(Closed) What's the point of a "wedding shower"?

posted 4 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
3757 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I don’t think there’s really a difference between bridal and wedding showers except maybe the bridal shower is females only, but calling it a wedding shower opens it up for males and females. The entire purpose of a shower, regardless of what it’s called is to “shower” the recipient with gifts. If I bring a gift to the shower then I don’t typically bring a gift to the wedding. People who came to my showers didn’t bring gifts to both, nor was it expected. Generally people bring gifts to the wedding if they weren’t able to make the shower. 

ETA: It is however incredibly rude to invite someone to a bridal/wedding shower if they aren’t invited to the wedding. 

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 9 months ago by  FutureMrsBex.
Post # 3
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I think the difference is that it is co-ed

Post # 4
341 posts
Helper bee

maritimebride2016:  I always thought a wedding shower was synonymous with couples’ shower. That’s when, instead of having a bridal shower, the husband-to-be and his friends and male relatives are also included in the shower.

Post # 5
47258 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

maritimebride2016:  It’s not a thing here, but from what I have read, it is way to make a shower co-ed.

Normally, I decide how much I am going to spend on gifts for a couple and divide that up amongst shower and wedding gifts, if I am invited to both.

By the way, wedding gifts should always be sent before the wedding or delivered to the couple’s home after the wedding. Gifts brought to the wedding, whilst appreciated, are a nuisance to the couple/family. Someone has to take on the responsibility of ensuring that the gifts are all picked up at the venue, taken home and delivered to the bride and groom after the wdding.

Post # 8
47258 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

maritimebride2016:  Many people do. The challenge is that someone still has to take responsibility for ensuring the safety of the gifts, especially cash.

When I decide to give a check, I mail it prior to the wedding.

Post # 9
1115 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Mississauga Convention Centre

A wedding shower is co ed andusually guests give money unless the couple has a gift registry

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