(Closed) What’s the most you’ve ever paid for a BM dress … AKA … is my FI crazy?

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 91
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Buzzing bee

That’s more than my wedding dress! I would say $150 max if they have no say, and $200 if they get to choose.

Post # 92
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I honestly would drop out of a wedding if a bride asked me to pay more than 300. Seriously. There is NO way I would pay 700. I would be insulted if anyone even asked me to pay that much.

Post # 93
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Busy bee

Sorry to your Fiance but $700 is just not okay. I’m shooting for under 100 with mine, and as a bridesmaid I would probably pay up to 200 (the price of my wedding gown) but I wouldn’t be too happy about it :p. I would not pay 700 in a million years, even if I did really love the couple

Post # 94
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Yeah.. your Fiance is crazy.  I would be uncomfortable asking my BMs to pay over 200 for a dress… and all four of them are financially stable.  It’s just not worth it.  Ask him if he’s going to make all of his groomsmen BUY a $700 tuxedo instead of renting.

Post # 95
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

The most I have paid was about $145. My BM’s dress is $136 and I still wish it were cheaper. $700?? As beautiful as most dresses are, it’s still a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress. I have been in 5 weddings, and I have never ever worn a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress again. All the brides tried to convince me I could, but in my opinion, there are few places where I can wear a candy-colored dress, where one of my friends will probably be wearing the same exact thing. I think the cheaper the better, b/c you can’t guarantee they’ll wear it again. (I’m also not paying for my BMs dress, they are. If it were a $700 dress, I know I’d have to buy it rather than ask them to buy it.)

Post # 96
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

I almost laid an egg when I spent 190 on a bridesmaid dress. 700 would leave me out of the wedding.

Post # 97
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@helenberrycrunch: ditto. Thank goodness my friend picked up the tab for her choice for our dresses ($180ish) or I would have had to politely decline. 🙁

If I was asked to buy a $700 dress, I’d probably tell Mr. Godiva that I not-so-politely decline.

Godiva- they’re gorgeous gowns, but just too much $$ for a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress (even if they could/chose to wear it again). Maybe find some replica gowns, or have the Mr. help out with funding them through saving his fun money, like another poster suggested. 

Post # 98
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

First I think, like everyone else here, that $700 is too much for a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress. I wouldn’t even ask if I were you. 

BUT, I do find it really sweet how he is picking out Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses? That is.. rare. At least let him know that his efforts are appreciated otherwise he might feel like his input doesn’t matter. And it is a cute dress!

Post # 100
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Eeek. The most I’ve ever spent on a bridesmaid dress is $150 (before alterations). I’m no cheapskate, but I would’ve spent $700 ONLY for my best friend. The gowns are beautiful and I’m sure the quality is stellar, but I think it’s too much to spend when I will already be paying for showers, bachelorette parties, etc.

Post # 101
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m not sure I would’ve even spent $700 on my best friend.  I already feel guilty asking my bridesmaids to pay $120, and by the time they’re done with alterations, about $175.  But boy are those dresses beautiful!

Post # 102
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@pengoala: Hehe, I get constant guilt in this process. I’ve offered to cover anything beyond $150 if we just happen to fall for anything out of budget. I’m also buying all their accessories, and covering their plane tickets.

Post # 103
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Sugar bee

Yes he is nuts! 

No one should be asked to spend $700 to be in your wedding.  The dress is nice, but unless you have somewhere really really fancy to wear the dress again it will be useless after the wedding.

I don’t think you should even approach the bridesmaids about possibly getting it.  It will put them in a really awkard position.  They are obviously close to you and care about you, and will want to make you happy. I think asking them they will stretch themselves trying to please you on your wedding day.  i would never want/expect my bridal party to do that for me.  It’s just too much.  It would definitely make me reconsider our future friendship. 

 

Post # 104
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

To be perfectly honest, I was asked a few years ago to spend $350 on a bridesmaids dress, and $75 on shoes and was seriously annoyed. If it had been anymore than that I probably would have seriously considered dropping her wedding. All of her bridesmaids were thereafter just annoyed everytime a wedding related event came up saying “I’ve already spent over $400 dollars dressing myself for her wedding. Now she expects me to spend X amount on dinner at her bachelorette party, and X amount on her bridal shower..” In short, her wedding turned into everyone being annoyed by the expense instead of a fun event.

  As for the dress being something one might wear again, unless your bridesmaids will be attending really fancy black tie events in the furture, it is not something that they will wear again. In fact, in my experience, no one ever really wears a floor length bridesmaids dress ever again.

Post # 105
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My girls paid $79 for their dresses from Victoria’s Secret. Look for a knockoff.

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