Post # 17
I am having my baby shower this Saturday and I am hoping to get the essentials or “boring” things. Things *I* would want (I am also a first time mom), breastfeeding accessories, bottles, DIAPERS :), wipes, medicines/thermometer, bouncy seat. We are not revealing the gender until after the baby shower because we did not want a bunch of “cutesy” things like a million blankets and newborn clothes that can only be worn for a few weeks if we are lucky. So if you go the clothes route get bigger sizes. A gift card is always nice too, in case there was something they really needed that they didn’t get. I second (or third?) the bumbo idea, I’ve used them a lot with other kids and love it! Good luck…let us know what you decide to get 🙂
Post # 18
Diapers, clothes(my favorite to buy and get), if you can get a bigger items like stroller, baby gates, high chair etc that they have registered those are very helpful.
I liked my bumbo seat and boppy pillow too but they weren’t what I was most excited for.
My favorite presents were a really nice quilted baby blanket( big enough it’s a toddler blanket still) and some of the classic books.
Post # 19
Yeah books are a great present. I read to my DD all the time when she was a baby!
Post # 20
Books, diapers or baby wash/shampoo/rash cream.
Post # 21
I would say to get them something/ some things off of their registry and just stick to that.
My baby shower for our first child is in a month and my husband and I spent a lot of time considering all of the things we really need (crib bedding, car seat, baby monitor etc.) My biggest fear is I will get a lot of very nice cute clothes and blankets, but then not what I actually NEED for the baby. If the essentials are too expensive, then maybe just a gift card. They can put the card toward some of the things they need.
Hope this helps!
Post # 22
I think you’d be fine with anything off the registry, but speaking as someone putting together a baby registry (without a baby yet), I personally would appreciate the essentials–meaning things that under most circumstances are the most likely to be used. Stuff that falls under this category are:
$$$: strollers, carseats, cribs, crib mattress, baby monitor
$$: crib sheets, changing pad (if asked for) + changing pad covers, burp cloths (a lot of parents I know use cloth diapers–the cheap kind like Gerber’s for this), receiving blankets, diapers (cloth or disposable)
$: baby rectal thermometer, baby nail clip, nasal aspirator (although some parents can score this at the hospital), wipes
In general, you can’t go wrong with anything the couple has specifically asked for. However, if you’re concerned about getting the most mileage out of your gift, remember that the couple doesn’t know what kind of baby they’re going to have yet, so there are certain purchases that end up being more of a gamble, use-wise. Some babies love swings, some prefer bouncers, some hate being strapped up in anything; some use pacifiers and some don’t; some moms take to breastfeeding no problem and need the pump and nipple lotion and all that and others don’t take to breastfeeding and need bottles and formula. Toys and clothes are lovely, but most parents receive a lot of that stuff.
If the couple has their cloth diapers figured out in terms of brand, then go ahead and buy a few of those (a lot of parents also use a toilet sprayer and fancy baby detergent if cloth diapering–look for those on the registry as well), but if you wanted to attach a small package of regular disposables to your gift, I’m sure they’ll end up getting used. Every couple I know that cloth-diapers uses disposables for going out and travel anyway–and sometimes their newborns are too small for the fabric kind and have to wear disposables while they grow.
Post # 23
PS–I forgot the list of “don’ts,” which I’m copying from a friend of mine who’s had 2 children 🙂
– no clothes that are dry-clean only or air-dry or in need of special care and ironing (whomever makes such things for babies should be put in shackles. Not only is that a sign that whatever it is will be too fussy and startched, but they’ll get tossed into the wash and dryer anyway)
– socks for children who can’t walk
– shoes for children who can’t walk (why??)
– clothes for newborns that you have to pull over the head; most moms prefer snaps
– “keepsakes”: figurines, expensive dolls, silver spoons (traditional, and sweet, but we sorta leave that one up to Dear Aunt Edna). And think very long and hard about whether you want to add to the ever-growing shower-gifted monogrammed blanket collection
– anything alive
I also didn’t like getting parenting books that I didn’t ask for as gifts (receiving them as hand-me-downs from moms who loved them is a different matter). Something about receiving “Marsupial Mom” or “Parenting the X Way” or “Raising Vegan Kids” rubbed me the wrong way–like a passive-agressive hint.
Post # 24
I never buy newborn clothes, but usually aim for 3-6 months. The few friends who I’ve done this for have always told me how grateful they are because the babies grow so quickly that sometimes they are caught short (literally) with clothes that fit. I have seen a few ask for vouchers to one particular baby store or supermarket so that they can stock up as they need new things for the baby.
Post # 25
Anything from the registry will be helpful for them – they chose it for a reason 🙂
I was lucky that at my shower 2 weeks ago I received very little off our registry, but surprisingly didn’t get many gift cards or clothes. It was the same people who were at my bridal shower less than a year ago, so I thought some of them would shop the same way.
If nothing on the registry jumps out at you, a Target/Walmart/whereever they shop gift card is awesome – there’s always lots of little stuff needed that you can forget about, or things people feel funny about registering for (like shelves or a trash can or curtains for the nursery).
Post # 26
wash cloths and diapers were big ones for me! and disposable changing pad covers, which I thought I’d NEVER use, I ended up using at every resturant/public space I took my baby and didnt want to use the nice one that came with my diaper bag.
I never got much use out of swaddles or slings/wrap carrier, my son HATED to be swaddled or anything that resembled a swaddle, lol
Post # 27
You can NEVER have to many baby wipes.
Post # 28
seriously. Even when they’re like 6…you can use them to wipe their hands and mouth haha
If it were me: I’d want diapers,wipes and burp cloths and washcloths….or a big ticket item. Most of my friends told me they are going in on my $300 breat pump together or my $200 stroller & carseat set. So, you could do that! Giftcards to the place of registry also works!
But in all honesty if all I got were diapers and wipes at my shower I would still be a happy camper:)
Post # 29
Seriously, while I appreciated all the cute stuff, the best stuff I got was the most useful stuff. Baby diapers (pampers swaddlers size 1) baby wipes, breast pads, dreft, blankets, and gift cards to buy stuff from the store. A friend gave me a laundry hamper full of all that stuff..she made it look like a giant gift basket. 🙂
Post # 30
exactly. I have 3 kids ages 5, 4, & 2. Baby wipes come in handy in all situations.
Also diapers, especially in the bigger sizes since they grow out of newborns so quickly. 1’s & 2’s mainly. That is what most of my family did for me.
Post # 31
Diapers, bottles, wipes, and basics like that – a stroller or car seat (obviously expensive, so maybe as a group gift) would be used a lot too. SO many people buy toys, clothes, and blankets, and while that’s nice, at the newborn stage they grow so quickly, you can only use so many blankets, and they don’t use toys yet. I didn’t find toys helpful until my son was almost one, really.