(Closed) What’s the opposite of mom-zilla?

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

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Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

If it makes you feel better, my Mom seems like she could care less. She may not even fly in for it. She doesn’t even ask how it’s going. At least my Mister’s Mom has been really great about everything she even went to try dresses on with me.

It does suck! I never was the type to dream of my wedding day as a kid, but the one thought I had was that at least my Mom would be really siked. It’s weird because you think that’s what Mom’s are supposed to do.

Try not to let it bother you. Maybe you should not ask for her help so much if it’s only going to make you feel negleted. Both are waaaay easier said than done. I know.

 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@mareundarum:

Reading your entry I feel for you. YOu feel that in this process of wedding planning your mother should still be more involved, especially since you are the only girl . However, like anything wedding and party planning take a toll on people including the organizer (thats you).   You mention that your brothers wedding was last year so she is probably still recooperating from that wedding, if she had anything to do with it.

Your mother probably feels that you have a grip on things, and therefore feels that  she can let you be.  

Have you ask her for opinions on wedding items than gone the opposite direction.  I tend to ask my Fiance for his opinion and go against his so now he votes but says “I pick whichever one you don’t “

Not to be disrespectful but your mother still has a life other than a wedding going on just like you  try to sympathsize with her .

Take care and let us know what happens

 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@mareundarum: Sorry you are having to go through this.  Most brides want their moms to be there throughout the process.  Maybe you need to take her aside and let her know how you feel.  She may be so busy, that she has not realized what she is doing. Perhaps, she does not realize how close the wedding is at this point.  I would try and talk to her.  If you feel better, put your words into a letter or email.  This way, you can get everything out…without getting too emotional.  Also, could you future Mother-In-Law help? If she is near by, I am sure she would like to help out.  Lots of moms miss out on the fun stuff, because they only have sons.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Maybe you could set up a day (well in advance) for your mom to come to your place to help with wedding stuff. If she’s at your house, then she wont get distracted by the work she brings home. 

If that’s not a possibility, maybe just talk to her about it (not in a confrontational way!) Just mention that you’ve been really stressed and would really like her help/input on some of the wedding projects you are working on and ask her if she could set aside an afternoon to focus on that?

 

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