Post # 17
We had a Destination Wedding on a Caribbean island. But we didn’t have a beach wedding, we had a garden wedding on top of an island. So I was dead set on getting a shoot in my dress on the beach, in the water, and on the shorelines. The dress didn’t get destroyed, ruined, demolished, insert ur favorite word. It was just CALLED trash the dress as a general term to describe an informal casual relaxed photo shoot outside of our wedding venue. in which case I might have gotten the dress more dirty around the hemline, and wet to the waist, in order to get the most amazing and exotic photos I could dream of. Ill be damned if we traveled 2500 miles to the Caribbean to get married and not get photos of us in our wedding attire on the beach.
Post # 18
I don’t understand the trash the dress thing either, to be honest. Many of the above examples (girl on horse, girl in the leaves, etc…) don’t come off to me as necessarily trashing (i.e. ruining) the dress. I think they’re really pretty, in fact. They show a bride in non-typical bridal settings, which I think is really cute and interesting!
I understand that others feel that since they bought it, it’s theirs to do with as they wish. Which, they are totally right! It’s yours, you bought it, your right to ruin it if you want.
I don’t have anyone that I plan on passing it down to so I’m going to donate it because I think there are too many ladies out there that would like a nice wedding dress but simply can’t afford it. If I can help make someone else feel as beautiful as I did on my wedding day, then I’d rather do that than ruin it just for the sake of a few extra pictures. To which, I can’t fathom even wanting to trash my wedding dress. It meant too much to me.
Post # 19
@SweetartMD: ahhh, I see the difference now! The second one is definitely extreme!
Post # 20
@rosie.jonesy.9: That’s very cute!!! I guess it wouldn’t be “trashing” the dress… the saying really throws me off haha
Post # 21
Personally I think it’s just one more expense created entirely by the wedding industry. No point to it other than spending even more money and indulging one’s need for attention.
Post # 22
@weddingbee098: I didn’t necessarily do a trash the dress, but I did a photoshoot (for free with my MIl otherwise I would never have done it) where I didn’t care if my dress got dirty, so I rolled on the ground, in a wheat field, and cuddled a smelly dog.
I often wonder why preserve it thought too becuase honestly my dress now hangs in my closet doing nothing but keeping all the items in the closet warm and hidden, lol. So either way you you crap away money for a dress in my opinion. Perhaps one day if I have a daughter I might rip the train off and have a blanket sewn or something, but otherwise it is in the closet doing nothing.
Post # 23
@weddingbee098: I think the point of Trash The Dress is making the statement “won’t be needing this anymore!” but I agree with all the bees saying it’s a bit silly. It’s definately done in Antigua but I won’t be doing it, I’d rather pass on my dress or donate it so that someone else can wear it. I got my dress second-hand so it’d be especially nice to give the dress onto someone else. Sharing it on
Post # 24
- Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta
@weddingbee098: Most brides don’t actually destroy the dress, just get it a little wet or muddy. Once you have it cleaned it is good as new.
I am soooo excited to do this shoot. I am a portrait photographer myself so the idea of the super dramtic photos gets me all giddy! It is another excuse to wear your dress, go to some locations you might not have had time for on your wedding day. I am so excited to stand near a waterfall and not worry about wrecking my hair or getting wet to get some wicked shots!
Post # 26
Honestly I think it’s selfish. There are a lot of charities that need wedding dress donations so that seems utterly wasteful just to fufill what seems like to be a temporary trend.
Post # 27
For a lot of peopel the point is to be able to take some really cool pics where you are not worried about damage to the dress sicne the day is already over. Often these include water (I’ve seen some amazing under water pics!) or dirty things like laying in fields.
I think the origional concept was to “trash” the dress to symbolize only one wedding…but let’s be honest, that’s sort of silly. Now it’s more like, “I want cool pics that I couldn’t get if I still had to take care of the dress.”
Post # 28
Trash The Dress is a rather misleading term for what most people do. It’s quite popular over here but very few brides actually trash their dresses to the point of ruination Instead, they have a more edgy sort of shoot. I think it’s quite a cool idea and while I don’t believe in waste and ruin for the sake of it, why not have more fun in what is probably the most expensive outfit most people will ever buy?
Post # 29
I’m going to trash my dress. I’m going to sew it, I’m going to wear it, I’m going to have an awesome day in it, I’m going to scavenge the train for fabric and harvest the lace, I’m going to celebrate my vow renewal in it, and I’m going to destroy it in a blaze of color and fun.
I get to not worry about ripping or staining it at the wedding. I get to not pay hundreds of dollars to have it dry cleaned post wedding. I get to have fun photos to remember it by. I won’t have a massive, fluffy huge ass dress taking up closet space.
Post # 30
@BeeG35: do you have any pics?
Post # 31
@rosie.jonesy.9: That’s a gorgeous picture. I don’t really understand the original concept of ‘trash the dress’ – where the dress is put through hellish conditions the next day seemingly for the sake of it – but I do like the idea of a more adventurous bridal shoot the day after the wedding. There’s a lot of really beautiful shots that we just don’t have time to do on the day of the wedding, so I’m also contemplating a shoot after the wedding.
Also, I can’t think of anything less flattering or romantic than me trudging through sand and sea water in a heavy wedding gown, looking like a drowned rat.