Post # 16
Also, if you’re not sure exactly when your fertile window is, you can just have sex every other day until your period arrives, then you know you’ve covered all your bases. This doesn’t tell you whether or not you ovulate, but if you do ovulate, you know you had sex during your fertile period.
Post # 17
I would try using OPKs and temping to see where your body is at before going to a doctor. At 4 months that’s probably what they’ll suggest anyway. Those O predictors online can be waaaay off and assume you have a “perfect” 28 day cycle with O on day 14. If you’re a few days off of that, you could be missing your fertile window completely.
Post # 18
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
I started with my OBGYN, but honestly she did all the tests wrong and we wasted a lot of time and money (and stress) on her. Some insurance plans will let you start with an RE right away while others require a referral from your OBGYN. I ended up contacting a local fertility clinic for an evaluation appointment. They wanted to do A LOT of testing right off the bat: ultrasounds, semen analysis, blood work, HSG, etc. I thought the HSG was a little unnecessary this early in the game. Also none of it was covered by insurance so it was going to cost a lot of money just to have all these tests done, which may or may not tell us anything. Then all the actual procedures would be more money still.
I actually got really lucky. Two days before I was supposed to schedule my HSG, I randomly ovulated after never once ovulating on my own in 6 months. I got pregnant that cycle. Those 6 months of TTC and failing were the longest 6 months of my life. I completely understand how you feel at 4 months. I started getting really antzy around then too. I am under 30 and was originally told I had to wait an entire YEAR before starting any testing. Since I was charting though and could prove I hadn’t ovulated in 6 months, they were willing to take me early. But then I didn’t need any of it and the old-fashioned way worked out after all.
I would highly recommend reading Taking Care of Your Fertility. It is a phenomenal book and can help you start charting your cycles so you have a better understanding of what’s going on in your body. Then if you can confirm that you’re not ovulating, you may want to seek help. But otherwise you could be ovulating and just not timing your BD right. Did you know that even if you do time everything correctly, you still only have a 20% chance of conceiving? It’s all a numbers game. You could be doing everything right!
Definitely try out charting before you seek professional help. It will save you a lot of time, money, and stress. Plus, it’s very informative and you’ll feel better just knowing more about your body. You can chart for free at FertilityFriend.com That’s what a lot of Bees here use. I joined the charting forums and everyone was so helpful explaining things to me when I had questions.
Post # 19
KeeKalena: thanks! i wasn’t sure if there was a fancy man version of GYN that he had to go to. Family doctor makes life easier…
Pingwing: good luck with TTC…..after everything we learn in health class its hard to accept that it is actually really hard to get pregnant when you want to! I’m finishing up my 6th cycle and my OB was open to starting to do CD3 blood work with me next week (I’m 29 years old) It’s not as intense as some of the RE stuff – but I think its a good place to start!
Post # 20
I was 29 when we started had just gotten off the pill. We tried for about 6 months and something wonky started happening with my cycles so I called the doctor and we started fertility testing on me (just bloodwork mainly). I was diagnosed with PCOS. After that it was testing for my husband (semen analysis) and more testing for me (an HSG). It was at that point that they told us we would most likely not conceive “the good old fashioned way”. The next step in our process was to try IUI with clomid. While waiting to do this we ended up getting knocked up the “old fashioned way”. But I would say if you think something is wrong go to the doctor – don’t wait for a set period of time just because you think you need to.
Post # 21
Thanks for all the responses. I am planning on starting to temp and use OPK this cycle. I wouldn’t do anything until at least February (which would be cycle 7-8), but having a general plan of attack is comforting to me. I’m not super duper worried yet (I know the stats), but it’s something I’m starting to think about.
I just got TCOYF, so looks like I have some weekend reading!
Post # 22
Pingwing: I would chart for a few months, just to have a better idea of what’s going on and what issues to bring up to the doctor.
I found out while charting that I ovulate really late in my cycle, like the week before my period. Another of my friends found out that she wasn’t ovulating, which she could just bring to her doctor and they didn’t have a waiting period of waiting cycles for her to chart.
Post # 23
I think it’s completely normal to be concerned. Getting pregnant is such an emotional thing. I’ve just started my second cycle TTC and its all I think about. I concur with everyone though, charting helps. I’ve just begun temping this cycle and am excited to see what I learn. It also gives you something productive to do every day and helps you feel like things are moving along. Good luck with it all!