(Closed) What’s the rule on this?

posted 11 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I totally agree that people should NOT shy away about putting a big ticket item on the registry. For example, we’re having a work shower in two weeks, and I would like the associates (law firm) in our practice group to go in together to get something, but our co-worker registered for hardly anything over $100. With 6 of us, there aren’t many good options.

Boy, I need to figure this out….

Post # 18
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1995 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I definitely know what you’re feeling.  I felt anything above the standard cheap items were seen as greedy.  I’ve gotten over that since some of our big ticket items have been purchased (yay!).  Don’t feel guilty for being a little greedy.  Its okay.

On the other hand don’t go over board.  I’ve looked at some friend’s registries and gone WOW – they are extraordinarily greedy it seems.  Who registeres for 2 (sets of 12 each) china patterns?  Their registries combined easily equal 15K.  No joke.

Post # 19
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5787 posts
Bee Keeper

I actually bought a patio set (glass top table,6 chairs and umbrella)  for my daughter’s shower,along with a multitude of other gifts. I think its a great thing to have on your registry.

I just saw the registries of someone’s daughter and I was pretty shocked at the items on it. $1300. for a set of pots, $1000. for knives, every piece of Waterford that’s made, $700. sheets,etc…..then there was BB&B & WS and a honeymoon registry. Glad I’m not invited to the wedding as I’m sure my gift wouldn’t be acceptable…and I’m pretty generous!

Post # 20
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

As long as there’s not a ridiculous amount of those “dreaming” items, I say go for it!

A friend of mine was married several years ago… they never edited their list, and they REALLY should have. TWELVE kinds of glasses… and she mentioned to me that she didn’t realize that the pattern she picked out was banded in platinum… at least $100 PER plate. Maybe for some people that’s reasonable, but most of her guests were at her same income level.

So, in a nutshell: Dream, but don’t be greedy. And edit!

Post # 21
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5867 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Honestly, some people will probably think that, but I doubt anyone will say anything and I doubt that they’ll remember for the rest of their lives.  You just have to ask yourself how much that bothers you that you might do something that open you upto idle gossip.  It’s really not that big of a deal.

Post # 22
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1523 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I felt that way too so we tried to put items with a range of prices on our registry. Our range of prices was $9.99 to $550!

I think provide people with price options, but also register for things that you really want. This is your wedding. Some people will want to buy you big items. We registered for a Dyson because Fiance really wants it. I was slightly mortified to have a $550 vacuum on our registry. Maybe this is nothing to some people, but I come from a very midwestern background where extravagance is not the norm. Anyhoo, FI’s parents bought us the vacuum for our shower present. So grateful for that and they were thrilled to get us something that we were so excited about!

So my opinion is register for expensive items, but also provide people with options at all price points. Also, register for all of those little items (spoons, carrot peelers etc). I love to attach those little gifties on the outside of presents as a little extra!

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