Post # 76
Hmmm… It has more been what people HAVEN’T said. We have been engaged over a year at this point and out of my fiance’s entire (large) extended family only one person has even acknowledged that we are engaged to our faces. It is my fiance’s second wedding and I think that that is a large contributor to the lack of enthusiasm, honestly.
Through the grapevine we have heard of comments like, “For a second wedding, do I have to bring a gift?”
I could add plenty more little pleasant lines like that, but I won’t. So… needless to say we are sticking to a very small wedding for just ourselves and a chosen few who are happy for us.
Post # 77
I got married at 21. When my mom told her best friend (who is also my boss) that I got engaged, she asked if it was because I was pregnant. I have never been pregnant and had a 14 month engagement. So no.
My DH’s best friend who was supposed to be a groomsman dropped off the face of the planet about a month before the wedding and didn’t show up to the wedding. That was sad. I felt bad for Darling Husband. The best friend is no longer a friend.
Post # 78
There are tons… the one thing that’s stinging me as we speak is my cousin (who I am close to) demanded to know “which other relatives arent invited to my wedding” since her sister (who I havent spoken to in like 10 years) isn’t invited.
Background: Our wedding is small (72 people) .. I have a bit more than half the list (say 38 and 25 are my immediate family – brothers, sisters, their kids and significant others)
Post # 79
shazzshazshz: Girl…that was the abridged version. We were having a conversation about changes that were going on in my life and how I felt like certain people suddenly didn’t seem interested in my life anymore. And her full comment was along the lines that “you already have the luxury car and your own house and your dream career and now you have the nerve to be engaged?! There are so many people who have their own issues. How can you expect somebody to be happy for you to be getting married and they can’t even get a date? That is SO selfish of you.” Then she threw in, “Another reason people may not be thrilled about your marriage is that you’re so young, people can tell you don’t really know what you’re getting into.”
Post # 80
gillykat824: I feel your pain. My mother turned her nose down at every idea I had reguarding the wedding, because it didn’t fit with “her” vision. Mind you, she wanted us to have a backyard wedding with KFC catering and kegs for alcohol. Don’t get me wrong, they can be beautiful but that’s not what I wanted. She just couldn’t wrap her head around the fact that I wanted an “actual” wedding [her words, not mine].
Eventually I cut her out of everything.. she hardly knows of any details and still thinks im doing some ideas that I decided not to do. Oh, well.
Post # 81
Right after we got engaged I had FI’s sister(who is also engaged) tell us that we can’t get married the same year she does because it is selfish and will ‘impede with her life.’ *eyeroll*
The other one is “aren’t you married yet?” um no I just barely got engaged.
Then the other one is just acquaintances and clients going “we better f**ing be invited to the wedding!” um over my dead body I don’t even like you.
Post # 82
I think the rudest comment I’ve ever received about my relationship is that it isn’t “really a relationship”, because we are LDR. regardless of our past together and how long we have been friends, it is a “fake” relationship because we’re not in the same state.
Post # 83
I hated when ppl said “dont do it”
Post # 84
Overjoyed: Nice “friend” she is… It would selfish of people to NOT be happy for you just because they can’t get a date.
“Another reason people may not be thrilled about your marriage is that you’re so young, people can tell you don’t really know what you’re getting into.”
Stupid assumption >:(
Post # 85
Sakari87: Oh my god, this sounds like my old housemates parents situation.
They’re both Italian and moved to England in the 80’s. When they got married (around the early 90’s) they decided to get married in the big Italian Church in London where they went every Sunday, they both lived here and all of the Husbands family lived here.
However the wife’s family REFUSED to fly, what an hour? Over to England for the wedding. Kicked up the biggest fuss. They insisted that if they were going to get married they had to come back to Italy for the wedding.
In the end they got married in London in the place that was special to them, then a month later flew over to Italy to have a massive party with every 4th cousion invited. Her mum talks about how wierd it was to put her wedding dress back on a month later, and how the wedding photos are all a little strange because theyre in two locations. Apparently when they had the party in Italy people kept comming upto her all like ”big night tonight aye?” *wink wink nudge nudge* because she was a good Italian girl and waited until her wedding night. She wasn’t really sure how to respond to that.
Post # 86
CherryAndWhite: Ahahahahah!!! You made me crack up!!! Yeah, sounds like such a similar situation, it’s almost nice to know you’re not alone 🙂 We’ll be heading back in 2016 for my mum’s 50th (can’t afford to go any sooner, the tickets are sooooo expensive!) and will have a good catch up with all family, friends and 4th cousins. Don’t think I’ll wear a wedding dress since it will be about a year and half after the wedding but maybe still something white and nice. I understand that a wedding isn’t only about you but also your families and I know that some people wanted to attend but just can’t due to the financial situation over there and I feel it’s fair to do something nice later on so that they can be involved as well. But please don’t ask me if it will be “a big night tonight aye?”! 😉
Post # 87
Just a couple days ago my sister texted me to let me know that my wedding colors are ugly and going to look terrible. She then informed me that she had picked out “good”colors and told me what my wedding colors had been changed too.
I nearly blew a gasket. And to make it better she is refusing to back off about it. She’s brought up my new colors twice now.
Post # 88
- Wedding: February 2015 - Backyard
Fiance called his parents to say we were engaged and all they said was “oh….”
aaaaaaannnnndddddd it all went down hill from there!