Post # 1
So i’ve never understood the point of having a wedding shower. I know what a bridal shower is obviously but this is different. Where I’m from I’ve noticed a lot of people having “wedding showers” where they rent out a hall and basically just have people come with gifts and food (usually a potluck). They will invite a ton of people, sometimes people that aren’t even invited to the wedding and just sit at a head table and open gifts. It reminds me of a baby shower but for adults lol. I’ve been invited to one and declined because I was working, but I thought it was weird to invite me to that and not the wedding. I feel like it’s just a gift grab- and aren’t the gifts supposed to be given at the wedding, not before. Do they expect shower gifts AND wedding gifts? Am I missing something here? Lol I don’t get it
Post # 2
I don’t think there’s really a difference between bridal and wedding showers except maybe the bridal shower is females only, but calling it a wedding shower opens it up for males and females. The entire purpose of a shower, regardless of what it’s called is to “shower” the recipient with gifts. If I bring a gift to the shower then I don’t typically bring a gift to the wedding. People who came to my showers didn’t bring gifts to both, nor was it expected. Generally people bring gifts to the wedding if they weren’t able to make the shower.
ETA: It is however incredibly rude to invite someone to a bridal/wedding shower if they aren’t invited to the wedding.
Post # 3
I think the difference is that it is co-ed
Post # 4
maritimebride2016: I always thought a wedding shower was synonymous with couples’ shower. That’s when, instead of having a bridal shower, the husband-to-be and his friends and male relatives are also included in the shower.
Post # 5
maritimebride2016: It’s not a thing here, but from what I have read, it is way to make a shower co-ed.
Normally, I decide how much I am going to spend on gifts for a couple and divide that up amongst shower and wedding gifts, if I am invited to both.
By the way, wedding gifts should always be sent before the wedding or delivered to the couple’s home after the wedding. Gifts brought to the wedding, whilst appreciated, are a nuisance to the couple/family. Someone has to take on the responsibility of ensuring that the gifts are all picked up at the venue, taken home and delivered to the bride and groom after the wdding.
Post # 6
FutureMrsBex: okay, it makes more sense if gifts are only expected at one and not the other. For bridal showers though, I’ve always brought a gift for that and a separate one for the wedding. I recently had a friend who posted on Facebook about their wedding shower being at a hall with the time , and inviting everyone to come on down to it this weekend. Clearly not everyone on her Facebook is invited to the wedding, so I was like whoa wtf. It was like a big announcement/open invitation.
Post # 7
julies1949: We always give cash in a card as a gift and just leave it in the card box at the wedding.
Post # 8
maritimebride2016: Many people do. The challenge is that someone still has to take responsibility for ensuring the safety of the gifts, especially cash.
When I decide to give a check, I mail it prior to the wedding.
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2017 - Mississauga Convention Centre
A wedding shower is co ed andusually guests give money unless the couple has a gift registry