. We’ve only been engaged two months so when people ask when is the wedding I say probably next year and they seem very confused and say “you haven’t picked a date?” I feel like saying yeah I know you want me to say I’m having a big a** wedding and even if I was I’d have to get another job to pay for it so do you think weddings grow on trees? Then I think well if they can’t even handle my answer of sometime next year I certainly don’t want to hear what they think of my real plans. Keep in mind these are mostly co workers and people I don’t really care about. My immediate family is supportive and my best friend did the same thing. 

Post # 42
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Busy bee

Im 22 and my Fiance is 23. Weve both gotten “why are you getting married so young” but more him than me because I guess it’s expected of guys to have wild times before settling down? I never know what to say to that question..because we want to…?  

Or the similar “what’s the rush” question. We’ve been together over 6 years and lived together for 3 so I wouldnt consider that rushing into marriage. But before we set a date and started planning it was questions like “when are you finally going to set a date” so it’s damned if you do and dammed if you don’t

Post # 43
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

My most ridiculous question was how much my ring cost. I’ve gotten that one like three times and I’m so caught off guard every time.

Also, my dad keeps saying we “need to make babies as soon as possible” or “when you two have the kids next year” and it irritates me more than I’ve ever been in my entire life. Like…we’re ENGAGED and you’re already talking about children, and nevermind the fact that you just ASSUME we want to have them. He says shit like this every single time we see him now and he knows I don’t like it. I love my dad to death but when he does this I wanna punch him in the gut, lol.

Post # 44
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2017

“Why that month (March)?” 

We live in Northern Europe, and “everyone” gets married in May, June or July. That doesn´t mean we have to do it! We wouldn´t have picked a month we didn´t like. 

 

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