(Closed) What's the point of trashing the dress?

posted 8 years ago in Dress
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    I plan on TTD

    I did TTD

    I think it's crazy

    I wouldn't do it but I don't think it's strange if other people do it

  • Post # 62
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    It always makes me giggle to see people who care so much about what others do, when it doesn’t affect them.

    Post # 63
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    You know, at this point in planning and 3 weeks out from the wedding – I would love to do a TTD to give a huge F YOU to the wedding industry that has made life miserable during wedding planning.

    Post # 64
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    Bee Keeper

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    @Syzygy88:  The point is, people love to get all preachy about this topic. It is such a non issue, and it doesn’t really say anything about the person if they want to do a shoot, or if they decide not to. Everything about the bridal industry is a huge waste– yet people like to swoop in on this one fad and get all judgmental about it. It doesn’t make sense, it is like most things in life– if you like it, do it– if you don’t, then don’t! 

     

    Post # 65
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I have NO IDEA what to do with my dress afterwards, honestly. I will most likely just save it, like my mother did, in case anyone in the family wants it; otherwise I couldn’t stand to part with it. But I don’t have places to store it, I have a tiny apartment in NYC! So it may go to my mom’s house to live with her dress 🙂

    Post # 66
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

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    @Mrs_Amanda:  I agree and I truly don’t think the women who do TTD shoots are foolish/selfish. The act itself is stupid, like many aspects of modern weddings (as you said). I take issue with so much about the wedding industry and how women get brainwashed into spending tens of thousands on an event. So this fad is only one part of the whole deal for me.

    But, I’m not one of those “everyone is entitled to their opinions” people. I do plenty of stupid things. Just because I like/want to do them, doesn’t change the fact that they are objectively stupid.

    Post # 67
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @Aquaria:  A better question to me is, what is the point of keeping it? I’m not big on dust collectors and I only intend to get married once. If I renew my vows or get married again, it won’t be in the same dress. The whole reason we are having a ceremony to begin with is for pictures. The TTD pictures are beautiful so why not get as much “use” out of that dress as I can?

    That’s my thought process.

    Post # 68
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    The dress gets ruined during the wedding. All of my friends said their dresses ripped, people stepped on it, they were filthy, beads came apart. Whatever. 

    What DOESN’T ruin most dresses is getting in the water. Read reviews. Tons of brides say that they get into the water, rinse it off, and then hang it to dry and it looks good as new – some even wear them to the AHR.

    And really, most brides don’t do anything with that dress other than put it in a box and under their bed or at the bottom of their closet forever. Most daughters don’t want to wear their mother’s dress. Most people do not donate it. So, who cares what the bride does with the dress she bought with her own money???

    I kind of get insulted when people bring this up and think it’s “crazy” – I think lot’s of things other brides do are crazy. I think it’s insulting to say that. 

    Yes, I plan on doing a TTD. Most brides say it was really romantic and a wonderful and fun photoshoot. It’s different from the posed pictures you do with the whole family or even the groom after the ceremony. It’s just you, him, the photographer, and some fun and some great, artistic photos after. I can’t wait for mine – it’s what I’m looking forward to the most. 

    Post # 69
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I kinda trashed the dress, not really. I did a post bridal shoot in my 2nd wedding dress ($150 dress) although I didn’t trash it I did lay down in the grass and swing on a tree swing.

    But I totally get why brides do it, not sure why it bothers people so much if others do it lol


     

    Post # 70
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

    @Aquaria:  I agree with you 100%. It’s possible to do a post-wedding photo session that doesn’t ruin the dress – but completely trashing it is a little wasteful!

    Post # 71
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

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    @PromiseRooster:  Hey, I know you said you wouldn’t want to give it up (understandable) but I did a quick search and you could donate it:

    http://bridalgarden.org/

    http://www.bridesagainstbreastcancer.org/index.php/charity-wedding-gown-sales/upcoming-events/

    http://www.stanthonysbridal.com/St_Anthonys_Bridal_a_501c3_Organization/home.html

    http://www.bridesacrossamerica.com/Donations.html

    Post # 72
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

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    @Mrs_Amanda:  +100

    Selfish? That’s new. 

    Post # 74
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2019 - City, State

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    @Syzygy88:  Another good point. I think one main reason I wouldn’t do TTD myself is the same reason I wouldn’t do a “morning after” honeymoon shoot or anything else like that–I’d rather relax in the days following my wedding and enjoy not having to be photographed and just chill out with my husband without a photographer following me around.

    Post # 75
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I wish I had of done a TTD.   

    I don’t think it’s up to anyone to say its stupid, or selfish.   I love seeing TTD photos.  They look so amazing and to me it’s so artistic.   I’d rather have a pic of me and hubby in photos like that then in plain wedding photos that everyone does and have no personality to them.

     

    Post # 76
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I plan to wade my dress into the crystal clear Caribbean for the most unbelievable photos ill ever have taken. Don’t really care if anyone else thinks its stupid, trashy, wasteful, dumb, selfish, ridiculous, crazy, loco, or whatever new word gets the most reaction. My Fiance and I think its a great idea and we don’t have to marry anybody who doesnt like it. 

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