Rude comments I have gotten tend to run with the theme ‘are you even going to get married?’ ‘is your wedding ever going to actually happen’, and so on. Given that we have been engaged nearly 3 years and no official wedding date booked in yet, it kind of makes sense, but it still hurts, mainly when such a comment comes from family or a friend.
However one rude thing that something that someone has done, although I guess also said, is what FI’s cousin did/said, which I have mentioned before. She told us (well Fiance and Future Mother-In-Law, Fiance told me) that we had to have her daughter, who was about 3 or 4 at the time, as a flower girl and her son, who was 1, as a ringbearer. Frankly I hadn’t even thought about having a flower girl or ringbearer at all until that comment, and I was shocked. I think it came about partially because she still has a slight grudge against Future Mother-In-Law for not having her as a bridesmaid in my Future In-Laws wedding over 20 years ago. Future Mother-In-Law and Future Father-In-Law got married in a courthouse ceremony, and so I am not even sure how many even attended, they certainly didn’t have a wedding party.
And my sister and ex-BFF both insisted they would be my Maid/Matron of Honor, and I guess I wasn’t as shocked with them as I was with FI’s cousin, because I knew them better and their personalities. They almost got into an argument over it before I even had a chance to say anything. I told them how much that annoyed me and that it was my decision, given I was the bride, the one getting married, not them.
So I guess what FI’s cousin did annoyed me more. Your coworker’s comment is awful, ‘are you even old enough?’ Yeah not a nice thing to say.
ETA: Oh I just thought of another one, the receptionist at my optometrist LAUGHED when she saw my ring, asked if I was engaged and I told her yes and when the wedding would hopefully happen (at the time I thought it would be 2015). I am not sure which she was laughing at, the fact that I was engaged or that we were having a long engagement…
And we haven’t even started officially planning and booking things yet!