(Closed) What's the point of heels?? (Please read)

posted 8 years ago in Shoes
Post # 47
43 posts
  • Wedding: November 2016

I think it has to do with the formality of the event. Traditionally, aren’t flats kinda casual, and pumps more formal, and high-heeled sandals somewhere in between? And weddings today are more of a personalized affair, where “traditional/classic” is more of a theme/style, rather than the prescribed formula for most weddings. Basically, anything goes these days, so you can have a formal affair and wear flats and no one will know or care if they see them. 


I’m personally choosing to wear heels (once I find a comfy pair) because my Fiance is a full foot taller than me. I’m also plus-sized, so I’d like to think that a 4″ heel might elongate me, but in reality I know it won’t matter. And also because I feel sexy in heels 😛

Post # 48
291 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I feel sexier in heels, and it feels more formal to me. I’m not going to wear platforms, or really high heels. But I am going to try and find something comfortable and cute 🙂 I will be wearing my shoes around the house so my feet get used to them, hopefully no blisters will occur on the wedding day. Also I do plan on getting a cute pair of flats for when I can stand the heels!

I think it’s really a personal preference. If you can’t wear heels comfortably don’t! Get some cute flats 🙂

Post # 49
2587 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

I’ll be wearing heels just because for me they feel like they are ‘dressier’ – I wear flats every day, and only wear heels on special occasions.


Of course – I always make sure I have a pair of flats in my handbag for later in the night!

Post # 50
603 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would love to be able to wear heels….I have odd feet though and only ever wear flats…I could probably get through the ceremony in heels but couldnt walk far in them or dance in them etc…so annoying though as when I put a pair of heels on I feel quite elegant, sexy, etc…I think I may go for 2 pairs…heels and flats for after ceremony…

Post # 51
1364 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m wearing a 1 inch heel satin peep toe. I bought flats just in Case. For my first wedding I wore 3 inch heels. The next day I was in so much pain. Not this time. Live and learn. They’re just not for me. 

Post # 52
3194 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

it’s my understanding that wearing heels makes you walk more softly and stand up straighter. this could be crazy, but i’ve heard it from multiple bridal consultants and heard david tutera mention it on his show. (haha, troll). i personally walk really hard and strike with my heels, but i walk much more carefully in heels than in flats.

my Fiance is only 4 inches taller than me, so i got a low pair of heels. i normally wear 5-inchers when i go out, so this is a change and will take some getting used to ^.^

Post # 53
906 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’m wearing heels for several reasons:

1. I’m about 10 inches shorter than Fiance and I’d like us to look a bit more even in photographs and for dancing. Yes, I intend to wear heels all night.

2. It’s a formal event and dressing up (in my mind) involves heels. Flats are too informal. 

3. I love shoes! I own over 80 pairs right now and am thrilled to buy another beauitful pair!

It’s all about finding a comfortable pair, though. I’m thinking of splurging and getting a pair of Jimmy Choos that are genuinely comfortable and wearable in the future (i.e. not white satin). 

Post # 54
209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

A say, go for flats. What’s important is that you’re comfortable. I am planning to wear heels, but that’s so my bridesmaids won’t be taller than me, and because I have a slit in my dress, so I can show them off. Oh, and they will be clover/kelly green (if I can find them).

Post # 55
2151 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I think wearing flats to your own wedding is somewhat popular on the bee, but I have yet to see anyone do this IRL. Personally, I wouldn’t wear flats to anyone’s wedding, especially not my own. I feel like if my hair& makeup is done, and I’m supposed to be the most gorgeous of my whole life, wearing flats will not make me feel glamorous at all. They’re just not hot/sexy/formal enough for  a wedding, IMO…if you’re having a formal wedding.

ETA-I’m not all about wearing 4+ inch heels…I think a nice 3inch pair is perfect.

Post # 56
831 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I always feel like I’m clomping around when I wear flats, espcially the REALLY flat ballet type shoes. I just don’t feel graceful at all.

Wearing a heel makes me feel like I’m fully “dressed up”.  Mine are only 3 inches so they are pretty comfortable. I have what I consider to be flats to change into if it gets rough, but even those have a small wedge heel.

Post # 57
2103 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I wore heels because my dress was just a few inches too long without them and I didn’t want to pay somebody to hem it.

Post # 58
558 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I wore flats to my first wedding, and I’ll probably wear flats or a kitten heel to my second.  I have a bad knee, and weak ankles, and wearing heels of any type is a recipe for something to dislocate by the end of the night.  Flats can be formal.  And if there is any rule stating that they can’t, well.  It’s a rule I’m happy to ignore.  Heels are terrible for you.  Really.  And if you don’t like them and don’t feel comfortable in them, then don’t wear them.  It’s your wedding.  If someone wants to judge you and complain about you not having the “right” shoes on under your dress, then that’s probably someone you don’t really want to have at your wedding, either.  Wear what you like, what’s comfortable, and what makes you happy.

Post # 59
222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

i’m wearing heels because that’s what i’m most comfortable in.. call me crazy but i don’t think i own any heel/wedge under 4.5 inches..


that’s me and my personality so i’m going to wear them on my wedding day!

Post # 60
3370 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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@atlbride2013:  + 1

Pretty simple for me, really – I wear heels to be taller! I’m 5’4, so not short exactly, but I tend to think evening gowns/ball gowns with a lot of fabric tend to look better on a taller silhouette. Heels make me walk differently, hold myself differently and look/feel skinner. 

Post # 61
182 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Because 4’10”, that’s why. 

It’s not like anyone is coersing you into wearing them, wear whatever you feel is best for you.

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