Post # 1
- Wedding: March 2005 - Westside Loft, New York
I’ve only been a bridesmaid/moh once. Even though the bride paid for my hair, makeup, and dress, I paid for most of the bridal shower, Vegas bachelorette, shower gift, bachelorette party gift, and wedding gift and it ended up costing over $1000. I don’t regret it at all, but I don’t think I’d want to be a bridesmaid too often either.
What’s the most you’ve ever spent as a bridesmaid?
Post # 3
I’ve been a bridesmaid over 10 times but I’ve only been moh once.
Most of the time it cost me about $150, but there were a few exceptions:
- I was a bm for my friend Deanna and we had all put $100 deposit on our dresses that were being made, then she called the wedding off and 6 months later she got engaged to another guy — so we all had to buy another dress! The second dress cost us $150.00 so that was $250.00 spent just on dresses. After shoes, gifts, and bachelorette I think I spend just under $400.00
- I was moh for my best friend, she paid for the dress and jewelry, so I only had to pay for my shoes and makeup, but I also threw her a "wedding shower" because she wanted it to be for her and her fiance. The wedding shower alone cost me $300 and then I spent another $100 on her bachelorette and another $100 on her wedding gift. So all in all, her wedding cost me about $550.
Post # 4
about $1500: dress, shoes, hair/make-up, jewelry, vegas joint bachelor/bachelorette party (car rental, hotel, food/drinks, other expenses), lingerie party, shower gift, wedding gift – it was pretty brutal. 🙂
Post # 5
I have only been a Bridesmaid or Best Man once. My dress was not expensive (60ish), but alterations were brutal ($80). Other costs included my part of Vegas which I was able to attend (~100ish), flight home ($120), shoes ($80ish), gift ($100ish) so about $600 give or take. My friend tried really hard to keep costs down, but it was hard since the other BMs were all working full time and I was the only student. I ate a lot of ramen for a few months, but I was happy to be there for her on her wedding day!
Post # 6
Wow, I got away cheap! I was a bridesmaid for my cousin a few years ago; due to a bit of a strange family situation, my grandmother ended up paying for everything. I only payed for the gift. More recently, I was a bridesmaid for a close friend. There were six of us and we split the cost of her $600 shower and the six of us plus a few more friends split the cost of her bachelorette party (I think around $50 a piece). I purchased a gift for the shower and a personal gift for the bachelorette party. She bought our dresses, shoes, jewelry, and paid for our hair; I paid for my make up. All in all it was less than I know a lot of others have spent; I’m trying to be very cautious of what my BMs will have to pay.
Post # 7
Wow, I’ve never been a bridesmaid, but seeing numbers like these almost makes me hope that I never get asked to be one!
Post # 8
I would say $2000 when I was Maid/Matron of Honor for my sister’s wedding. Dress and alterations (250), hair and makeup (200), bachelorette (500), shower (500), gifts for the couplee (700).
Another wedding I was in was more, but mostly due to travel for the wedding. Dress and alterations (200), vegas bachelorette (1000), flight to wedding and hotel (1000), gifts for the couple (250).
Post # 9
I have been a Maid/Matron of Honor 3 times and in 7 weddings, total.
I don’t like to recall the amount of money I spent… but one wedding I spent money on:
dress, shoes, hair, make-up, flight to ad from the wedding, hotel room for the weekend, 1 week bachelorette trip, Spa day for myself (just pedi and massage for me… bride got the works) and the bride, shower gift (flight to and from the shower), bachelorette t-shirt, drinks/food/etc for the bachelorette and shower, a wedding present…
The scary thing is I didn’t even realize how much I spent. It just seemed like the right thing to do.
Post # 10
Dress – $170, including alterations
Shoes – $30
Hair – $70
Plane ticket – $200
Hotel – $400
Bachelorette – $100
So…about $1k. And that was without a shower (which she didn’t have) or a big bachelorette (we just went out for dinner and drinks).
Post # 11
$1500 as Maid/Matron of Honor. I hosted a shower for the bride, and the bridesmaids didn’t kick in. (Actually, most of them didn’t even come, but that’s a separate story.) Then the bride picked a $200 dress that required $70 in alterations. It was a destination wedding, so I also had to pay for airfare ($550). Hair and makeup the day of, plus gifts, and I was at $1500. The sad part is that the bride really was trying – she paid for our hotel rooms and her mom paid for the bachelorette, and she let us wear shoes we already owned and gave us earrings to wear. It’s just an expensive endeavor whenever it requires airfare and a shower.
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2009 - Rancho Bernardo Inn
Ah I think I’m scared to add it up. There was a wedding I was in that only had 3 of us as bridesmaids/MOH so splitting the costs of shower/bachlorette added up really fast. I’d say $600-700. The other wedding I was in was close that as well. One wedding the bride bought everything for me and her mom wanted to throw the shower, so it was mainly just gifts I was paying for.
Post # 13
I’ve been a Maid/Matron of Honor twice and a bridesmaid once. The first wedding I was in didn’t cost anything except the wedding and shower gift. Needless to say I was the WORST bridesmaid EVER! Second wedding I spent a lot on the shower, dress etc.. But I will say more than money I invested my time. Two days of decorating, wrapping up last minute projects. UGH! It was a BIG TASK. In the end watching my amazingly beautifully cousin walk down the amazingly beautifully decorated aisle made it all worth it.
Post # 14
By the end of this year, I’ll have been a Bridesmaid or Best Man seven times. They average out to be about $1000 each one after all is said and done…not including my flight back to my hometown to be there for the wedding.
Post # 15
i’d say about $2000 including all air fare, dress, hair, shoes, printing of all shower invitations, all shower decorations, and wedding and shower gifts.
Post # 16
I am a bridesmaid for my friends wedding this June. I’m nervous to think how much I’ll end up spending after reading this! I worry all the time about how much my bridesmaids are spending – I know they want me to have the best time with all my parties and the wedding but I hope they are not going broke.